Frightened about my future

pixiechick_2

Oh dear.

I don't think I'm in any position to give relationship advice seeing as my last one was such a mess!!

I think men in general tend to tell you to snap out of it, at least all the ones I've known have. How long has she been with him? In what way won't he commit? He's not violent or anything is he?

3Dogs

SW has your friend seen a doctor about the depression she is obviously suffering - perhaps if she had some medication, even on a temporary basis, she may be able to see things a bit clearer. As to her boyfriend not committing to her - won't he or can't he - there is a difference. But I am sure that if she was in a better place mentally then the answer to that would come to her much easier. Her father's death and the job disappointment are enough to bring anyone down and she should not feel ashamed to ask for help dealing with it all.

The same old you SW - caring for others all the time but I am sure that your support will be a great help to her ((hugs))

Fitzer2000

Hi Savingwannabe, It seems like your friend may still be grieving over death of her father and is feeling quite depressed. Her BF should try and be a bit more sympathetic and understanding. She needs to get herself a new unselfish B/F.

savingwannabe

Crumbs no. He is not violent or aggressive or anything like that. If he was i would have sent my other friend's husbands round straight away to rescue her.
He never talks about the future, they have been together for over a year and a half and she wants to get married. That's all she has ever wanted. She is such a nice, gentle person, she has no confidence at all and I think she has handled her dad's passing really well and she has supported her mum through it too whilst working two part time jobs.

If my dad passed away i would be distraught. I cannot imagine how else she could pull herself together. I think he is being really insensitive. I liked him when i met him. He has always been kind to me as he knows i am a bit wierd. So i like him but i cannot believe how much distress he is causing her.

I am taking her out for a meal at the weekend and we will go on a girly day to Brighton next week that will cheer her up.

Why is life so complicated?

never-in-doubt

savingwannabe wrote: »

What would you do?

Leave :eek:

- chat later ladies......





* Niddy knows when it is time to leave the "party" :rotfl: :rotfl:

pixiechick_2

Hi SW

I've got to go now. I hope your friend is feeling ok? It does sound like she's depressed but I'm not sure about medication. I'm on antidepressants but I still feel down a lot of the time in addition to them making me apathetic and lethargic. Maybe they're not the right type for me. Your friend's boyfriend should certainly be more sympathetic. The death of your father isn't something that you can 'snap out' of in a few months.

savingwannabe

Now did Niddy mean she should leave or he is leaving as this is a female issue? I am stuck.

I really am thick at all this relationship nonsense. I am just going to feed her cake and tiramasu (- she is always on a diet!!!) it will be hard and suggest going to doctor for depression. I dont want to pressurise her i think i should listen and keep hugging her and telling her how much me and her mum think of her so she feels more confident and then she can decide for herself. Hey thanks 3 dogs, i feel wiser.

hugs, Sw.

savingwannabe

Bless you Pixie, 3 Dogs and Fitzer. I feel as though i have learned something useful.

This wisdom malarkey is hard work. I am going to ring her back and tell her she is amazing.

3Dogs

SW you are one beautiful person :j

Hubbie says he is depressed can he have cake and tiramisu???? say no he has had his quota of chocolate this week

never-in-doubt

savingwannabe wrote: »

Now did Niddy mean or he is leaving as this is a female issue? I am stuck. .

correct hehe