Son leaving College

PolishBigSpender

cidergirl wrote: »

yes job seekers allowance 50.30 a week but good luck with him giving you any of it my son wont give me a penny of his if your a single parent there may be other halp out there ask at the job centre

Why should there be any help given to lazy adults who can't be bothered to find a job?

ariarnia

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

Why should there be any help given to lazy adults who can't be bothered to find a job?

No one said he can't be bothered to find a job - for all you know he might be out every single day knocking on doors and collecting application forms. He might be using every bit of his money paying bus fares to visit potential employer, buying envelopes and stamps, printer ink for his cv's.

You really haven't been given the information to judge; all you have is one line saying he doesn't give his mum any money for (presumably) board. He might buy and cook all his own food and she might not have even asked for money, just be annoyed that he isn't offering it.

Don't jump to conclusions and make generalisations.

cidergirl

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

Why should there be any help given to lazy adults who can't be bothered to find a job?

lazy adults my a*** he had a full time job till he was made redundant and yes he is looking for work every day and applying for jobs ,and yes i have go a husband who works full time infact we are a hard working family . him not having a job has caused lots of hardship on us but there are no jobs round here but if you can find him one then please do before we all go mad

PolishBigSpender

cidergirl wrote: »

lazy adults my a*** he had a full time job till he was made redundant

Boo hoo. The crux of the matter is that he doesn't have a job now - therefore - lazy.

and yes he is looking for work every day and applying for jobs

Why doesn't he get out there and do a good day's labour? There are always jobs available for those willing to put an honest day's work. At this time of year, people always need physical jobs done - why doesn't he get out there and talk to people?

him not having a job has caused lots of hardship on us but there are no jobs round here but if you can find him one then please do before we all go mad

I have a job in Poland for him if he wants? Full time hours, health insurance paid. Minimum wage work - roughly about 190 pounds a month. If he wants it, it's waiting here for him.

ariarnia

Boo hoo. The crux of the matter is that he doesn't have a job now - therefore - lazy.

no, therefore unemployed.

Why doesn't he get out there and do a good day's labour? There are always jobs available for those willing to put an honest day's work. At this time of year, people always need physical jobs done - why doesn't he get out there and talk to people?

Actually there aren't. It's 11.27, you go out now - in your lunch break if you're employed in a normal job, or now if you're not currently working, and you find work for the day. It has to cover your expenses to get to it (petrol or bus one assumes) or no expenses if you walk to it, so no getting the bus to the nearest town then clearing a garden for an hour for 50p. When you've done that I'll beleve you can just walk into a physical job in your area at any point. Not in the poster's sons area.

Shy of daily work for individuals (man with a van type, which you would prove with the above), according to the poster, he is out 'talking to people' and looking for work. You don't know how long he's been unemployed for. These things take time (on average within 12 weeks, longer during the current economic panic).

I have a job in Poland for him if he wants? Full time hours, health insurance paid. Minimum wage work - roughly about 190 pounds a month. If he wants it, it's waiting here for him.

Ok, I'll take it.

PM me the details, I have a passport. I assume you'll sort some accommodation for the first week or so for me? and I assume you mean £350 a month - given that's the national minimum monthly wage for Poland (PLN 1,276)?

[Deleted User]

Can you convince him to stay at college until a job turns up - he may then end up finishing his qualification and be in a better position to look for jobs.

This way he is keeping his options open - if he gets a job, good and well, if he doesn't then he's still got college.

mshelpful

As he is 19 he can register with connexions who may advise him about benefits, finding work or voluntary work or returning to education. My daughter dropped out of college for a year but soon got a reality check when she tried to find a job.

She's gone back to college now with high motivation, and mostly manages to get her EMA.

mshelpful

Just to add - she dropped out because she was trying for A levels but found it too much. Now she's chosen a dance BTEC. Perhaps a course more in line with his interests might be worth considering?

Molly41

Thanks for responses. He is doing a BTEC. I am hoping he will go to college tomorrow. He has spent the whole week looking for a job and has no luck.

cidergirl

Molly41 wrote: »

Thanks for responses. He is doing a BTEC. I am hoping he will go to college tomorrow. He has spent the whole week looking for a job and has no luck.

i do hope he does hun i dont want you having the last 2 years ive had to put up with xx