Sons benefits help

sunnyone

DeeDee07 wrote: »

Ok thanks for your help,well maybe if he stays here mon to friday (which is much easier for us all) and his nan weekends.Would she still be entitled to more rent thats way (she currently gets single person rate and has to pay 20 a week out of her 65 allowance) thanks x

Houseing benefit like any other benefit, two people cant claim it so his nan will not get more rent if you are claiming a room for him.

DeeDee07

missmontana wrote: »

sorry but i don 't understand why you are doing this, it seems to be so your mum can get extra money for her rent??

Will she not be going back to work? And if she did wouldn't that mean you have to change all the arrangements again?

No its not and its responses like urs that keep me away from this site.
To everyone else thanks

shegirl

How about just doing what is apparently best for your son rather than making it about who gets what benefit when it happens.I agree you seem more concerned with what extra benefit his gran will get or what you may lose for her to gain more.You've changed your mind on the plan so you keep his benefits?!!!That's WRONG!

Your mum will not get extra money if he is there at weekends.Although you should give her some to assist in supporting him while he's there.That's something then isn't it.

missmontana

I was only asking.....

If she is on jobseekers she will have to be available for work Thats the rules! She can't ay she is caring for her grandson if you are claiming carers allowance.

It just all seems a bit strange. You can't have it all!

kingfisherblue

Another alternative that would allow your mum to return to work and you to keep your benefits would be to apply for weekend foster care for your son. That way, you would get some respite from caring but be no worse off financially. Of course, it wouldn't be every week - probably one in every four or six weekends - and it could take some time to organise.

You might also be entitled to Direct Payments to employ somebody to look after your son whilst you have some respite, but this is only likely to be a few hours a week, and not overnight.

I fully understand the difficulties in raising a child with disabilities as I have a son with complex needs myself, but if I passed the bulk of his care to another person, I would not expect to continue to receive the same amount in benefits. I'm afraid that your post does come across as wanting to have as much as possible out of the benefits system and not what is best for your son.

welshmoneylover

I think this has to be one of the most bizarre threads I've ever read on the benefits forum.

You have a disabled child and rather than putting his welfare first, you seem hell bent on shunting him around to maximise benefits?

Words just fail me on this one..........

Perhaps social services would be interested in what you are doing?

christine_chris_chrissy

Have any of the people posting replies had years of caring for a dissabled child?
perhaps the carer needs a break! it is a very issolated life leaving you exhausted day in day out.a few hours restbite is not enough!
If the o p situation is any thing like mine the house will be a complete mess after this many years of caring & in need of repair & decorating ? trying to post on here while that exhausted may be difficult to explain fully. I can't believe some of the horrible comments.:(

shegirl

christine_chris_chrissy wrote: »

Have any of the people posting replies had years of caring for a dissabled child?
perhaps the carer needs a break! it is a very issolated life leaving you exhausted day in day out.a few hours restbite is not enough!
If the o p situation is any thing like mine the house will be a complete mess after this many years of caring & in need of repair & decorating ? trying to post on here while that exhausted may be difficult to explain fully. I can't believe some of the horrible comments.:(

Yes I have!And there is no way on earth I'd play around with my sons life and change arrangements to keep benefits!

Furthermore, I wouldn't even dream of keeping any form of benefit received for caring for him if he was living elsewhere from monday to friday.

Sorry,but with how this looks -being all about the benefits- is sick!

Needing a break is different to wanting the benefits given to you for looking after the child when they aren't bloody living with you

sunnyone

christine_chris_chrissy wrote: »

Have any of the people posting replies had years of caring for a dissabled child?
perhaps the carer needs a break! it is a very issolated life leaving you exhausted day in day out.a few hours restbite is not enough!
If the o p situation is any thing like mine the house will be a complete mess after this many years of caring & in need of repair & decorating ? trying to post on here while that exhausted may be difficult to explain fully. I can't believe some of the horrible comments.:(

Are you for real?

This thread is about scaming the system to allow his nan to claim extra HB and anything else they can get while his mum claims every benefit there is, a double dip.

missmontana

christine_chris_chrissy wrote: »

Have any of the people posting replies had years of caring for a dissabled child?
perhaps the carer needs a break! it is a very issolated life leaving you exhausted day in day out.a few hours restbite is not enough!
If the o p situation is any thing like mine the house will be a complete mess after this many years of caring & in need of repair & decorating ? trying to post on here while that exhausted may be difficult to explain fully. I can't believe some of the horrible comments.:(

If that were the case, surely she'd be asking if there were any benefits or grants she can get to make adaptions to her home or seeking advice on respite care? like Kingfisher said.