Police forced entry to our flat while we were out

gerryscot

Dealing with the extra stress of having your door kicked in is probably the last thing you needed in your fragile state of mind at the moment.

I know its difficult to see the positive side of this situation Try to take some comfort and reassurance from the fact that people cared enough to make the call thinking you were in danger. Your bound to be feeling very alone dealing with your personal issue's, its always nice to know that people are looking out you. If it was your neighbours that made the call it may be the beginning of a new and very special friendship.

Take Care

Gerry x x

atrixblue.-MFR-.

i agree with all posters your incredably brave, youve made the first steps of getting from him, and may not realise it but your starting to make yourself independant, just by going to seek help and speaking freely about your sensetive situation to complete strangers to wich i stand up and give you a round of aplause, it takes great courage to do that and i admire you for it.
as for the door i would tell you outreach support worker what has happend your landlord who will be able to vouch that the door was damaged by the police fearing for your safety, would you be able to tell the police about your situation also they may be able to help with things further and help put things in place more quickly, and praise them for acting on a call eventhough it was not needed that time but still stress your sitaution.

gerryscot

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Why keep it a secret? It's nothing for you to be ashamed of - and if you need to get some supporting evidence for a housing application, it certainly helps if the council can call your landlord, who can say 'yes, I knew it was a problem, the door was smashed in by the police thinking she was seriously hurt on one occasion'.

I agree with you jojo this isn’t anything to be ashamed of, The only people that should be feeling any shame in these circumstances are those who don’t make the call and the police if the don’t not take action.

Everything happens in life for a reason this may even start to restore some of your faith in society that there are still there are still loads of good caring people in world.

Lotus-eater

pinkpinkuk wrote: »

You may be right, they may have seen him leave and not me. He usually leaves after me, but on that morning he left before me. I would have thought they would have heard me leaving but I guess you can never know. It might not even have been them that phoned. I assume it was, because they must have opened the door.

So obviously your neighbours are used to a particular way for you two to leave and then they obviously watched for you, at the normal time, you didn't come out, so they thought you were lying hurt on the floor, at best.

So unspoken here, is that a violent argument at best, was going on that morning. Although you talk about leaving and the fact he's violent, controlling and aggressive, you still talk about carrying on in everyday life.

If the neighbours feel that worried about you, please would you hurry up your outreach worker and your own mind and get out as soon as you can.

stuckinscotland

The police did the right thing.

pinkpinkuk

Thank you for all your replies. Much appreciated.

I'm not actually a tenant, so I guess I personally am not responsible for informing the landlord of anything. Partner is the tenant, although I know he's not going to inform the landlord.

I am grateful that someone made a call, and the police did act on it. Even if it wasn't strictly necessary at the time. He (partner) almost started up this evening and I heard the downstairs neighbours quietly leave. I feel so bad for them =(

Anyway, the local police station is only open 9-5 Monday to Friday so I'll have to run down in my lunch hour tomorrow. At least if we can get the door sorted that'll be one thing off my mind.

tandraig

you are being very cagy pink - may i pm you?

pinkpinkuk

Of course

jay1976

Hi, I just wanted to say im so sorry for you at this very difficult time in your life.
First off the police should fix the problem with the door, i would worry yourself over this as your boyfriend is the tenant not you.

Second you need to get out of that relaionship asap people dont change. i know its hard and you may think at times you love him or whatever but you must do this for yourself, move on and find someone who can treat you like any decient man should treat a woman.

you can do this and i wish you all the best for your future :wave:

Zazen999

Shouldn't PRIVATE messages be PRIVATE???