Weekly Flylady Thread 15th March 2010

greenbee

TAG wrote: »

** KNICKERS** :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Hope you have a lovely time. xx

kazwookie wrote: »

Greenbee

Unless things have changed, your make up and toiletries must be under 100ml and they need to be in a clear bag, if you are taking them as hand baggage. Have a good trip.

They haven't changed. I have a clear bag packed with everything I need for long flights for work, so just used this. It's amazing what you can fit in the 1 litre bag...

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Greenbee condoms! You never know... and now take half the clothes out, you won't wear them!

I was travelling with my brother & my parents... and I didn't use ALL my clothes, but I tend to travel light most of the time.

You lot can't half talk... I can't remember most of what I wanted to say. I had a lovely time, the hotel was fantastic, the exhibition was great (they let my mum in free when she explained she was one of the artists, but the rest of us had to pay :cool:), and we did lots of walking.

Sandy... sorry it was so hard for you, but at least you've done it now. And as someone has already said, think of it as another stage done. More importantly, roughly whereabouts do you live now and where are you moving to? There are flyladies everywhere, and most of us are very nosy supportive and like meeting other flyladies, so I'm sure that there will be someone not too far from you who could help out meeting up for a chat occasionally. ETA - there are DEFINITELY flyladies in the York area, so no more peace & quiet for you...

Valli - re the alcohol, how about introducing a rule that he can drink beer at weekends at home - an agreed amount which you keep in the house so you know how much he is drinking? Treat him like an adult and it might take the wind out of his sails while giving you the control. Tell him that you're happy for him (and his mates occasionally) to have the odd beer at home (but you expect him to pay for it, and you're not going out shopping specially, so he needs to give you the cash before the weekly shop), but if there is any deceit you will remove the privilege. I was always allowed to drink wine/beer/cider and even the occasional G&T at home so didn't see the point in getting cold and wet... mind you, everyone goes through the stage where they work out their limits!

Valli

Sound advice Greenbee - thing is neither he nor his particular mates do the hanging about outside thing anyway, for which I am HUGELY thankful. And I would rather let him have a bit at home - I'm a great believer in letting the line out gradually if you get my drift.
I have also told his dad I'm allowing him to drink in moderation (note I didn't ask for permission) because I don't want hime getting all heavy handed down the line or yelling unfit parent at me.
It was just the deception - for instance last week we were at my nieces for Mother's Day and she gave the kids Smirnoff Ice (my two and her sister, who's 9 months older (exactly;)) than DD - but I was cross with them because (a) they didn't ask and (b) it was Sunday. I would have said yes to 1 but I expect to be asked.
I've seen to many go absolutely wild as soon as they are 'adults' to not allow a bit of leeway. Just hope they stay off the fags...and the illegal stuff!
Mind you, as Grateful can testify, he still has some maturing to do!

toottifrootti

Miss A
what a lovey post - thank you so much - it made me xxx
I am very glad to be home
I bet you had fun going to the Steelers game - you are lucky!

Not long now until you get your holidays.

lots of love to you and W

toots xx

toottifrootti

Mumof2 sorry to hear Pip isnt out of the woods yet - hope she improves overnight. I am glad Dh is trying to get in the good books - stick with the meds honey - they are there for a good reason and we want you fully back on track (((hugs)))
tiredanddesp I am sure you must have breathed a huge sigh of relief - I am so glad it all went well - how long before you know how successful it has been - I am sure he will be a bit sorrer before it gets better but the ice cream will help!!!:rotfl:
hex STOP!!!! step away from those puddings you bad girl:rotfl: I think its lovely that MiL slept well with Matthew cat - maybe the cat sensed she needed some comfort. maybe a few more visits and she might just get attached to Matthew?
off to the new thread - see you all there
toots xx

toottifrootti

sandy71 wrote: »

Thank you for all you said, I am sat here with tears pouring down my face (again:o) sorry honey I didnt mean to make you cry again - you must be washed out xx
I am not good at asking for help, I just tend to get on and do things. I don't really have any RL friends, or not any that I am close enough to to get them to come with me.
I am used to having seizures in assorted places (had a couple on the bus before)
The flyladies have been absolutely amazing, I don't know how I would have got through the last few days without them. I know the feeling - they are just wonderful people:D
Me and DH have talked a lot this weekend. I wasn't to good yesterday had a terrible headache then just passed out. It made me wonder if it has happened before and I just put it down to a seizure, like when I broke my arm. I have never done anything like that before. I hope you tell the neurodoc all this - every little detail is important
The house we are buying is empty now, sellers had already bought a new build so moved straight in. DH is going to ask the estate agent to morrow if we can rent it until the sale is finalised. I have family up there and if things are bad I want to be starting and continuing my treatment in one place instead of splitting between 2 places. That sounds sensible - its better to get used to one place and staff and if there is family then you can ask them for help/company etc.
I hope the moving isnt getting you too stressed and adding to your threat of seizures?

Not sure about support groups where we are moving to but I don't really like things like that. Like I said I don't do asking for help.believe me honey I know exactly how you feel - I didnt do 'asking for help' either and def not support groups but NOW I do!!! Once you get over the initial asking its like flying it gets easier and you meet lovely people - its a great way to make new friends! I have lived on my own for 30+years so was very independent but there comes a time when you have to accept that you need help - but you dont need to ask every time - its good just to establish a link that you could use and instead of the hospital visits becoming an ordeal they are dealt with without the same level of stress.

I'm not strong and I am having trouble coping with all of this, I'm not sure I ever will be able to. Sandy love if someone had said to me 10 years ago that i would deal with cancer and other medical problems I would have laughed at them - i was the biggest wimp going - and now knowing that there is nothing they can do for me and will die sooner rather than later I am coping -like i said before you find strength deep down inside - you either give in or fight back and figfht you will - you have your DH by your side and you will get there. But it also comes back to the support network - once you know what you are dealing with try to seek out support group or similar because they know what you are going through and other people's ideas and problems make you realise you are not alone in this.
Thank you for all your lovely words, you are so kind.
Hope you are ok. xx

love and hugs
toots xx

sandy71

You didn't upset me in a bad way, I'm just not usd to people being so nice and so supportive.
I must admit I didn't tell the neuro everything:o I know I know but I got sick of listing it all, was worried he would think I had swallowed a medical dictionary!

As for the moving we have found a great company who will do everything, packing the lot which makes it easier. I will probably go up and stay with my family a few days before and just let them get on with it.

I'm just hoping I can be as strong as you whether the worst happens or not.

Take care. xx

greenbee

sandy71 wrote: »

I must admit I didn't tell the neuro everything:o I know I know but I got sick of listing it all, was worried he would think I had swallowed a medical dictionary!

If you have a written list, please take it with you next time and HAND IT OVER so he can read it and ask you questions about the stuff he feels is important. Also talk to him about your move and how he can ensure that you get continuity of care.

And listen to Toots. We had a tough time getting her to accept help;), but she does now and as a result she (mostly:p:p) is a lot less stressed.

sandy71

greenbee wrote: »

If you have a written list, please take it with you next time and HAND IT OVER so he can read it and ask you questions about the stuff he feels is important. Also talk to him about your move and how he can ensure that you get continuity of care.

And listen to Toots. We had a tough time getting her to accept help;), but she does now and as a result she (mostly:p:p) is a lot less stressed.

I did write it down but read it to him. I just missed some bit's out.:o

I will try and do as Auntie Toots says;)

toottifrootti

Oi!!!! whats with the Aunty bit!!! :rotfl: glad to see you havent lost your sense of humour!!!xx

toottifrootti

Ok sandy love I will stop nagging you - I am just concerned - and i know what a nightmare I was - I am happier knowing that you will have family nearer you - in the meantime try to stop fearing the worst until you have your appt with neurodoc - maybe focus on your move - good time to be decluttering:rotfl: