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How..do you bring up a 7 yr old with..

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  • lauren_1 wrote: »
    The fact that you shopped him may have resulted in you shooting yourself in the foot, if he had to pay the Inland Revenue or the Social back (including court fines or any other 'government debt') the deductions from his wages will take priority over the CSA payments.

    The wouldnt give you any feedback as its classed as private information, the only things you are entitled to know would be disclosed in the CSA calculations

    Good luck

    yes, no point in shopping as you call it, just attend to your own business and press the csa.....
    Blackpool_Saver is female, and does not live in Blackpool

  • lill
    lill Posts: 180 Forumite
    yes thanks I did go back and spot it, I would have edited my post, but thought id leave it so everyone could practice their BIG BOLD SHOUTY TEXT
  • jamespir
    jamespir Posts: 21,456 Forumite
    Have a look at your own posts, maybe? Was the '!!!!!!' really necessary?

    yes because it reiterated my point
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  • BitterAndTwisted
    BitterAndTwisted Posts: 22,492 Forumite
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    Nursebooby wrote: »
    ..a £5 a week contribution via the CSA? Almost a year of stress from the git, shopped him to benefits fraud, tax fraud..nothing from either..no feed back. He works the 32 hrs minimum, now on the side got a van and mower doing gardening spare time, partner a bloody bank manager..they even sell second hand cars on the side!! No one seems to care. Grr..sorry hormones :mad:

    I doubt you'll ever get any feedback from them but that does not mean they're not investigating by any means. I expect there's some data-protection nonsense involved so they can't share what they're doing with you. Each time you glean some more information about what he's up to, report it. If his partner is a bank manager this suggests that they might be canny enough to know that any additional income should be in the partner's name rather than the father's. It ain't right but that's the way some people choose to live. Think about how Dad's life will be in a decade or so's time when all he's got to show for a working-life is some cruddy part-time work. Bring your child up to know better and you will have succeeded as a parent where his father will have failed.
  • lill wrote: »
    yes thanks I did go back and spot it, I would have edited my post, but thought id leave it so everyone could practice their BIG BOLD SHOUTY TEXT


    I surely meant nothing by it, I was just pointing it out.....
    Blackpool_Saver is female, and does not live in Blackpool

  • jamespir wrote: »
    yes because it reiterated my point

    James, what is your situation, do you work? you only joined recently and have so many posts............
    Blackpool_Saver is female, and does not live in Blackpool

  • DS's dad lives in Oz (address unknown) and doesn't contribute (DS is lucky if he gets birthday/xmas cards).
    I am not in a relationship, work full time (get a small amount of tax credits).
    If dad doesn't want to step up to the mark and contribute to his son, either financially or emotionally then there isn't much I can do about it. But I do know I can hold my head up high knowing I've done my best for my son, and hopefully he will grow up to be a more responsible, well adjusted man than his dad!
    LHS No 222
  • January20
    January20 Posts: 3,769 Forumite
    Debt-free and Proud!
    Just wait until your child happens to find your CSA papers - as my dd did a couple of weeks ago -and says: "Is that all he gives you?" with a disgusted look on her face. It made up for all the sacrifices we had to make over the years.

    As I've always said to dd, what we have, we've got ourselves. We should be proud.

    That's not to say I don't believe absent parents shouldn't contribute. I think they should.
    LBM: August 2006 £12,568.49 - DFD 22nd March 2012
    "The road to DF is long and bumpy" GreenSaints
  • £5 is all they deduct from my xh benefits, that is then split between his 2 non resident dependents (that was news as i only have 1 of them!)

    the money goes straight into an account for dd when she is older as i don't want it. i bring dd up i work hard & get her what she needs. we have a house, car, holiday every year, as far as i'm concerned we're doing fine & don't need his money.

    hope that didn't sound bitter!

    lou x
  • mum2one
    mum2one Posts: 16,279 Forumite
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    I'm not being rude, I can understand your frustrartion with your ex, Ihad similar problems him working, putting things in his wifes name, I don't get any CSA, so your already on £5 per week than some, and we manage,
    xx rip dad... we had our ups and downs but we’re always be family xx
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