Daughter hitting puberty early....very early

bertiebots

My dd is 11 now and started changing before her 10th birthday. No sign of periods yet but she has her first bra and I dont think its going to be long. She can be very moody .I got her a really good book (when she was 9) ideal for her age that explains loads about puberty and growing up. I will have a look tomorrow and post a link because its fab.
I have talked to her too obviously but I remember being that age and found it really helpful to have something I could go back to and read over, my cousin gave me a little book.
I think its pretty normal these days for girls to start puberty at 8 which means they need to be educated sooner.
It would be pretty scary not to understand what was happening but I think our generation of mums (us) are a bit more enlightened nowadays ;)and can actually talk about it. My mum just gave me a pack of pads and left it upto the school. We watched a film about rabbits which wasnt very helpful lol:rotfl:....didnt get the "period" lesson till after I started at high school!

flea72

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle wrote: »

I'd be really interested in that. do you remember when it was on/what it was called?

Funny because apart from being preg i have NEVER EVER hit near 7 stone. I am 5ft tall and weigh just about 6 stone, sometimes just under and never over (normally that is, i am more nearing 8stone now i'm preg) and i have had periods monthly, every month that is since the age of 12yrs. And conceived 3 times pretty easily - ok really easily and even strictly on the pill once, lol!

I am a tiny build though - don't look too skinny at all but just really tiny, lol!

the staring point for periods is just over 6st, so at some point you must have hit this - however, until you drop way below this level, then your periods wont stop

for periods to stop, you have to have very low body fat reserves. this will vary from person to person, so someone whos 5'8" might find their periods stop at about 6st, whereas someone whos 5' tall, might not stop until they are nearer 4st

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bertiebots

Here is the book I was talking about...:D

http://www.play.com/Books/Books/4-/839782/What-Happening-to-Me-/Product.html

They do a boys one too ..don't want to leave them out;)

http://www.play.com/Books/Books/4-/1106490/What-Happening-to-Me-/Product.html

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

flea72 wrote: »

the staring point for periods is just over 6st, so at some point you must have hit this - however, until you drop way below this level, then your periods wont stop

for periods to stop, you have to have very low body fat reserves. this will vary from person to person, so someone whos 5'8" might find their periods stop at about 6st, whereas someone whos 5' tall, might not stop until they are nearer 4st

F

Ah thanks for that - yeah i must have only been about 5st when starting mine, considering i was just 12. Whenever anyone asks my weight and i tell them they gasp - but i just see it as my periods have always been fine and normal and i conceive easily so i can't be that uderweight for my height as that is supposed to be one of the first signs of being unhealthily underweight. I have a BMI of just 15-16 and often doctors see this as a prob but i had one lovely doctor, i wish she was still my doctor, she told me everything was fine i am just tiny but perfectly healthy in everway :T She made me feel so much better (i was just 18 so at that extremely self conscious age) and i haven't given a damn what people say or think since. And i have always had big boobs on a tiny frame too like you Miss Independant. At 14/15 i was a 32D on a size 4-6 frame, lol! I hated them but my then boyf (now my hubbie, lol) loved them!!!

I agree completely on the making her embrace it all though - it is going to be something she notices anyway if the other girls in her classes arent at the same stage, try and help her see it possitively rather than something to be ashamed of. And yep, even though her body is changing and she'll have to do a few more grown up things (like deoderant, face wipes/wash for the spots, etc) she is still a little girl of 8 at heart! Good luck hun! x

Swampmonster

My daughter starting developing when she was seven then had her first period a few days after her ninth birthday.

She is probably a slightly different case a she has learning difficulties and was obviously terrified by this and had to be changed like a baby.

I told the regular consultant she saw at the hospital this and he diagnosed precocious puberty and was given injections to slow down the rate of puberty as she obviously didn't have the capability to deal with it.

Another thing to mention there were no sanitary bins in the primary school she went to which is something that didn't occur to me but the school were fantastic and ordered some straight away and let her use the staff toilets and keep her supplies in there till the bins arrived.

Hope this helps

Swampmonster

Gingham_Ribbon

lauren_1 wrote: »

We tried having the 'talk' i was hoping that she would be at least in secondary school before i had to do this, we got to the part about boobs, fuzzy hair, spots etc etc but she is terrfied of blood, even fake blood she passes out.

Im sooo worried that she is not going to handle periods.

It's early but fairly common. I know an 11 year old who started changing at that age and got her periods at 9. She takes it all in her stride, but does tend to get tearful the week before her period.

Re the blood fear - if she understands that it's womb lining not blood as such she may find that easier to deal with. Someone on here said that her mum left sanitary towls and chocolate for her daughter and I think that was lovely.

She might not start her periods for another few years, but even if it is early, she'll probably handle it better than you'd expect from such a little one so try not to worry!
:A

Indie_Kid

Swampmonster wrote: »

Another thing to mention there were no sanitary bins in the primary school she went to which is something that didn't occur to me but the school were fantastic and ordered some straight away and let her use the staff toilets and keep her supplies in there till the bins arrived.

I think this is what also happened to my sister. I was part way through year 7 when I started mine - so no issue for me.

Mupette

The program was on BBC 3 last night called, *grabs tv guide
Christina: A medieval life.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcfour/medieval/christina.shtml

hopefully it can be watched on BBCi

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/search/?q=Christina:%20A%20medieval%20life

I think it was about halfway through when they discussed about weight/periods/pregnancy

Treacly

With the hugest respect, could I point out that this is a public forum, and some of the physical detail of pubescent girls given in these replies is a bit - how shall I put it? - explicit?? Maybe it's just me - but remember that anyone at all could be reading, including perhaps people who find an inappropriate enjoyment in discussions of 'breastbuds', 'fine blonde pubic hair' and 'cute girly underwear'.

euronorris

bertiebots wrote: »

Here is the book I was talking about...:D

http://www.play.com/Books/Books/4-/839782/What-Happening-to-Me-/Product.html

They do a boys one too ..don't want to leave them out;)

http://www.play.com/Books/Books/4-/1106490/What-Happening-to-Me-/Product.html

I wonder if that is the book my sister gave to her daughter and they then discussed. It seemed to make sense to my niece, who is 10. She went into school and talked to all her friends about it and they then went home and asked their Mum's to get them a copy of the book! lol. That niece hasn't started developing as such yet, my sister just wanted to prepare her.

My brother's daughter, on the other hand, is 8 and has breastbuds already, but refuses to even go shopping for a bra. She thinks they're ugly, bless her! I don't think it will be long before her periods start.

I started developing at around 9 and the periods followed at 10. I remember feeling really embarrassed and the odd one out (I was the first girl at school to start), but my Mum would talk to me about it a lot and tried to treat as more of an adult during those discussions and then I was fine. It just became the usual monthly annoyance.

Oddly, some of the girls at school were jealous of me! That is, until they started themselves! lol