does anyone have this with a neighbour or anyone?

red_devil

Is anyone in a situation where they feel they always have to say hello first to someone weird to explain.

euronorris

I don't understand.

Who's weird and what do you have to explain?

Blackpool_Saver

eh? (and filler text)

kindofagilr

I dont understand lol

brians_daughter

was just gonna ask same Q as could be taken a few ways

ie why do we have to hello when addressing someone ie 'Hello, did the postie leave a parcel for me'
If this is what op means, its cause its called manners and is expected in society as a salutation

Or maybe she feels she need to say hello to neighbours when she sees them?
This again is manners to uphold some friendliness with neightbours rather than just ignoring them as they have nothing else to say?

Or does op mean something else?

I dunno!

aliasojo

red_devil wrote: »

Is anyone in a situation where they feel they always have to say hello first to someone weird to explain.

My neighbour is kinda funny sometimes and you never really know whether to speak or not. I'll speak to anyone and often say hi to people I don't know but she makes me feel awkward and I never know whether to say hi first or completely ignore her. :rotfl:

I think it's always better to say hi first, that way people know you're friendly and if they don't want to reciprocate then more fool them. At least by speaking first you get over that 'will we speak, wont we speak' thing. Unless of course you're my neighbour. Then I wont practice what I preach and I'll just stand there feeling stupid.:D

terryw

If Red Devil puts a full-stop after "someone" and a capital letter on "weird" it does make sense.

Yes, over the years I have known several neighbours who would just not speak unless I spoke first. Really I think they were just shy and no offence was intended.

Or they just realized that I am nut-case!

red_devil

aliasojo wrote: »

My neighbour is kinda funny sometimes and you never really know whether to speak or not. I'll speak to anyone and often say hi to people I don't know but she makes me feel awkward and I never know whether to say hi first or completely ignore her. :rotfl:

I think it's always better to say hi first, that way people know you're friendly and if they don't want to reciprocate then more fool them. At least by speaking first you get over that 'will we speak, wont we speak' thing. Unless of course you're my neighbour. Then I wont practice what I preach and I'll just stand there feeling stupid.:D

thanks! You seem to understand what i meant. I didnt think it was that hard to be honest.

peachyprice

It is hard to understand what you mean, it reads like you have to say hello first to somone wierd, and you have to explain that to them.

paddy's_mum

I had a neighbour like this once. I never knew whether they were shy, or cross with me over something, stand-offish by nature or just moody, full stop.

I hated the uncertainty and being made to feel guilty for some unknown sin and in the end just ignored them. Your loss lady, since all the rest of us smile and say good morning and lend the neighbour's kids our puncture repair outfit ...

It is rude since by definition it makes someone else feel uncomfortable.

aliasojo

peachyprice wrote: »

It is hard to understand what you mean, it reads like you have to say hello first to somone wierd, and you have to explain that to them.

No offence meant, but if that's your interpretation then you're weirder than you think the OP's opening comment was. :rotfl:


(Just banter :D, hope I didn't offend you)