MSE Parents Club Part 11

SusanC_2

boogellyboo wrote: »

Then we went to visit OH's parents which was all going well until she told me I've scared her by allowing Isla to wear an amber teething necklace as crystals/healing is 'the dark side' and I musn't tell others she wears it because it'll cause family problems :mad: OH's dad is a minister so I can understand their beliefs are important to them but I personally am not a religious person but would never bellittle something they believe in. Why do they feel its acceptable to tell me something I believe in is wrong?! Im livid and told OH about it last night, luckily he can see where Im coming from but I feel as though I've been put in a really awkward position now.

Maybe she doesn't know how they work and thinks it is some "magic" thing or something? I just did a quick google and found this:

Amber necklaces are made for wearing, not for chewing as amber exhibits its pain relieving qualities when worn on the skin. The skin's warmth releases miniscule amounts of healing oils from the amber which are then absorbed via the skin into the bloodstream.

Perhaps if you explained how it works and she realises it isn't some weird spiritual think that would help?

3onitsway

My fairies have a cute set of 9-12month lilac pram shoes with lilac polka-dot bows if anyone wants them. Yet another duplicate purchase from MIL.

Honestly, she buys so much stuff, she doesn't realise she's already bought it!

tarajayne

Reply...

Please accept my apologies for failing to respond to you regarding our approach to food for breastfeeding mothers by the end of 2nd March as agreed.

The issue was raised at the St Michaels Food Provision group last week and I was anticipating receipt of the minutes of the meeting yesterday in order to obtain the full detail of what has been agreed. These have not yet been received but I understand from our Head of Midwifery that mothers on our neonatal unit will be able to eat in the dining room of ward 74 for their first 5 days post-partum. However, after this time they will be expected to make their own arrangements, but as previously stated, parents who are struggling financially due to their hospital stay can contact our social work team for support.

This will also be the case at the Children’s Hospital where mothers who are 5 days post partum or less will be provided with food from the ward food service or given vouchers for the hospital dining room.

This will be written into the Divisional Food Policy to ensure that all staff are clear regarding this provision.

I am sorry that you and your daughter are clearly dissatisfied with many aspects of your care at St Michael’s hospital. You will appreciate that these issues will require full investigation in order to give you a thorough response and therefore I regret it will not be possible to comment on them further today. Part of this process will be to clarify whether incident reports (which I believe would be our equivalent of a ‘significant event’ record), have been completed for any of the issues you describe.

We will formally acknowledge the outstanding concerns for investigation and will also forward you a consent form for your daughter to sign to confirm she is happy for you to proceed with this complaint on her behalf. I would be grateful if you would provide me with a full postal address for this initial correspondence.

I would anticipate we would be able to provide a full response by 14th April, which can be either in the form of a letter, a telephone call from a senior member of staff, or a meeting with relevant members of staff from the services involved at a date which is mutually convenient. Please let me know how you would prefer to receive this response.

This response will produce an action plan which will then be reviewed after 6 months to ensure the actions agreed have been taken. Should the investigation of the incidents have you identified suggest that an incident form should have been completed, but has not been, this will then take place. However, all actions to resolve the issues should be identified in the complaints action plan.

I am attaching a copy of our complaints leaflet for your reference which I hope will reassure you that this process is able to manage the concerns you have raised and provide you with appropriate outcomes. However, if you have any further questions, please do not hesitate to contact me.

SusanC_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

OH is in a strop because while I was feeding Molly last night I asked him to bring me some water and he couldn't get back to sleep from 2-6:30. I don't remember it but can't help feeling a bit annoyed that he's peeved because I woke him while doing the thing that wakes me multiple times a night and has done for seven months.

Tell him he's got it easy - my OH used to get up in the middle of the night every night when I was pregnant to make me a drink of warm milk because I suffered from chronic thirst but water made me sick.

Krystaltips wrote: »

I didn't do any handwashing when our machine broke last year...

The washing is not so bad - it's the wringing that's the worst.

tarajayne wrote: »

I'm gonna come back to catch up in a bit, Maddy has an appointment at 11.30 so after that but just thought I'd post the email I have written... (if that's ok?)

That is shocking treatment and appalling that so many things could be done so badly. Who have you sent it to? I would send a copy to the most senior person you can find details for at the hospital. Also MPs can be very helpful.

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Any thoughts on reigns? Would it be too soon to get some for our holdays? I know he won't walk for long but it might be nice to give him the opportunity to walk for a while...we go in 2 weeks.

We used reins with Alice as soon as she was able to walk without holding hands. It meant that she could practice walking but with the safety net that if she stubled she didn't fall. I figure if you hold hands all the time they don't get as much practice at walking by themselves. Once she was a bit better at walking I didn't always hold onto them - just if we were near a busy road or somewhere she was more likely to fall over. Once she stopped falling over regularly and was more reliable from road safety point of view I stopped using them and started just holding her hand when necessary.

Becles wrote: »

It's one of the things we disagree on with DIY. I'll do stuff slowly and will redo things over and over until it's perfect. He rushes and if he makes a mistake, it just gets left as he can't be bothered to redo things and thinks it will do. I hate that and rather than appreciating the new room, my eye is drawn to the fault every time

My OH is like that - he doesn't see the value in taking longer over a job inorder to get it done properly. I think it's because it doesn't bother him if it's a botched job as long as it's done.

cazscoob

woohoo!!! Charlie is getting to go to a special playcentre on a tues and thurs on top of his wed playgroup session. They are getting a speech therapist and behaviour specailist in to assess him over 12 weeks. he will be at the playcentre from 9.15 to 2.30. i have to stay to settle him at first but they will arrange all transport and lunches:D The 2 women were really nice and listened to what we had to say, his first day will be next tuesday so i expect he will probably come home and sleep!!!

cazscoob

tia or any other buggy mad people i have an offer of a lola up with car seat, carry cot seat unit, frame, raincover and changing bag for £60! worth a go and resell???

ladybirdintheuk

This baby keeps biting me today - I have proper bite marks on my hand from her sharp little gnashers. I think we may have another tooth on the way.

Millie's_Mum

KT1985 wrote: »

Yeah, positional talipes, it isn't too bad, but we can't do sleepsuits as they twist his feet and he screams like we are trying to murder him.

Millie had awful positional talipes both sides when she was born, we had to do the foot manipulations too, pleased to say that corrected it without the need for further intervention and you would never know now that she had ever had it. So keep up with the foot manipulations everytime you change him, they really do work!

searching_me

:hello: ... just cooking dinner ..

tara you tell them they need a good kicking ..

and Happy birthday erin .. hope shes having a great day ..

MFD you have a nice assistant ..

YAYYY!! to half birthdays ..

havent ever lost zoe but she did decide to wander off one day in a supermarket i followed her then she thought she was lost sat in the middle of the f&v section and cried (im mean ) ...

reigns i dont like reigns are for dogs not children (just my opinon sorry if that upset anyone) ..

lady OUCH!!!! ... bitey babies are not fun ..

sorry if i forgot anyone ((hugs)) and :coffee:s to everyone ..

oh and JAYDEN HAS TOOTH NUMBER 2!!!! x

KT1985

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

Millie had awful positional talipes both sides when she was born, we had to do the foot manipulations too, pleased to say that corrected it without the need for further intervention and you would never know now that she had ever had it. So keep up with the foot manipulations everytime you change him, they really do work!

Thank you- that is really reassuring.