Hubby thinks I am a magician..........

doelani

Yes I have tried the " you can do the shopping " as well. Even once got him to do a onlien grocery order, was great only £20 then I had to go on behind him and change it to what we really needed, you know things like toilet rolls, dog food, cleaning products lol

My biggest problem is teh " it's only £20 a month " attitude, teh £20 here and £20 there add up.

doelani

euronorris wrote: »

OP - Are there any other areas that could be cut back? I think someone else asked this earlier, but I don't recall seeing a response.

Yes I am going to cancel my mobile, only £10 a month but all helps, will change breoadband once it is out of contact which is not to September and I am sure there are more. The thing that annoys me is I am the one who worrys about money, I am the one who plans ahead.

An example, car tax due this week, mot in 2 weeks but I had that money saved. If not we would have had to " find " about £300. Hubby just says " we need to get car serviced " and money appears , he forgets if I did not put teh moeny away each month it would not be there !!!!

Once all the new amounts come in for insurace etc I will be redoing my I&E and sitting him down with me to do it.

Any

Jo_R wrote: »

This puts me a little in mind of my OH who has recently been complaining that when he first moved in, the shopping cost was around £35-£40 per week and is now hitting £60 and what exactly is it I am doing to make it go up so much?!

I am very glad I don't have the same problem... My OH hates shopping but had to do it when I was on holiday and his son came to stay and he cannot understand how I spend half of what he does and make it last twice as long..

I think every man needs to go shopping occasionaly to realise what costs what.

Any

doelani wrote: »

Yes I am going to cancel my mobile, only £10 a month but all helps, will change breoadband once it is out of contact which is not to September and I am sure there are more. The thing that annoys me is I am the one who worrys about money, I am the one who plans ahead.

An example, car tax due this week, mot in 2 weeks but I had that money saved. If not we would have had to " find " about £300. Hubby just says " we need to get car serviced " and money appears , he forgets if I did not put teh moeny away each month it would not be there !!!!

Once all the new amounts come in for insurace etc I will be redoing my I&E and sitting him down with me to do it.

If you post your SOA I am sure loads of people on here will point out where to save and where to get the same deal for less money.

iamana1ias

neneromanova wrote: »

What's the link to the OS boards?

It's in the forum list!!

noapron

Lots of good ideas here, but your dh needs to go round the food shops with you and see just how much things cost if he doesn't do that already. If he does, then he has to concentrate. I found this with my own dh who just willy-nilly picks anything the supermarkets have cleverly displayed to attract him. I don't know about anyone else but his suggestion that own brands, whilst not good enough for him, were fine for the children is just plain daft - children's taste buds are far more sensitive that older people's so they are more likely to nitice, not less. Add to that that a lot of own brands are fine and it's a case of taste it and see, he has to realise that food is a fairly large part of anyone's expenditure. A work colleague of dh this week did the food shopping as his wife was away - he spent more than double her weekly spend (£180 instead of £80). Why? He bought all the offers on wine, beer, crisps, chocolate - all the stuff he persuaded himself were essential and were worth stocking up on.

I use mysupermarket.com and if I make a substantial saving by switching, I let dh know. We went through a phase of eating a lot of takeaways a few years ago, but one day I totted that up and was quite horrified by the price and realised with a bit of organisation, I could have put a decent meal on the table for probably less cost. We've rarely eaten takeaway since. sometimes I think spending less on food can improve diet.

Another thing I did years ago when things were tight - and it may seem a bit extreme, was draw out a set amount of money to last the month - all transactions at supermarkets were in cash, as were any treats like dvds, cinema etc. This worked well as I paid all the standard bills online/dd/so and it soon became clear to dh, how much it cost to just live and buy food

Although not in your situation now, earlier in the year, there was a definite whiff of redundancy in the air, so we did tighten our belts. You may do the accounts, but surely you dh will realise very quickly it takes two of you to deal with such a reduction in income and all the worry should not be on your shoulders.

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floss2

doelani wrote: »

Well acually he added to buy " own brand/white label food" I said he would not eat then he added " no for the kids ".........

So he is happy to have his brands, but not for his children? Double standards....

doelani wrote: »

I have seen me ending up throwing stuff out because noone wil eat it as it is cheaper brand, cooked meat, butter etc so was not very money saving to buy it to throw out. I am jsut fed up with them all

Don't spoil him. He is being very short-sighted and arrogant to assume that with a cut in income you can still afford to buy his favourite foods.

Write a shopping list and ask him to prepare an online shop of what you need. Then do the same shop without his brands, and show him the difference in cost. My Supermarket is good as it shows you the difference if you drop a brand (I would suggest sending him to the shops with the list but that will cost money that you cannot really afford to spend as he will buy the brands he loves!!)

Mupette

If hubby wants his luxuries...

How about this one night... Need to get kids in on this.. feed them first before he comes home.

Then when its his dinner time, give him his dinner and everyone else has empty plates, if he asks what's going on, tell him well for you to have your luxury's we can't eat tonight.

See if the guilt trip kicks in?

Last night being the day before my benefits came in, DS asked what was for tea, the fridge is bear, so i told him he could look in the cupboard for dry food to eat, pasta, super noodles etc, for his laziness to cook, he went to bed hungry, why did i not feed him? he's 15 and i am having a relapse with MS, so he knew i was poorly, even i went to bed with no tea.

so sat here now working on a shopping list before i get the shopping sorted..

74jax

Mupette wrote: »

If hubby wants his luxuries...

How about this one night... Need to get kids in on this.. feed them first before he comes home.

Then when its his dinner time, give him his dinner and everyone else has empty plates, if he asks what's going on, tell him well for you to have your luxury's we can't eat tonight.

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I love it!

itsallinthemind

Mupette wrote: »

If hubby wants his luxuries...

How about this one night... Need to get kids in on this.. feed them first before he comes home.

Then when its his dinner time, give him his dinner and everyone else has empty plates, if he asks what's going on, tell him well for you to have your luxury's we can't eat tonight.

See if the guilt trip kicks in?

Last night being the day before my benefits came in, DS asked what was for tea, the fridge is bear, so i told him he could look in the cupboard for dry food to eat, pasta, super noodles etc, for his laziness to cook, he went to bed hungry, why did i not feed him? he's 15 and i am having a relapse with MS, so he knew i was poorly, even i went to bed with no tea.

so sat here now working on a shopping list before i get the shopping sorted..

Oooo tough love! Love it!

How about getting the kids on side, setting a food budget and saying if there is anything left you all get a great big slap up take away and dvd of their choice come pay day?