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Son leaving College
Molly41
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My DS (19) has decided to leave his BTEC course which I dont agree is the right thing but he has decided. He does not have a job at the moment and is as I write out looking. I dont want to encourage him to claim benefits but i cant support him longterm as I have now lost my child benefit, tax credits and he has lost his EMA. Will he be eligible for JSA as he has voluntarily left his course
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and through me. When it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
When the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and through me. When it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
When the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
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My DS (19) has decided to leave his BTEC course which I dont agree is the right thing but he has decided. He does not have a job at the moment and is as I write out looking. I dont want to encourage him to claim benefits but i cant support him longterm as I have now lost my child benefit, tax credits and he has lost his EMA. Will he be eligible for JSA as he has voluntarily left his course?
As he is 19 he can claim JSA.0 -
And LHA / CTB so I would turf the little s*it out, that will teach him not to drop out of college
(tis a joke if the pc brigade are reading)0 -
yes job seekers allowance 50.30 a week but good luck with him giving you any of it my son wont give me a penny of his if your a single parent there may be other halp out there ask at the job centreMy DS (19) has decided to leave his BTEC course which I dont agree is the right thing but he has decided. He does not have a job at the moment and is as I write out looking. I dont want to encourage him to claim benefits but i cant support him longterm as I have now lost my child benefit, tax credits and he has lost his EMA. Will he be eligible for JSA as he has voluntarily left his course?0 -
yes job seekers allowance 50.30 a week but good luck with him giving you any of it my son wont give me a penny of his if your a single parent there may be other halp out there ask at the job centre
heh, heh, heh - that's what eviction is for! Give him notice and let him out in the real world to see how long £50 lasts when there are real bills to pay - he might have enough for food and some basic energy/telecoms costs and zero for social expenses where as its probably all now spent on himself.
There was a thread on the Housing forum a few months ago where a few posters admitted they'd left home in a huff as youngsters when asked for housekeeping by their parents and then apologised and asked to move back once they realised how expensive basic living costs are.0 -
yes job seekers allowance 50.30 a week but good luck with him giving you any of it my son wont give me a penny of his if your a single parent there may be other halp out there ask at the job centre
Erm, have you considered showing him the door?
What sort of life lesson is he learning from your attitude... ?
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You must insist that he pays you bed and board and stick to it.
At least £25a week, no less.make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
and we will never, ever return.0 -
I absolutely will insist he pays me bed and board. Im hoping he will come to his senses and return to college today as he wont find a job easily. Thanks for your support and yes I have seriously thought about showing him the door many times recently :mad:I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and through me. When it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
When the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.0 -
I absolutely will insist he pays me bed and board. Im hoping he will come to his senses and return to college today as he wont find a job easily. Thanks for your support and yes I have seriously thought about showing him the door many times recently :mad:
I'm glad you won't pander to him - too many parents do and somehow convince themselves they are helping their (adult) child by giving them a loving home and food in their bellies. In reality they are actually failing as parents if they don't give them a reality check, imho.
Just to clarify, my post about showing him the door was in response to the poster who said their son pays nothing.0 -
heh, heh, heh - you give him copies of the monthly rent, council tax, utility, tv, insurance, telecoms/broadband, water and grocery bills and ask him to work out what 50% of the total is, versus what he is proposing to pay you...0
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Erm, have you considered showing him the door?
What sort of life lesson is he learning from your attitude... ?
i have kicked him out but my dad felt sorry for him and he now lives with dad next door ive had nothing but grief from my son i can tell u so ive actually not really got rid of him0
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