Dealing with inappropriate comments (my weight)

Alleycat

It sounds like she is probably just a bit concerned about you. If there have been issues before and she is aware that you have suffered with depression, she could be just trying to make sure you are okay. Thank her for her concerns and for being supportive but that everything is fine and you know you can talk to her if there were any issues.

Unlike previous posters, it doesn't sound like jealousy. Just friendly concern for a fellow housemate.

itsallinthemind

sh1305 wrote: »

We've lived toegther since September.

The comments basically referred to my depression and my friend (who she sort of knows and thinks is a weirdo)

Okay, so she may be being a moo, or just being friendly, only you know from her attitude.

However, I'm pretty sure I remember reading posts before you made(I did not reply) in regard to your flat mates. Putting the past posts and this one together, seems to mean 2 possible things

a) moo bag, was a moo bag before, big personality clashes before = just ignore as your out of there soon and move on mentally as none of these people fit in with the type of people you would make friends with, who cares!

b) she is being nice and trying to get to know you/show concern/understanding, particulary as you felt excluded before. You may find this odd and even feel paranoid due to housemates past behaviour = either let this person in a little and maybe you could be friends or keep your distance as she will never be a 'friend'

I think we are all sensitive about weight/height/nose length, it could just be she does not realise she is making you feel awkward or that you are slightly more sensitive that joe/jenny bloggs?

Indie_Kid

Alleycat wrote: »

It sounds like she is probably just a bit concerned about you. If there have been issues before and she is aware that you have suffered with depression, she could be just trying to make sure you are okay. Thank her for her concerns and for being supportive but that everything is fine and you know you can talk to her if there were any issues.

Unlike previous posters, it doesn't sound like jealousy. Just friendly concern for a fellow housemate.

Probably true; but going about it the way she did wasn't exactly appropriate.

bugbabe1970

Judging from your posts you apear to be sensitive about your weight loss. does your housemate know about your stomach problem? Im not saying you should tell her but maybe she is just genuinely concerned for you. If you feel that she is just !!!!!ing then either just ignore her or think about speaking to her as i said above!

Indie_Kid

bugbabe1970 wrote: »

Judging from your posts you apear to be sensitive about your weight loss. does your housemate know about your stomach problem? Im not saying you should tell her but maybe she is just genuinely concerned for you. If you feel that she is just !!!!!ing then either just ignore her or as i said above!

They do know about my stomach issues and I said (because it's true) that's why I've lost weight.

Yes, I've cut down on the junk food since being at uni; but the weight loss hasn't been intentional in the slightest.

Mrs_Imp

I would put it down to friendly concern. A friend of mine at uni admitted that she kept an eye on me for several months in the first year as she thought I was anorexic. Then she soon realised that I wasn't and was just naturally thin. TBH I appreciated the concern. Had I been anorexic, then she would have most likely been the one to contact professional help for me if she thought I'd got dangerously thin.

itsallinthemind

sh1305 wrote: »

They do know about my stomach issues and I said (because it's true) that's why I've lost weight.

Yes, I've cut down on the junk food since being at uni; but the weight loss hasn't been intentional in the slightest.

I've lost vast amounts twice in my life, once was a simmilar situation to yours and once due to extreme stress.

I actually ended up being what I was suposed to be for my height.

I got some VERY insesitive comments and they were very hard to take at the time, sometimes I felt quite angered, other times upset as I had no control over the weight loss and felt I was being judged. So it can be quite upsetting and hard to deal with in the correct way as getting angry or upset is not going to help you. In the end I sed to zone out, just agree that it was great or terrible(depending on thier attitude) and pretty much ignore it and not let it get to me.

You'll be out of there soon, so just try let it slide off of you

pinkshoes

Sounds to me like they're just being friendly and checking you're alright, or perhaps they want to encourage you if you're deliberately trying to lose weight? Absolutely nothing to be paranoid about - sounds like a compliment to me!

Indie_Kid

itsallinthemind wrote: »

.I actually ended up being what I was suposed to be for my height.

I am what I'm meant to be for my weight.

itsallinthemind

sh1305 wrote: »

I am what I'm meant to be for my weight.

Well then either thank or ignore depending on the attitude that comes with the comments made