MSE Parents Club Part 11

SusanC_2

gymfiend wrote: »

Also, is it normal to lose blood clots that looks like liver? I lost a massive one earlier and I wasn't sure, it's gross.

I would mention it next time you see the midwife.

elle_gee

Gymfiend, there is also Latch Assist that you could try. Available in Boots as well as online, I think

3onitsway

SusanC wrote: »

Related to a topic which people were worrying about yesterday: I sometimes find myself doing/thinking things on the basis of experience with different people to the ones I am now dealing with. So for example, my dad could be violent (nothing major - mainly low level violence, intimidation and smashing things up) and sometimes I find myself planning to hide something from OH because it was something that my dad would flip out over and then I remember that I don't need to. OH is absolutely not violent at all and even gets upset by me shouting but I find I have automatic responses to certain situations based on the past. Obviously I can't speak for anyone else's situation but I thought it might be useful to know that when someone has a fear related to the past it doesn't automatically mean that it is something that might really happen in the present.

Very well put Susan. I wanted to say something similar myself, from my own experience of having a violet bully ex, but couldn't get the words in the correct order. :rotfl:

Sami_Bee

SusanC wrote: »

Related to a topic which people were worrying about yesterday: I sometimes find myself doing/thinking things on the basis of experience with different people to the ones I am now dealing with. So for example, my dad could be violent (nothing major - mainly low level violence, intimidation and smashing things up) and sometimes I find myself planning to hide something from OH because it was something that my dad would flip out over and then I remember that I don't need to. OH is absolutely not violent at all and even gets upset by me shouting but I find I have automatic responses to certain situations based on the past. Obviously I can't speak for anyone else's situation but I thought it might be useful to know that when someone has a fear related to the past it doesn't automatically mean that it is something that might really happen in the present.

Thats what I was trying to say yesterday (but I think I did a pretty bad job of it lol) I agree

pigpen wrote: »

if anyone would like my stomach muscles they are very welcome to them!

other than they vertical split downthe middle the left 3-pack is attached at the top near my rib and for about 3 inches down the left side.. the right 3-pack is attached at the top.. and not at all anywhere else. They are absolutely useless.

I was meant to be going surgery but it has been postponed!

I have no peritoneum as it was removed while repairing my uterus, bowel, bladder and muscles when DD4 was removed.

My abdomen goes.. skin, fat, muscle (or not) innards! I am in fact one huge hernia!!

I cannot tense the stomach muscles and my back does ALL the work my stomach muscles are supposed to do.. I was also supposed to be getting a referral for physio 2 months ao.. that hasn't happened either.. gotta love the efficiency of the health authority!!

I know a very good physio in the hull area (she specialises in neurological physio now though)

jennynoo wrote: »

This is interesting to me as an attachment parent because as an attachment parent you carry LO around all the time in the hope that giving LO lots of support and security when they are little will make them more confident and independent later although I do remember something in the Sears book saying they can get a bit clingy at one stage but that it would pass and was nothing to worry about (might have to check that) I certainly wasn't expecting it to be months! At the moment Erin is very good and will go with anyone but I expect that probably will change. Anyone else have any views on this?

I think the difference is the tribe/community element, If she is carried by lots (obv not millions) of people then she won't become overly clingy to just one or two.
I also think that part of personality is in there anyway, some babies are destined to be clingy no matter what you do IMO

Evansangel

Not to sure whats going on with my tummy. When i lay down and breath in, my tummy kind of sinks in on itself lol.

Has anyone seen the new startrek movie? When Vulcan implodes?
Yeah my tummy looks like that :rotfl:

Hmm, Lily keeps whacking her dummy out and then crying for it. Im tempted to sellotape it to her face :rotfl:

kindofagilr

Sami_Bee wrote: »

gift weathered boards, not exciting to most but for about a week af and I have been trying to strategically friend my MIL with someone who can gift them, we finally sorted it last night and then this morning what I can give changed - typical lol

Ah I see its like I need nails still fo stable and then I found out my friend can gift them and I am all like yay send me one every day!!!

Well I got Elliot some Infacol and he hates it lol I dropped it in his mouth before a feed like it says and his face was a picture BUT he didnt get painful wind YAY lol he had wind but it didnt make him cry and it didnt take half an hour to get up (lets hope it wasnt a one off lol)

csh_2

tiamai_d wrote: »

I should not have read back. Oh my god, !!!!!y! :eek:



I've never been, sorry.

Oh! We may be able to make the meet! What time is everyone metting? I forget. But DH has his long weekend and says we may as well go.

I was beomoaning about missing it last night and DH said I could go and he would look after the kids. I explained that I may look a bit weird turning up to a parents thread meet with no children... So we may all come up, or maybe just Amber and myself.

Its not been finalised yet but will be in the am. About 10.30-11 I think seems likely.

csh_2

Caz, what about a day trip down to Edinburgh?
http://www.gorgiecityfarm.org.uk/home/
and then the museum in Chambers Street?

Can't think of anything else lol

jennynoo

Sami_Bee wrote: »

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I think the difference is the tribe/community element, If she is carried by lots (obv not millions) of people then she won't become overly clingy to just one or two.
I also think that part of personality is in there anyway, some babies are destined to be clingy no matter what you do IMO

I'm worries because all my and most of OH's family are up north and we don't see them much so Erin doesn't really spend that much time alone with anyone else. Oh well, not going to change my parenting style now so will just have to wait and see!

pigpen

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I know a very good physio in the hull area (she specialises in neurological physio now though)

Must be the one rare one then!!

And how do you get the referral form the GP to actually be sent?

Evansangel wrote: »

Hmm, Lily keeps whacking her dummy out and then crying for it. Im tempted to sellotape it to her face :rotfl:

gaffa tape works best.. or a length of elastic around their head!

kindofagilr wrote: »

Ah I see its like I need nails still fo stable and then I found out my friend can gift them and I am all like yay send me one every day!!!

Well I got Elliot some Infacol and he hates it lol I dropped it in his mouth before a feed like it says and his face was a picture BUT he didnt get painful wind YAY lol he had wind but it didnt make him cry and it didnt take half an hour to get up (lets hope it wasnt a one off lol)

Oh I LOVE infacol.. stuff of the Gods... it created sleep in my house!.. same stuff as in settlers windeze