does anyone have this with a neighbour or anyone?

euronorris

No one has 'made' you feel uncomfortable though. That is how you chose to react to the situation.

I don't speak to my neighbours much, and I'm not bothered, in the slightest, if they talk to me or not. So long as they aren't being a nuisance/too loud etc etc then whether they wish to speak to me or not is entirely their choice.

Why should anyone be friends or friendly with other people just because they live close to each other? I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being friendly, but I don't see why it should be forced on everyone.

busiscoming2

I have a neighbour who sometimes says hello and at other times will ignore me (and others)
Someone at work is like this too. I think it just moodiness, no excuse really not to acknowledge someone.

red_devil

euronorris wrote: »

No one has 'made' you feel uncomfortable though. That is how you chose to react to the situation.

same thing. The poster was made to feel uncomfortable. Sometimes peoples behaviour does.

Debt_Free_Chick

I only popped in to say "hello" but it looks like the lunatics have taken over the asylum

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

smileypigface

I can tell I'm getting old because I've started saying 'good morning' type greetings to people - I've got one of those faces that people say "don't worry, it'll never happen" to - I'm not miserable but sometimes get lost in thought and must look a bit glum!!! So I don't worry if other people look happy or not - although I find that if you smile first then people often smile back anyway, regardless of their mood.

I learned to ride a motorbike a few years ago - and loved it that so many bikers 'nod' a greeting to each other. Then we got our first dog and it just seemed to be the done thing to say good morning/afternoon/evening to people we pass on our walks (usually other dog walkers!). And I also love the fact that when we pass other dog walkers with the same breed (English Springer Spaniel ) they often will stop and pass the time of day, talk about their dogs etc while the dogs have a little play.

Why not just say hello to people you pass - especially if they are neighbours - it doesn't cost anything - and it makes (most) people cheery!!

euronorris

red_devil wrote: »

euronorris wrote: »

No one has 'made' you feel uncomfortable though. That is how you chose to react to the situation.

same thing. The poster was made to feel uncomfortable. Sometimes peoples behaviour does.

It is not the same thing.

We all have a choice in how we react to situations. No one made him/her feel that way, it was how he/she chose to react. Someone else, myself for example, wouldn't be bothered. Is the neighbour then still rude? And, how are you supposed to know who will be offended and who won't be?

And, I would like to know if you all acknowledge/greet every single person you meet, every single day, without fail? I doubt it. In which case, just brush it off as a bad day for them.

Why do you care so much anyway?

tiamai_d

I will smile at folk, sometimes say hi and that's it. I don't want to be friends with my neighbours. These folk hear us having a row or loud sex why would I want to look em in the face?

peachyprice

My neighbours are Lithuanian, goodness knows what they're saying to me half the time, but they're always smiling at me.

red_devil

. No one made him/her feel that way, it was how he/she chose to react. Someone else, myself for example, wouldn't be bothered.

yes but your not her SHE felt uncomfortable. You can only speak from your own experience.

I fully understand how someones behaviour can make a person feel uncomfortable. So if some pervert was acting odd round your child would you say he didnt make me feel uncomfortable it was the way i choose to react.

Load of rubbish what your saying. Agree to Disagree.

This is off topic in a way anyway. The question is/was does anyone have a neighbour who speaks but they always feel they have to speak first and it feels odd.

JimmyTheWig

paddy's_mum wrote: »

lend the neighbour's kids our puncture repair outfit ...

You have an outfit to wear when repairing punctures? Like a "bicycle repair man" type thing?
Cool!