Hen RAGE! Argh!!!!!

birduk

It doesn't matter if you SHOULD appologise or not, you are being a very good friend. I think that is a really lovely e-mail. Hopefully she can take it as it was meant.

bubble96

wow! you are really being taken advantage of! have you mentioned the point to her that you had already done lots of searching like she had requested you do? email her all the details and say this is what i was planning as your surprise like you had requested, but you have taken it out of my hands without regard for my time effort and feelings, and see what she says! if someone sent that to me i would then feel so guilty i would appologise immediately (not that i would ever behave like that in the first place) Unfortunately i think weddings can bring out the worst in people, but thats usually because of the huge stress of organising everything, but then it doesnt sound like shes done much of that, so whats her excuse?!

Lexxi

The ball is in her court. Sometimes you have to step back a bit to keep hold of everything. If it was me that had sent that and she didn't reply then I'd think I was having a lucky escape. Friends sometimes get too involved or too close and you need a breather, especially if you've ended up wrongly venting stress on them.
I would the weddingy things out of it for a while and carry on as normal, like if you have lunch every weekend still meet up. I don't see how she can stay p!ssy with you after that though

hellokitty08

Well I told her ages ago what I found, but she poo pooed it as she wanted her / our other friend to be involved. (i said nothing) It was a wooden lodge that slept 12 people, had two private jacuzzis and was going to be £80 each for three nights. I was planning a day trip to Alton Towers and a beauty therapist to vist the lodge and chocolate fountins. The latest plans are around £120-£150 and involve all your typical hen do things, which if she wants to do is fine, im just about fusy about spending that sort of money.

Anybody want to use my services instead? hehehe

Lexxi

That sounds lovely where was that?

Lexxi

Sorry, missed your last comment, yes please!! I'm 60 miles away from everyone and OH can only say that's nice and the excitement of ordering the wedding shoes sent him to sleep the other night! Mum and MOH keep replying to emails bt with lengthy versions of 'that's nice' lol

hellokitty08

Ramshorn Lodge - http://www.theramshornestate.co.uk/alton-towers-lodges-stanton.html

Cheif Bridesmaid for hire, free to a good appreciative home, just requires pretty dress for the day, doesnt mind if its a MSE dress either! lol

Lexxi

they're brilliant! haha, and they allow dogs, I keep telling OH that the dog needs to be involved.


Thanks for that, I was thinking about a spa type weekend but this would work out much better and you could do so much more. Might price it up. Thank you

ebeneezer_2

My goodness, what an absolute star.
I am almost sad that I've done all the wedding thing because I'd have loved to have taken you up on your offer. I did much of my organising myself (control freak) but maybe would have requested assistance if I had a pal like you.
I hope it is just wedding stress that is getting to your friend, I know I possibly didn't communicate as well as I should (and as well as I thought I was) because you feel like you have the same conversations so many times. Maybe she's having difficulty remembering who she's said what to?
Anyway, as I have lost my husband this weekend to a stag do for a wedding next week....
Hellokitty08, will you be my valentine???!!!!!!
I hope it all yurns out well for you both and you all have a fabulous hen do and wedding and happily ever after :EasterBun
Sorry, had to put the bunny scoffer in because I thought it was amusing and made me wonder if this will be the bride to be's response to your peace-offering!

karen_newcastle

birduk wrote: »

FORGET THE E-MAIL, TALK TO EACH OTHER!!!

Sorry, had to shout. So much can be misconstrued in an e-mail as you can't get tone across. It all sounds rather stressful to me. Call her and clear it all up. You are a good friend so don't forget it. x

I haven't read any of the the replies but this one sums it all up. I had exactly the same problem with my chief BM and one phone call sorted out out. Emails and Texts cause a lot of these sorts of problems.:(