do i give deposit back

smartpicture

Sorry, but I wouldn't give her anything back. Does she even know that you've got someone else to go in her place? Did she offer to pay your out-of-pocket expenses in the original text, as the assumption would be that you would both lose your deposit because of her selfish behaviour? She didn't even have the courtesy to discuss it with you first.

'Friends' like this, you don't need.

mister_bojangles

If your flat mate pays you her share of the deposit and travel fare, it's only fair that you give your friend her deposit back. We should not let emotions override reason. Disappointing it may be, but she won't get the depoist back ONLY if you cannot recoup it from someone else. If you do, and do not repay her, you are in the wrong!!

WASHER

I agree, you should give her the deposit back minus the monies for the name change etc, you have another friend to fill her place and surely she is paying full price for the holiday, therefore you should give your other friend her deposit back. If you don't then you will be in the wrong, you cannot keep what isn't yours.

It would be a totally different matter if you had to cancel the holiday, but you haven't.

keys_2

I would give her the deposit back minus the fees . Like you said someone has stood in her place , what a relief for you
But if you are still annoyed at the way she has done it, you could maybe text her back saying he rplace has now been cancelled , but you would have appriciated a phonecall maybe instead . Then see if she asks for her money ? If she doesnt I would give her the remaining money back to her on the week you go away just to be akward yourself maybe

nikkh1776

thanks guys me and my mate have said that we r going to take the fee for change of name ect, as its not our fault that this has happend and give the difference of 12.50 back to her and explain what we have done. as the fees r not our fault and its not our fault that she has decided that going with the new biyfriend is more inportant knowing that this has bin booked from last year and she only booked with nb last month to go in 3 weeks time.

euronorris

nikkh1776 wrote: »

thanks guys me and my mate have said that we r going to take the fee for change of name ect, as its not our fault that this has happend and give the difference of 12.50 back to her and explain what we have done. as the fees r not our fault and its not our fault that she has decided that going with the new biyfriend is more inportant knowing that this has bin booked from last year and she only booked with nb last month to go in 3 weeks time.

I think that's fair.

In relation to your friend though, try not to be too harsh on her. She's in the first flush of love and going on holiday with your boyfriend can be a very exciting thought.

Particularly if she's quite young, or if this is her first boyfriend. How old is she, out of interest?

Give her time and she'll most likely be back out with her friends more often etc etc.

pulliptears

nikkh1776 wrote: »

thanks guys me and my mate have said that we r going to take the fee for change of name ect, as its not our fault that this has happend and give the difference of 12.50 back to her and explain what we have done. as the fees r not our fault and its not our fault that she has decided that going with the new biyfriend is more inportant knowing that this has bin booked from last year and she only booked with nb last month to go in 3 weeks time.

I'd give it her in pennies, selfish cow

nikkh1776

euronorris wrote: »

I think that's fair.

In relation to your friend though, try not to be too harsh on her. She's in the first flush of love and going on holiday with your boyfriend can be a very exciting thought.

Particularly if she's quite young, or if this is her first boyfriend. How old is she, out of interest?

Give her time and she'll most likely be back out with her friends more often etc etc.

hi she is 32 and its not her first boyfriend. i few weeks ago she came out with a comment wen one of our other mates came out with a comment to her. it was its my life i will do what i want and i dont care wots anyone else finks. plus the most annoying fing is i wanted to ask my other mates to go at the time of booking but she kicked off and said that she just wanted us 2 to go.

so i feel like abit off a !!!!!! to honest.:(

euronorris

nikkh1776 wrote: »

hi she is 32 and its not her first boyfriend. i few weeks ago she came out with a comment wen one of our other mates came out with a comment to her. it was its my life i will do what i want and i dont care wots anyone else finks. plus the most annoying fing is i wanted to ask my other mates to go at the time of booking but she kicked off and said that she just wanted us 2 to go.

so i feel like abit off a !!!!!! to honest.:(

Fair enough. In that case, I would just give her the 12.50 back, wish her a good time and then move on with your life.

Doesn't sound like much of a friend to be honest. And she's old enough to know better! By her behaviour, I assumed she was around 18-20!

Don't feel like a d'ck. It's annoying, but you live and learn. And at least you found out early enough so that you're still getting to go on holiday with another friend (and another group for the hen do?). She's the one who will miss out in the long term, not you.

I know, it sucks. I've been there a few times with friends and they always come back with their tails between their legs when the relationship ends.

Hugs! xx