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determined_new_ms

Hi I'm really sorry to hear you are having a hard time, you've got a lot on your plate and you're going to need support so you can stay well enough to support your partner.

You need to contact the Mental Health Team (not Social services as they a\re for children and families) and either ask to speak to the duty officer/CPN and arrange an a appointment with the consultant. I would advise you write a list of your concerns so they are fully addressed in the meeting. Maybe your partner's children can come to this meeting so they are aware and fully involved in trying to support your partner with her recovery, it does sound like you all need to work together and not be pulling in opposite directions. I also think you should request for a carers assessment from the MHT to see what support you need, they have a statutory duty to do this.

Contact Rethink Adviceline on 0808 8083333 6pm-11pm for information about carers groups in your local area

Contact Mental Health Matters 5pm-9pm Mon-Fri, 24hrs at the weekend, & Saneline 0845 7678000 6pm-11pm for advice and support.

I wish you all the best

determined_new_ms

tandraig - hun, if she has attempted suicide 16 times in 8 years and hasnt succeeded - then she wasnt serious about it and is using the threat of suicide to control you.
you want out - then get out - she is an adult and her life choices are NOT under your control only hers.
this is emotional blackmail on her part - now do you want to spend the rest of your life living like this?
because from your post - I would be worried that you would make one successful attempt at suicide in the future.
my advice - leave now, I doubt very much that she would be successful at the next attempt or that she would even make one.[/QUOTE]

I see where you are coming from but Mental Illness is very hard to live with. Depression especially is a debillitating health condition and robs ppl of their "hope", its sometimes easier for someone with Schizophrenia to recover than for ppl with deep depression. I've worked with ppl who have made multiple attempts on their lives, it doesn't mean that they weren't serious. There is a pyramid to assessing how serious suicidal thoughts are, 3 levels: 1. suicidal thoughts 2. + mode, 3. ++ time frame. This needs to be assessed, none of us on this forum are in the position to make an assessment