'Why are women too scared to poo?' blog discussion

pebble90

Thanks so much for raising this important issue. I too have the same problem in work, often leaving with stomach cramps, headaches and a general "icky" feeling - all because of embarrassment! It's so silly but clearly a common thing, which is reassuring (but also worrying!)! One tip I've learned is that as the poo is about to drop, flush the toilet. This gets rid of the splashing sound and also some of the smell as it is flushing the poo away quickly. If you're worried about flushing more than once (ie because you then need to flush the paper), pretend to blow your nose and then flush again!

I think Martin should make a programme about this!!

keith969

caramacgirl wrote: »

But why do men find it acceptable to break wind (fart) in public?

My father would occasionally quote a little ditty of old:

"Where ere you be,
let your wind run free.
In church or chapel,
let it rattle."

I don't see why it's any worse than coughing or hiccupping!

snowmaid

pebble90 wrote: »

Thanks so much for raising this important issue. I too have the same problem in work, often leaving with stomach cramps, headaches and a general "icky" feeling - all because of embarrassment! It's so silly but clearly a common thing, which is reassuring (but also worrying!)! One tip I've learned is that as the poo is about to drop, flush the toilet. This gets rid of the splashing sound and also some of the smell as it is flushing the poo away quickly. If you're worried about flushing more than once (ie because you then need to flush the paper), pretend to blow your nose and then flush again!

I think Martin should make a programme about this!!

:rotfl::rotfl:I'll bear this in mind! Thanks!

cp3go

Wow, I guess it makes sense there is a medical name for it. I know some friends who won't ever poo in public but I think it's because they think the toilets are dirty, unless thats their excuse. I'm not proud to poo, but its life so I do it when I have to.

FatVonD

The loo at work is always full of women touching up their make up or admiring themselves in the mirror and, depending on my mood, I'm either embarrassed or think that at least I'm in there doing what the loos were provided for and if the smell offends them then tough luck!

I have given up going to a different floor to use the loo now but the simultaneous flush covers all manner of noises and smells (less time in the air) though can leave you with a damp bottom:eek:

As for not being able to poo in front of a partner, on at least two occasions I have asked ex boyfriends to stand outside the loo at parties to go in after me so everyone thought it was them

Sakura_Yuki

I am most certainly a 'nervous poo-er' - I would be absolutely humiliated if anyone caught me in the act at work (or anywhere else, for that matter).

Used to have three male housemates. I would only poop just before getting in the shower, so that I could start it running to cover any noise & make sure the smell had time to go before I left the bathroom!

I have gotten over The Bloke knowing I am 'dropping the kids off at the pool', but have never been heard to fart in front of him. If one sneaks out, I blame it on the nearest cat! :A

I am so glad to find I'm not the only woman in the world who can't poop in a public kharzi, as some of the skid marks & smells I encounter in the ladies bogs at work seem to suggest nobody else there cares much!

My old job wasn't too bad, as the cubicles were fully enclosed & had toilets in every department. So if I absolutely *had* to go, I would sneak off to the ones upstairs, as there were only about two women in that area. If they were both on the phone or obviously busy, I'd risk it.

Found this guide to dumping at work a while back. Thought some of you might get a good laugh out of it!

killielila

i had a public toilet avoidance my mates used to be amazed that on a nigt out i would o to tha ladies AT ALL even after having DD. developing ibs means i sometimes need to but still try to avoid anywhere but mine own if i can but with my tum as screwed up as it is i dont always get the choice when its time it time to GO!

MrsRogers

I read Martins blog and completly believed it ... strangley enough I have had a number of similar conversations with friends at work. Isn't it odd we are more then happy to discuss the subject in great detail however can not complete a natural function our bodies all require!

I to like many suffer a bowel disorder which I dont have the choice of 'when i have to go' i just have to. It is embarressing and there are work arounds as discussed above... None are the answer.

I agree with Martin.. as women we need to just get to a point that it becomes acceptable!

Shadowsfall

This is such an excellent thread! I used to 'hold on' and then suffered horribly with stomach aches and had to remedy the situation with colonic hydrotherapy and a wheat free diet! (Which I must say was quite pleasant - don't listen to the horror stories!).

I figured - b*gger it. I got over the embarressment as it's not worth the pain!

Shain

teabelly wrote: »

...Makes me gassy too so I'd be leaving any open plan office regularly for a sneaky fart as I wouldn't like to inflict them on co-workers. Some days they'd be classed as chemical warfare.

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I used to share a (very small) office with a vegetarian. I know where you think this is going but it's much funnier: next door to us was the office of a really stuck-up cow who neither of us liked, not least because she'd nabbed an office to herself although she rarely worked in it, so he used to go into her room when she wasn't there and let rip then step out again, firmly closing the door to keep the smell in as much as possible! She must have thought there was something wrong with the drains! :rotfl: