silly girl

westyw

Yes its an alias, yes I've been silly!

A few years ago I used to go to a pub quiz once a week and the quiz master used to try his luck with me. Now he is a charmer and used to flirt with a few of the ladies and although I was flattered I didn't let it go any further, after all he was married, and still is!

Last night I bumped into him, I should have walked away. I didn't.
We had a dance and a drink and a chat then we had a dance, and another. I then did go to see my friend who was incidently chating to her off/om bf, which I think ended for the last time.

I did look back at 'him' and he was gazing puppy dog eyes at me and I melted a little, bad moment, I went back over.
We again had a dance and a giggle and a kiss.

and now I'm muddled up, I'm not going 'there', I won't be the other woman, I won't be seeing him again. I'm just sounding off as I don't want to talk to anyone in RL about it as it will esculate in RL, most of my friends will think I want him but its a no go.

and I don't doubt I'm the 1st with him nor the last, I also won't be at the pub quiz on his night!

But why am I led here in bed dreaming of him, damn him.

jackieglasgow

Cos forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest. As a woman, you know that you have that bond of sisterhood with his wife which means you DO NOT take it any further. A drunken flirt and a kiss maybe be innocent to you, but if she were to find out, then it could destroy her life. Yes, he's the one who took vows, but you know you have a moral responsibility as a woman to forget about it. Lie in bed all day fantasising, then get up get a shower and wash that man out of your hair.

nickyhutch

Bond of sisterhood? I've never believed in that rubbish, but the reason you don't go there, OP, is because "there" is hell, and "there" lies nothing but heartache. Believe me, I know.

gratefulforhelp_2

Babe, just. say. no.

westyw

your all right, I won't be going there, I do have the sisterhood bond and no way on this earth do I ever want to a marriage wreaker. Thats why I can't speak to my friend who I was out with. She thought he looked a real nice man etc and was saying go for it girl, she does know he's married but said if she loved him etc she wouldv'e been out with him.

I think she must've put up with a lot over the years as he a huge flirt.

Ah well he was good in my fantasy! I bet he wouldn't be as good in RL, lol

thorsoak

Always remember the mantra ....when a man marries his mistress, he creates a vacancy - for the next mistress!

nickyhutch

ANd when a mistress gets her man, she creates a vacancy too. It's not just men who cheat, you know.

westyw

thorsoak wrote: »

Always remember the mantra ....when a man marries his mistress, he creates a vacancy - for the next mistress!

thats jumping big time into the future, but I do agree with the sentiment.

My mind has been wandering tho, why doesn't she go out with him? He is a gregarious man needing a lot of attention, he is a loud man, at the quiz he holds court and loves to be the centre of attention. He was out with a mixed bunch last night that must know his wife, must've seen us kiss and danceing. He wasn't shy or secretive about it.

westyw

nickyhutch wrote: »

ANd when a mistress gets her man, she creates a vacancy too. It's not just men who cheat, you know.

I'm single incedently.

But I do take your point

nickyhutch

He doesn't want her out with him cos he wants to flirt and cop off!

nickyhutch

westyw wrote: »

I'm single incedently.

But I do take your point

I know

What I meant was, that a mistress can get a kick from the illicit affair too, and once the married man leaves his wife for her, it's no longer illicit, so she might then cheat on her new partner too.