Who are upsetting & any negative comments over your plans?

Baby_in_the_corner

I totally agree Kay and kate... I'm actually totally over talking about the wedding - with 4 months to go still!!! Don't get me wrong I do see it as one of the most important days of my life, but the pressure it brings with it is unbelievable! I really do wish we'd run away and had a party when we got back, but we are blessed with THE most amazing family and friends and we both felt we couldn't do it without them to share in the whole thing.
I can't imagine how all of you being treated badly must be feeling - our friends and family are being very supportive and lovely and we're still feeling the pressure! And there are still lots of things that we're being told we 'must' do which we view as pointless traditions, e.g. cutting the cake, receiving line etc. So we've just told everyone that we're doing it our way, and they'll see on the day! I agree wholeheartedly with Kay - just don't tell them anything and they can't have an opinion. Good luck to you all, I hope situations get put aside and you have the best day of your lives x x x

greenmoneysaver_2

Here here!

beks

Kay_Peel wrote: »

Everyone's an expert on weddings, it seems.

I have my own idea of a perfect wedding - and I keep it to myself.

So my advice to the OP is to keep schtum about your plans. What they don't know they can't moan about. :rotfl:

I think I would agree with this.
Totally different example but when my LO was born, we could not find a name that everyone (particularly parents) liked, every name we thought of someone would have a bad word to say about it. So in the end, we thought, s0d it, we are going to choose a name and that will be the end of it. Thats what we did and once she had been named, no one commented on the fact we had chosen a name they hated!! The same goes for weddings, if you keep your plans quiet, no one will be able to say anything negative about it and by the time you have it, they will enjoy themselves so much on the day that they wont criticise (thats the hope anyway!!!)

Having said that, it does seem sad to me that people seem so judgmental about others weddings. It is up to the bride and groom what they want to do, no one else. TBH, its me and OH who can't agree how to do it all at the moment so we have to get over that hurdle first lol!!

Impet_Limpet

We are quite lucky, everyone is so supportive of us. However one thing is really important to me is that I was born and raised in Warrington, I work and live in Blackpool now but I really want to get married at home near my family, but I'm getting the impression some people see this as an inconvienience because they would have to travel down on the day (or stay over before hand) and book an overnight stay after the 'do' rather than jump in a taxi home!

On the other hand everyone has been fab on everything else, I might consider 'shutting up' on some of the other wedding stuff though.
I want and welcome ideas from our family on the venue (me, h2b, my mum and h2b mum are all going to 3 venues in Warrington next weekend and I'll also be taking information to show my nana - who is delighted at our engagement) and opinions of mum, h2b mum and bridemaids x2 on my dress but after that I would like it to be me and h2b to pick and choose things, to surprise people on the day!

housebuyer_abc

nemmernossage wrote: »

The other thing that has annoyed me and OH but not others is how stingy my family have been! My dad has given us £500 and my mum has given us nothing. My dad even encouraged us to elope! Cheeky :mad:

I agree with you they are just being stingy, after all you are their only daughter.

They should be paying for the lot, buying you a two week honeymoon to the seychelles and a family home with no mortgage on it so that you and the OH can live in comfort - after all you are their only child :mad:

On second thoughts maybe they should be asked how they feel about having such a spoilt and ungrateful only daughter...

You want your wedding your way, but you want someone else to pay! I'm pretty sure the world doesn;t work like that

mermaid85

I'm going to join in with a mini-rant! me and OH got "officially" engaged 2 weeks ago, although we have been discussing getting married in the next year or 2 for some time. We know we want a June wedding, just undecided on whether we want 2011 or 2012, due to saving in part, but also having dd2 THIS June, and I'd quite like to wait so she can be a walking bridesmaid!

My sister has now announced her engagement, and that they are getting married in June 2011. I haven't even met her oh yet, they've not been together very long but he has been proposing since after about 2 months. My mum told her that I was planning June but not sure yet which year, and he decided we're copying them!! Am not at all impressed, for one he doesn't even know us, but also THEY are the ones deciding to get engaged only 2 weeks after we did!!

somerset-girl

I also need to have a mini-rant! H2Bs mother seems to be doing nothing but make little digs over our plans. She doesn't seem to be able to just ask how things are going. The other day she wanted to know why we weren't waiting until after H2B qualifies as a nurse in 2012 (answer - because the budget would still be the same if we spent a year saving up or 10 years saving up - we know how much we want to spend on the wedding and we can afford to do it in 2011) Then over the weekend she demanded to know why my dad isn't paying for any of the wedding, then started making comments about his finances (answer - it's none of her damn business!)

What really winds me up though is she never says any of this to me, just to h2B. GRRRRRRRRR.

Am going to have a cuppa now and forget about her!