Learn to control money but do not allow it to control you

gallygirl

Firewalker wrote: »

By next Wednesday I hope to have a house that is not full of strange men doing noisy things,

Funny that Firewalker, plenty of us on here would like to have a house full of strange men doing noisy things :rotfl:

Glad all is going well

Firewalker

Gally, depends on the noisy things, really. They are back today and there is loads of hammerring and three kinds of music (I like none) and generally disruption to my lovely working conditions.

Noisy things not involving any of the above I can consider as well...:rotfl:

Firewalker

savingwannabe

My decorators were listening and singing to an Adam Ant cd they found in one of my boxes. Soooo embarrassed. Two grown men of 40 singing to 'Stand and Deliver' the mind boggles.

Firewalker

Tonight I would like to start where I left off – the matter of what can I do to increase my income. By a lot! And as I mentioned before, doing surveys, clicks and similar I consider an absolutely last resort (for anyone, not just for me). There is also the way in which Susan in Desperate Housewives is doing it but I doubt very much that anybody will pay to watch me do housework – underwear or not. Mind, when OH and I were brainstorming ways to make money one of the things I came up with was people paying him to have dinner with me – I meant the lively, sparkly conversation, of course.

From all the reading I have done about people who have become embarrassingly rich one thing comes out every time – making money was inevitably a byproduct of building something that required talent, passion and rationality. So the question to ask really is not how one does make money (there are many ways to do that) but what is my talent, my passion and do I have the character for that.

Interestingly, most of us are not aware of our talents – in fact very often we neglect ‘the gift’. People around us usually know but they would not mention it to us – I have noticed that they don’t because our talent is usually so much a part of us that they don’t see why to mention it (we tend to mention things that are unusual and/or different not the normal and blindingly obvious). How to figure out what we are good at (or what our talents are)?

I would think that we can try and do the following:

1) Write down five things that we have always found easy;
2) Write down the things that we can do forgetting about time;
3) Write down the things we have been told we are good at.

I suspect that any items that appear on more than one of these lists deserve a second look. I am off now to do the exercise and will write about it tomorrow.

The thought for today is:

"If I have lost confidence in myself, I have the universe against me." - Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 - 1882)

Firewalker

Ellidee

Thank you FW for such a beautiful thought provoking post. xx

MaryMurphy

Hi Firewalker,

I've been following your thread with great interest, and wanted to drop by and say that I love it - lots of thought-provoking stuff, I am not a particularly "deep" person, but it's very interesting to read your posts and your insight.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

MMx

Craftyscholar

31 pages later :rotfl:
Thank you, Firewalker.

Firewalker wrote: »

In this letter I did not ‘order from the menu of the Universe’ – I don’t believe in this. But I asked the Universe for guidance and support on the way to what I really want to achieve and the person I really want to be – the effort and work will come from me.
Firewalker

Now that does make sense to me.

Firewalker wrote: »

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I realised that I don’t like, love or trust myself too much. Hence, I love people (what better way to test this than be on your own for a week; you find you strike meaningful conversations in the lift – you love people) but don’t really trust they will love me back. Because our natural state is to avoid suffering and pain, I have always surrounded myself with a bubble of solitude.
Firewalker

It is a really strange experience to discover that someone you perceive as successful, confident etc. has the same self-doubt as you do.
Makes you wonder about all the people you know IRL who you assume have/are all the things you know you aren't - if that makes sense.

savingwannabe

Firewalker why dont you just write a column for a broadsheet? I would pay to read your articles. PS am loving Hector. Thanks, kit

Double_Trouble

OK Firewalker I have done your exercise and posted it on my diary but I thought I would post a copy here to see what you think

5 Things I find easy in no particular order

1. Maths - like numbers to add up
2. Gadgets - I would be a gadgetaholic if I could afford it
3. Looking after babies - pity they all grow up!
4. Wallpapering - inherited from my dad he was a decorator
5. Travel - never been frightened to go anywhere anytime on my own

Things that I can do and get lost in time

1. Messing about on the computer
2. Reading
3. Puzzles (caused me to miss a plane once never owned up said I fell asleep it sounded less silly!)
4. Jigsaws
5. Putting LEGO models together as long as I have the instructions

Things my OH says I am good at (substituted that for other people hope it counts

1. Figures
2. Organising
3. Being fair and sticking to my principles
4. Seeing the bigger picture
5. Timekeeping

Ummmmmmmmmmm wonder what that says about me

DTxx

gilligansyle

Double_Trouble wrote: »

OK Firewalker I have done your exercise and posted it on my diary but I thought I would post a copy here to see what you think

5 Things I find easy in no particular order

1. Maths - like numbers to add up
2. Gadgets - I would be a gadgetaholic if I could afford it
3. Looking after babies - pity they all grow up!
4. Wallpapering - inherited from my dad he was a decorator
5. Travel - never been frightened to go anywhere anytime on my own

Things that I can do and get lost in time

1. Messing about on the computer
2. Reading
3. Puzzles (caused me to miss a plane once never owned up said I fell asleep it sounded less silly!)
4. Jigsaws

Things my OH says I am good at (substituted that for other people hope it counts

1. Figures
2. Organising
3. Being fair and sticking to my principles
4. Seeing the bigger picture
5. Timekeeping

Ummmmmmmmmmm wonder what that says about me

DTxx

Having read about this on DT's thread (I think - or maybe Karmacat) I thought I'd pop back over and catch up, and have to say about your list DT that the last 2 could easily be mine. not the first, though one of my qualifications is nursery nursing.

Firewalker you can always come up with ideas that get people thinking.