Nice people thread 2 - now even nicer

carolt

Not seen you around for a bit, misskool. Been keeping a low profile? Or just busy?

lostinrates

re tidying in kids rooms...can't it be the pay off for their pocket money, or treats? Is it th only chore they have? I think I was a really tough aunt. the girls were with me when they were tiny and I mad them do stuff. I didn't expect them to get it done right...just to get in the habit of doing it. My job when I was teeny tiny was cleaning everyones shoes at the weekend and different chores depending on where we lived: in london it was the front porch.

If their rooms are roughly hygenic is it a real problem? I went through an amazingly messy stage in late teens.

fc123

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lostinrates wrote: »

I'd love to but I can't

For future reference, should we find a date we can all do its better to arrange by PM...anyone remember Generali's death threats? Didn't poor FC still turn up at the pub?

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Davesnave

sjaypink wrote: »

Shut the door on it and forget about it

Alternatively, remove the door.

I'm afraid I did just that with my eldest, who was the one capable of throwing the biggest strops. I warned her that if she yelled, shouted and banged the door one more time over stuff like tidying-up, it would go. She did, and it went. She came home from school and there was no door.

Strangely, although kids are happy enough to live in a pig sty behind closed doors, they are mortified if their disorganisation is exposed to the eyes of visitors.

I think the door went back after a week or two. Of course, DD1 was not a totally reformed character, but she knew we meant business. Eventually, we reached, "It's OK Dad, I'll do it." (No more Dad hoovering-up favourite hair ties, naff jewellery from Claire's Accessories etc.)

By the time she was at Uni, it was DD complaining to us about the filthy habits of some flatmates. Oh, the irony!...:rotfl:

carolt

I always disliked the pocket money in return for chores idea, because I felt they were certain things they should do just because they should do them, not for money. But after reading the thread on mse following Martin's post in the weekly email ~(you see I do read other bits of the forum, occasionally ), I came away with a whole raft of ideas that seem to work for other people.

This week, I decided to say that unless their room was tidied by the end of the week (ie today) they'd lose their pocket money for that week, and that infuture, they could make as much mess as they liked, but they had to have it tidy by Friday or that week's pocket money was forfeited. I've just had enough.

And it's not hygenic, lir - I found the bin full of crisp packets they'd been eating up there (not supposed to eat up there), incl one stuck behind DD2's bed. Impossible to hoover when the entire floor is covered to a depth of 6 inches. And I get really really annoyed when I bring up their clean washing, and a week later find it mashed into the carpet, mixed in with all their dirty stuff, and other random crap. Bit of a waste of time doing it. Esp unamusing when I have to deal with the cries of "I can't find any socks/my favourite X/school uniform" etc, because it's part of a miscellaneous heap on the floor.

Have calmed down a bit now.

OH did it instead, along with the girls. DS's room remains a tip, however, because I have refused to tidy it, and he can't (he's only 3).

Sooo - enough of that. Tell me about your exciting, glamorous lives, that don't involve tidying or marking, preferably.

carolt

Davesnave wrote: »

Alternatively, remove the door.

I'm afraid I did just that with my eldest, who was the one capable of throwing the biggest strops. I warned her that if she yelled, shouted and banged the door one more time over stuff like tidying-up, it would go. She did, and it went. She came home from school and there was no door.

Strangely, although kids are happy enough to live in a pig sty behind closed doors, they are mortified if their disorganisation is exposed to the eyes of visitors.

I think the door went back after a week or two. Of course, DD1 was not a totally reformed character, but she knew we meant business. Eventually, we reached, "It's OK Dad, I'll do it." (No more Dad hoovering-up favourite hair ties, naff jewellery from Claire's Accessories etc.)

By the time she was at Uni, it was DD complaining to us about the filthy habits of some flatmates. Oh, the irony!...:rotfl:

Loved that story.

Your last sentence gives me hope, though...

Though I really can't imagine that scenario in my house...

lostinrates

carolt wrote: »

Sooo - enough of that. Tell me about your exciting, glamorous lives, that don't involve tidying or marking, preferably.

I have a good one tonight, I'm on a bit of a high...it doesn't start well.got a bit of a cold and a stye coming, got dressed up in a funny outfit (I often dress up friday nights for DH) and went to the supermarket. , I was the most dressed up person in the supermarket, but not unusual (and no wageslave, not posh/ all detailed on the fashion what wearing to day thread, main feature was a necklace as a hair band,)

now it gets good..

some one flirted with me. Flirting is SO MUCH BETTER when you are a bit chubby and older....because it feels so gooooood, and when you have a cold and a stye and some guy is following you around truing to find a way to initiate conversation is really good fun!..makes you feel really good.

then dh came in (supermarket is near train station, I was running late, and found me by the tinned fruit -I made him a tinned raspberry athel brose for supper, no fresh raspberries and supper was scotch broth, so wanted something scottish) and we had an outrageous snog in public. The supermarket ladies cheered. I felt a bit grubby, this is england after all, and it was a posh supermarket.... but then we did it again. :D

misskool

carolt wrote: »

Not seen you around for a bit, misskool. Been keeping a low profile? Or just busy?

cold. work. boss.

and as for tidying, just leave them to it. my mother made me tidy my room and do my own laundry when I turned 13.

Not sure it helped as I'm still slovenly.

vivatifosi

Oooh lir, sounds wonderful. I never get that at my local Tescos - I'm more likely to be followed around by the store detective. Maybe I need to get him indoors some raspberries.

sss555s

misskool wrote: »

i'm good for next weekend? we just found a cute little place but I do miss steaming trolleys of food being pushed around.

I've been there!


Well it looks very much like one of the places on I drive.

Have you moved to Orlando Mskool?