Finally getting CSA after 5 years, now he has "shared care"

speedster

sadeelisha wrote: »

Why dont you go and play on a train track? That would be helpful. I feel sorry for your kids mother. shes well rid!

comments like that only go to prove my case.

no doubt you went into court with that attitude.

that's why you got hammered.

idiot.

speedster

and i take it you are referring to my daughters mother who spent 2 years trying to get me to come back to her??

rapunzelz86

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:W.A.S.F.C
More fool her then

speedster

seriously.

it is becoming clearer and clearer exactly why you are in the situation you are.

you are carrying a lot of anger.

there are people who can help you with that.

Honest_broker07

Firstly can I ask the 2 of you to calm down please.

Sadeelisha, I have to say in the eyes of most of us the judge has behaved in an abnormal way ( I was refused contact that extended to 6 years as a result of my ex making unfounded allegations ). So perhaps some of us are suspicious.

There are hundreds of NRP out there who have behaved perfectly honourably and don't get a fraction of what you ex has been given.

Not one person I know would go to court for access to get CSA payments reduced, some of us struggled to raise the money to fight for contact let alone to be bloody minded over money.

My calculation says the payment should be reduced by 22% but I don't know if the CSA work in whole 7ths only

Soubrette

Honest_broker07 wrote: »

My calculation says the payment should be reduced by 22% but I don't know if the CSA work in whole 7ths only

I know 1 job hopping NRP, one who gave up work completely and one who literally has his kids for 3 nights (picks them up before bedtime and drops them off before breakfast). All do this to reduce their CSA liability. It doesn't seem to much of a step that some NRPs will go to court too.

On the other hand I know other NRPs who pay the amount due without question and help out in all sorts of other ways. I know one guy who pays child maintenance for his 3 children, 2 of whom are actually step children (he is my favourite NRP ever :cool:)

There's good and bad in all of us but some of us prefer to see one side or other as the good or bad. Speedster makes as many assumptions as he is accusing the OP of (as is his habit), you have to justify yourself as a 'good' PWC or he will just assume you are a 'bad' one.

There are PWCs who also do this - what can you do except in the end ignore them *shrug*

Oh yes, the reason I bothered pressing quote - the CSA do indeed only take whole fractions of 7 into account, they round down to 1/7, 2/7 etc based on the annual visits.

Sou

speedster

as you say HB, many nrp's get nowhere near this level of contact.

for the nrp to be that successfull tells me there is a whole lot more to the "other side" of this story.

my case is pretty well documanted and clear cut, and the reason i was so successful was that i proved the ex is a contact blocking wuckfit and also the fact hat she went into court hurling all sorts of abuse about.

basically, she spoke to me in court the way she did out of court. the judge flamed her on her ownership issues and attitude on a number of occasions.

which is what i suspect may be the case here.

if the nrp is as bad as she claims, then the only way he could have been as sucessful as he was in court is with a little help from the ex.

Soubrette

In the interests of honesty I have also reported this thread to abuse.

Speedster, accusing someone of lying is not being nice to all moneysavers and sadeelisha, if it's possible you have been even more foul than Speedster.

Sou

Honest_broker07

Speedster,

Wish I knew where you lived cos I reckon we have so much in common it's probably untrue.

In my case I believe they way she dressed in court, the way she referred to me and the judge, and most of all the proven lies she put in statements probably counted very strongly against her.

moomoomama27

To the OP, sorry but it's you that has the problem! If you wanted advice relevant to JUST your case, then you should have made your OP much more clear! The way it was worded was nothing like the story you later gave, which led people, myself included that you were more worried about the money than your child maintaining visitation with the NRP.

I am still in full agreement with speedster, and I am a PWC, as well as the wife of an NRP, so can see, and am on both sides to an extent, and let me tell you, people like you give PWC a very bad name! Your anger in this thread, as well as the name calling is juvenille at best, abusive at worst! You do not present yourself in a way where any empathy for your situation can be given!

I'm not saying your story is untrue. although certain aspects do not ring true, but to show so much anger makes me see why your ex partner had to apply to the courts for access in the first place. Having worked within the legal profession, in my experience, the courts would not grant such lengthy permanent access to a NRP with such a history, so they obviously feel your child will be perfectly safe with him!

I think you need to step back and look at your behaviour within this thread, ''talking'' to people in the way you have will get you no-where in life, and it would be a better example, no? If you learned that before your child thinks that it's right to throw insults about at people!