MSE Parents Club Part 11

SusanC_2

BeenieCat wrote: »

I saw it, i just chose not to 'thank' it because it's bullocks.

It wasn't the "thank"ing that I was talking about - more the fact that even after the apology people were still talking about it in the same way as if there had been no apology.

BeenieCat wrote: »

If you believe in your opinions then don't apologise for it. If you don't, and are just saying it to pick an argument, then don't make out you didn't mean it.

Under normal circumstances yes but shouldn't allowance be made for mental illness? (You don't have to answer that - it's a rhetorical question.) We've all seen the massive positive changes caused by the medication so relative to that the negative effects aren't exactly extreme or unbelievable. It's up to you (and anyone else) whether to believe an apology or not and I'm not going to argue about it because it is just one of those things where you have to decide what you think and noone can really "prove" one way or another but for me it only took a two minute perusal of posts on other threads to come to the conclusion that there was genuinely something wrong rather than it just being an excuse to hide behind.

I'm not telling people what to think (and I won't pursue it any further) but I felt that it was only fair to point out the apology as people often don't read everything and miss things and it seemed unfair to Feelie to leave people thinking that she hadn't apologised. (And in case it seems like I am being one-sided and sticking up for Feelie while ignoring what she had said, I will mention that I did give her my opinions but I did so privately because I felt that was more appropriate.)

If people are aware of the apology but choose not to accept it then fine - although I disagree, that is their choice. That is completely different to no being aware of it which is what I had assumed and I hope nobody has been offended by my having pointed it out under the mistaken impression that they had just missed it.

SusanC_2

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

Oooooooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!

How can I stop my baby from chomping on my nipple?!

Is it deliberate or accidental?

I found Alice was more likely to accidentally bite when she was nodding off.

If she bit deliberately I would stop feeding her for a few minutes before resuming the feed.

I will add thought that she was a lot older - more like 6-9 months before we had this issue.

aless02

Susan, well said, IMO.

Thx all, had a little nap and feel better. Just wish i could kick this thing as i hate being sick. Before moving over here, i was almost never sick, so it's definitely the climate!

tarajayne

redstararnie76 wrote: »

That's nice - are you based anywhere in easy travelling distance to Street, Somerset? The last time I went to Clarks Village there, the Monsoon discount store had a number of similar looking dresses there that were really reduced (admittedly it was a while ago now - wouldn't want to send you on a wild goose chase), otherwise other Monsoon outlets might be worth a look too.

Oooo, thank-you. Will go see. So if you don't mind me asking, where are you.

3onitsway wrote: »

Very nice - and I love the one elle linked to too.

Did you decide your bingo wings weren't bingo wings after all?

No idea, Poppie sort of took over the proceedings. :cool:

SusanC wrote: »

It wasn't the "thank"ing that I was talking about - more the fact that even after the apology people were still talking about it in the same way as if there had been no apology.


Under normal circumstances yes but shouldn't allowance be made for mental illness? (You don't have to answer that - it's a rhetorical question.) We've all seen the massive positive changes caused by the medication so relative to that the negative effects aren't exactly extreme or unbelievable. It's up to you (and anyone else) whether to believe an apology or not and I'm not going to argue about it because it is just one of those things where you have to decide what you think and noone can really "prove" one way or another but for me it only took a two minute perusal of posts on other threads to come to the conclusion that there was genuinely something wrong rather than it just being an excuse to hide behind.

I'm not telling people what to think (and I won't pursue it any further) but I felt that it was only fair to point out the apology as people often don't read everything and miss things and it seemed unfair to Feelie to leave people thinking that she hadn't apologised. (And in case it seems like I am being one-sided and sticking up for Feelie while ignoring what she had said, I will mention that I did give her my opinions but I did so privately because I felt that was more appropriate.)

If people are aware of the apology but choose not to accept it then fine - although I disagree, that is their choice. That is completely different to no being aware of it which is what I had assumed and I hope nobody has been offended by my having pointed it out under the mistaken impression that they had just missed it.

Whilst I see your point of view, and totally understand it. As someone who had many years of depression and medication I came to realise for myself that you have to want to get better and really work hard at it. I don't think you ever don't have it but you learn to manage it. If people sort of feed your depression you will stay that way. My counseller and doctor both told me I was becoming a martyr so I pulled myself out of it, now when bad things happen I go out of my way to do something happy or positive. :A

pinkpig08

Has anyone else noticed that Ruth Langsford has 3 huge spots of concealer on her face??!!

tiamai_d

SusanC wrote: »

Yes aside from all the fun and games on here.

Speaking of which, presumably (based on the discussion I've just read from yesterday evening), not everyone has seen Feelie's apology.

SusanC wrote: »

It wasn't the "thank"ing that I was talking about - more the fact that even after the apology people were still talking about it in the same way as if there had been no apology.


Under normal circumstances yes but shouldn't allowance be made for mental illness? (You don't have to answer that - it's a rhetorical question.) We've all seen the massive positive changes caused by the medication so relative to that the negative effects aren't exactly extreme or unbelievable. It's up to you (and anyone else) whether to believe an apology or not and I'm not going to argue about it because it is just one of those things where you have to decide what you think and noone can really "prove" one way or another but for me it only took a two minute perusal of posts on other threads to come to the conclusion that there was genuinely something wrong rather than it just being an excuse to hide behind.

I'm not telling people what to think (and I won't pursue it any further) but I felt that it was only fair to point out the apology as people often don't read everything and miss things and it seemed unfair to Feelie to leave people thinking that she hadn't apologised. (And in case it seems like I am being one-sided and sticking up for Feelie while ignoring what she had said, I will mention that I did give her my opinions but I did so privately because I felt that was more appropriate.)

If people are aware of the apology but choose not to accept it then fine - although I disagree, that is their choice. That is completely different to no being aware of it which is what I had assumed and I hope nobody has been offended by my having pointed it out under the mistaken impression that they had just missed it.

It read very sarcastic to me, so I am unsure if it was a genuine apology or just another attempt at sick humour.

So, I will wait and see if she makes an more posts and judge from them. It wasn't just on here that a lot of comments were made, it was elsewhere too. And some of them that I saw were vile. It's also been on other threads and for a good few days.

Given that feely has done this in the past and I have made allowances for it, and defended her, I was shocked at what she was saying and implying, especially as her own circumstances are not exactly perfect.

Thats all I'm going to say on the matter.

tarajayne

Anyhow, as Sami would say, time to move on so I will shut up now.

Poppie's lung on one side was being restricted by her bowel, would never have thought it but it's because of her size and apparently things still not exactly settled inside her after her operation so something to watch for.

Glad to see you back Becs. XXX :A

Can't believe it's supposed to rain all week, what about the school holidays!

pinknico

Tia, fairies flew today, sorry for delay.x

Sarah_Joanne

SusanC wrote: »

Is it deliberate or accidental?

Not really sure. He's not going to sleep though although that side was getting pretty drained. Maybe it's frustration at the flow slowing or something as he wriggled about a bit too.

Tia nice new siggy!

So I bought a doorbell from Asda, there's a few different tunes and we put it up yesterday. Well this morning it rang on a different tune to what we set (we set a doorbell noise but it started playing "It's a small world"). There's nobody at our door and double checking our buzzer and it's the right sound, so either a) it's faulty and keeps going off on its own or b) someone within a 50m radius has the same bell on a different tune and someone is at their door. Hmmm annoying or what!

tiamai_d

pinknico wrote: »

Tia, fairies flew today, sorry for delay.x

Thank you!

Which reminds me to go hunt out EA's stuff and get it posted