Adult abuse

ankspon

Didn't know where to put this so apologies.If you knew of a 19 year old girl that was punched,slapped and humiliated by her "father" and her stepmother condoned it who would you go to for help,she won't go to the police at all,so who can help.She is absolutely petrified of them.

trumpton

I would ring the national charities - like Refuge. I am sure that if they cannot directly help you, they would know who could.

Your friend may be eligible for emergency help with housing, benefits etc.

It may be worthwhile posting on the benefits board as there may be other MSE'ers who have been in a similar position. Good luck.

Norant

David.


Wow mate this is tragic,i would definately offer to help i would point her in the right direction and tell her that i will be there to help all the way.

Problem you have .......i think! is that the girl is 19 she is an adult and can make her own decisions. speak to the charities that are there to help.


i hope she finds the strength to get away from that pair of !!!!!hawks.

dexter_fan

All Councils now have a Safeguarding Adults team and policy. Start by ringing adult social services and they can help/point her in the right direction.

meritaten

is she in education? college? if so then phone the college and ask who she should speak to.
also - womens refuges arent just about battered wives and kids. the police will have a domestic violence officer or unit who can help here even if she wont contact them directly.
I assume that you know these people well and if she disappeared your place would be one of the first places they would look????? hint? do you know of any other relatives who would take her in and keep thier mouths shut? does she?
she sounds totally cowed and needs help - she is frightened of the police but they are used to dealing with that. I think, on balance you need to speak to them to find out how she can be helped. even without their direct involvement.

ankspon

Sorry it's the father and stepmother she is scared of not the police,she has just left college as she couldn't cope.She could stay with someone but she knows that her father would cause trouble for them.

Pollycat

David
you've had some really great advice for this poor girl, are you going to talk to her about what options are available to her?

As hard as it is, she has to choose to get out of this abusive situation or things will never change for her.

You're very kind to try to help her out, I hope she listens to you.

Pollycat

David
just had another thought:
is this abuse something recent or has it been going on for a long time?
If it's recent, do you know what triggered it?

You mentioned her stepmother - is her real Mum still alive?

hermum

This is domestic violence, the local authority should help her with housing, & they will be able to put her in touch with the DV unit with the local police.
Are there any children in the household & are they also being abused? If so that needs to be reported to social services.
If she's concerned about going to the council or police would you be able to go to her GP with her?
There's this service for young people
http://www.getconnected.org.uk/home
& the womens refuge although the info is about abusive partners, this is still DV.
http://refuge.org.uk/
Hopefully you will be able to offer her the support & strength to help her.

ankspon

Her mum is alive and she got the same treatment when she was married to him.He is a millionaire and claims child support from the mother as when the kids was younger there heads were turned by him and his money,the kids never believed there mother was abused till they got older and he started on them.He has been arrested for making threats to kill,so you can see what kind of "man" he is.

elfen

GET THE GIRL OUT!

Get her out of the house (tomorrow if you can - with a bag packed if her "parents" are at work) then down to the council, and ask to see the housing people. They may have a solution or may try to get her into a refuge away from where she is.