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DMP - Budget item queried by creditor, CCCS want to shut down plan!?

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  • OrkneyStar
    OrkneyStar Posts: 7,025 Forumite
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    edited 23 February 2010 at 2:38PM
    I think it should just be mentioned that we need to keep this from going into a religious debate about the ethics and morals behind tithing, and that we should focus on tithing in relation to a financial statement.
    In the past I have seen tithes on financial statements, and they have always been accepted. The OP has a faith in which tithing is very important fundamentally to them- it is as acceptable that they are allowed this as someone else may be allowed a basic sky package, for example. I cannot see how anyone can refuse someone else a genuine payment related to their religion. In the bigger picture- what exactly does this small creditor plan to do anyway ? If they are only a small creditor it would not be worth their while spending more money to recover the debt ? Could you not just pay them anyway even if they don't officially accept ?
    thewad wrote: »
    Will the church bail you out if you can't afford the rent?
    You owe people money but you'd rather give it to the church, think you need to get your priorities in order.
    Great move by the church though promising blessing if you give them 10% of your income, bit like pay per view pay per blessing.
    Wonder who's making money out this scam.
    Sorry if I'm not sympathetic but I think you can see where I'm going.
    For once I'm on creditors side here.
    What happens if, in the last week of the month you have no money for food?
    That 10% would have fed you instead of lining someone's back pocket.

    John
    I do have to agree with this point. Would the church help to pay for food out of the tithe money?
    Surely as a Money Advice Assistant with CAB you have to be non-judgemental ?
    Agreeing that a tythe is 'lining someones pocket' is hardly that, is it ?
    (Perhaps if you want to broadcast that you are a Money Adviser you should also adhere to the principles of being a Money Adviser ?).
    Just a thought!
    Ermutigung wirkt immer besser als Verurteilung.
    Encouragement always works better than judgement.

  • DGJsaver
    DGJsaver Posts: 2,777 Forumite
    OrkneyStar wrote: »
    it is as acceptable that they are allowed this as someone else may be allowed a basic sky package,


    What about if they have both......
  • OrkneyStar
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    DGJsaver wrote: »
    What about if they have both......
    I did wonder if we might be able to see the SoA, as then it might be easier to make some constructive comments ?
    Ermutigung wirkt immer besser als Verurteilung.
    Encouragement always works better than judgement.

  • DGJsaver
    DGJsaver Posts: 2,777 Forumite
    Exactly....
  • DGJsaver
    DGJsaver Posts: 2,777 Forumite
    I think it`s a very emotive subject in relation to the board that we are all on...it was ALWAYS going to drift onto the ins and outs of wether its justified or not , which in a way , is good as its debt free wannabee where people will have opinions on how to be , err , debt free...which may include not paying a church 10% of income when you owe others...
  • OrkneyStar
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    tedsd wrote: »
    These posts seem to have moved away from Maureen who started a thread because she was worried, wonder how she is feeling now?
    I have tried to suggest things for Maureen to do, so will reiterate the main things incase they are lost among the other stuff:
    1. let us see the SoA and see if we can make any suggestions ? How long will the DMP take ?
    2. approach an elder- what might they suggest ?
    3. pay the creditor anyway, they might just be trying their luck especially if it is a small debt ?
    4. And this is from a purely non- Money Advice stance, but she and her husband should pray together, even if just to get some peace about the whole thing.
    All the best Maureen.
    Ermutigung wirkt immer besser als Verurteilung.
    Encouragement always works better than judgement.

  • immoral_angeluk
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    edited 23 February 2010 at 3:04PM
    OrkneyStar wrote: »
    In the past I have seen tithes on financial statements, and they have always been accepted. The OP has a faith in which tithing is very important fundamentally to them- it is as acceptable that they are allowed this as someone else may be allowed a basic sky package, for example. I cannot see how anyone can refuse someone else a genuine payment related to their religion. In the bigger picture- what exactly does this small creditor plan to do anyway ? If they are only a small creditor it would not be worth their while spending more money to recover the debt ? Could you not just pay them anyway even if they don't officially accept ?

    Surely as a Money Advice Assistant with CAB you have to be non-judgemental ?
    Agreeing that a tythe is 'lining someones pocket' is hardly that, is it ?
    (Perhaps if you want to broadcast that you are a Money Adviser you should also adhere to the principles of being a Money Adviser ?).
    Just a thought!
    No, what I said has been misinterpreted. I only agreed with the principle of the last part and then asked if the church would help them out if they had been in need of food. I'm not being judgemental.

    For the record I post on here in a personal, not professional capacity.
    N.B: and by principle I mean that if it came to it that I had to choose between feeding my family and paying 10% to a church, I PERSONALLY would choose food. But then again I'm pagan and we don't have churches or tithes! lol
    Total 'Failed Business' Debt £29,043
    Que sera, sera. <3
  • OrkneyStar
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    DGJsaver wrote: »
    I think it`s a very emotive subject in relation to the board that we are all on...it was ALWAYS going to drift onto the ins and outs of wether its justified or not , which in a way , is good as its debt free wannabee where people will have opinions on how to be , err , debt free...which may include not paying a church 10% of income when you owe others...
    The thing is the OP may feel that they owe much more of a debt to God than any creditor! I agree it is a tough one, and as immoral_angel says, I don't think there are any definitive 'rules' on this one, we would just hope a creditor would be sensitive to someones faith, be that muslim, LDS or other. To a person of faith a tithe is a completely different expense than a normal day to day one such as groceries or petrol or whatever! I think my main question would be how paying this tithe alters the length of the DMP (some bright spark will tell me it will take 10% longer lol!).
    Ermutigung wirkt immer besser als Verurteilung.
    Encouragement always works better than judgement.

  • and in relation to the sky packages, a basic sky package would be acceptable in some circumstances, such as if they were within a 12 month contract, which if they cancelled would mean they would be liable for the whole remaining term. If it's more than the basic package though, creditors may ask for the package to be reduced.
    Total 'Failed Business' Debt £29,043
    Que sera, sera. <3
  • DGJsaver
    DGJsaver Posts: 2,777 Forumite
    See what i mean , some would argue God would want a follower to pay what they owe ....thats not being harsh , just trying to put across how it looks to others , on this board , who are being asked to help others become debt free etc
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