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baby_2009

Hi All,

My daughter only 3 months old is allergic to cats, this has meant we have give our cats away, we were very upset about this as we have had them for 2 years and have grown attached to them.

I saw an advert where someone was wanting 2 cats free, so I rang them up and they were extremely happy to take 3 cats, so I went to the home, the lady was extremly nice, so I gave her the cats and all the stuff we had to ensure they still had their old comfort items. The lady said we can go anytime to see them.

Yesterday I went to see the lady to see if my partner could go over in a few weeks to see the cats as she is still upset. The lady said, one of the cats got out the window. I asked about the other 2 cats, and she said they are always upstairs out the way. I asked if I could go up to see them, and she said no i am not having you go upstairs. I said ok, and then just left and noticed she had the downstairs window open.

How can someone who seemed nice one minute be absulotely vile one minute.

Thinking back to when I went to the house, she asked to keep the cat carrier, and I asked for her to send the occasional photo, to which she replied she did not have a camera phone. When I was in the house she said to leave the cats in the carrier for them to get use to the sorrounding.

I have come to the conclusion that she has given the cats away and proffited on it, I am so upset.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Well, that's what happens when you give cats away to random strangers rather than reputable rescue places. It's sad for the cats, but hopefully whoever took them on eventually gave them a secure home, assuming that the women doesn't still have them but feels no obligation to let you wander round her house when you gave the animals up.

One to chalk up to experience.

baby_2009

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Well, that's what happens when you give cats away to random strangers rather than reputable rescue places. It's sad for the cats, but hopefully whoever took them on eventually gave them a secure home, assuming that the women doesn't still have them but feels no obligation to let you wander round her house when you gave the animals up.

One to chalk up to experience.

Hi thanks jus bit upset thanks for your comments again.xxx:(

dmg24

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Well, that's what happens when you give cats away to random strangers rather than reputable rescue places. It's sad for the cats, but hopefully whoever took them on eventually gave them a secure home, assuming that the women doesn't still have them but feels no obligation to let you wander round her house when you gave the animals up.

One to chalk up to experience.

Agreed - who would give their cats away to a complete stranger?

baby_2009

dmg24 wrote: »

Agreed - who would give their cats away to a complete stranger?

I really hate my self for it now I am so upset arrrrrrrrrrr.

JenniMc

Baby_2009 - it must have been so hard for you to give up your cats. It is horrible if the woman did trick you but it doesn't mean that the cats aren't being well looked after elsewhere. It is weird that she was perfectly happy for you to visit them but then acted like that when you did go round. I think I'd be tempted to phone her if you still have the number. There is no guarantee she'll talk to you but you might be able to find out what really is going on.

She might even have been paranoid that you were planning on taking them back so that could be why she didn't let you see them etc.

Drea

I think the comments regarding giving the cats to a stranger are a little unfair.

When I had to move into a flatshare (through my boyfriend leaving me, really wasn't planned) I had to give up my Monty. I didn't know anyone who would be able to take him and had someone from a cat and kitten rescue place lined up to come and collect him.

The day before someone got in touch with me and said they wanted him. They have a lot of other cats (which I was originally worried about) but they obviously dote on them. This was a couple of years ago now and I still get photos and videos sent to me of Monty and his new friends, I couldn't have done better for him in finding a new home. They've always said I can go see him whenever I like but I didn't want to go see him too soon as I wanted to give him time to get used to his new home and then I was far too scared of him not recognising me! It'd upset me

Obviously there are untrustworthy people but we can't assume everyone is. I'm sorry if the woman you gave your cats to was one of them OP.

sparklymessygirl

Hi - You feel guilty because with hindsight you could have made a better choice. BUT - you did what you thought right at the time. Now you know better and you'll make better choices next time (Oprah!!) Quite possibly she did sell them to someone who will take good care of them. I don't know much about cats but understand that if they don't like their situation then they go looking for a better place Maybe you could see if they have been handed in to the RSPCA? Maybe check in a couple of weeks?

Personally my house is a tip so I would be mortified to let a stranger upstairs so maybe she was embarrassed? Could you phone her and maybe apologise if she felt you were bing pushy and ask if there would be a time when it would be convenient to call round?

Sparkly

baby_2009

Drea wrote: »

I think the comments regarding giving the cats to a stranger are a little unfair.

When I had to move into a flatshare (through my boyfriend leaving me, really wasn't planned) I had to give up my Monty. I didn't know anyone who would be able to take him and had someone from a cat and kitten rescue place lined up to come and collect him.

The day before someone got in touch with me and said they wanted him. They have a lot of other cats (which I was originally worried about) but they obviously dote on them. This was a couple of years ago now and I still get photos and videos sent to me of Monty and his new friends, I couldn't have done better for him in finding a new home. They've always said I can go see him whenever I like but I didn't want to go see him too soon as I wanted to give him time to get used to his new home and then I was far too scared of him not recognising me! It'd upset me

Obviously there are untrustworthy people but we can't assume everyone is. I'm sorry if the woman you gave your cats to was one of them OP.

thank you so much for the comments, i was greviing so much, i am so happy that you commented so nice. it is a mistake and i will never do it again, they were everything to me, thank you again xx

baby_2009

sparklymessygirl wrote: »

Hi - You feel guilty because with hindsight you could have made a better choice. BUT - you did what you thought right at the time. Now you know better and you'll make better choices next time (Oprah!!) Quite possibly she did sell them to someone who will take good care of them. I don't know much about cats but understand that if they don't like their situation then they go looking for a better place Maybe you could see if they have been handed in to the RSPCA? Maybe check in a couple of weeks?

Personally my house is a tip so I would be mortified to let a stranger upstairs so maybe she was embarrassed? Could you phone her and maybe apologise if she felt you were bing pushy and ask if there would be a time when it would be convenient to call round?

Sparkly

thank you, i feel so much better now, nice comments by you xx

Kayteehee

I don't think it's your fault at all. Many people give their animals away to good homes through places like gumtree, and through newspaper advertising. You act on the assumption that if you get a good feeling from meeting the person that they are the right ones to look after your pets then it will most likely be fine.

As for giving them to places like the RSPCA- they are very stretched with resources and rehome so many animals every year, it will probably be a good thing for them that many animals are rehomed privately rather than through them as a 'middle-man'.

The RSPCA would only do a similar thing, probably visit the person's home to check it was suitable, get them to fill in a questionnaire or something at the most, anyone can put on a front which is possibly what the woman has done in this situation.

I have a cat myself and i'd be devastated if this happened to me so i'm sending lots of hugs and hoping your cats are all ok.