The very good Daddies thread (Mums may post too)

Ivrytwr3

neneromanova wrote: »

Everyone has different ways of parenting. There is no right or wrong way!!!

Oh i strongly disagree. My SIL is a Teaching assistant and does the walking bus that picks up some of the kids. Some of the stories she has told me!!!! :eek::eek::eek:

Brother an sister been pushed out the door shouting "I'm hungry, can we have some breakfast?" Mum chucking them an orange and saying "share that" (well i suppose they are getting part of their 5 a day!)

A dad who refuses to help his son get work in on time - ie he had a project that had to be in by the friday, come friday, no home work. A letter was sent giving a few extra days, still no sign after the extension. So his group lost house points. Cue the dad storming into school yelling that he has better thing to do on an evening and a morning that sorting kids homework - that's why they come to school, to learn!! (the kid is 5).

And that's just the mild stuff.

Lotus-eater

neneromanova wrote: »

Sorry but this is ridiculous. All those mums and dads in the other thread are not JUST bad. I'm sure they too do things which are really great for their children, at least in their eyes, just like most of the stuff that you have all posted are good in your eyes but may seem not normal to others.

Like someone said, this is a thread for people on their high horses to try to make them feel better about themselves.

Everyone has different ways of parenting. There is no right or wrong way!!!

Do these things.

Read the other thread, see that I posted there alot.
Get a life.
Delete which bits of your post are wrong.

Hint, all of it.

Lotus-eater

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

With you on this one. So many times you hear parents coming out with crap or saying "I don't know".

If i'm not sure (i won't ever admit that mind; dad knows everything because he studied hard at school!!) I would say:

eg.....

"Dad, where are the pyramids and what are they for?"

"Ooooh! Let's look that up"

HOwever, on the bad side of things, we were queuing to get into Flamingo Land and the over 5 prices were the same as an adult (about £24!!) So i told son who is 5, that if asked he is 4

I think you should be shamed into posting the bad one on the Bad Thread

I do the same finding things out, Google is indeed our friend. DD is now coming out with some interesting questions, I'm learning alot myself tbh.

honeypop

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Post if you have done something over and above the normal parenting duties, to make your little one a better person.

pigpen wrote: »

I make sure they have a constant supply of fresh fruit/veg..

I make sure have 3 meals a day

They always have properly fitted shoes

They have excellent general knowledge

They have clean warm suitable clothes

Mine have experienced different religious beliefs and ways of worship to enable them to make an informed choice

They understand the value of family and being loved no matter what and that there is always someone there to talk to, support them

They know they are loved and wanted

Aren't these 'normal' rather than over and above?

Morgan_Ree

honeypop wrote: »

Aren't these 'normal' rather than over and above?

Does it really matter?

I'm sure this thread, as well as the bad mummies thread is just a bit of lighthearted fun

If you do feel the need to be picky tho, I've just posted on the bad mummies thread how I sent my son to nursery with no breakfast :eek:
Knock yourself out :cool:

Ivrytwr3

You would like to think so and in a lot of cases it is. But in some children's home life, this is far, far from the norm

onlyroz

gingin wrote: »

- I promised myself that whenever my children asked a sensible
question I would always give an answer and if I couldn't answer it, I would find it out (google is my friend).

What about the one my son came out with the other day: "what happens when you die?" :eek: Not being religeous, I tried the "different people think different things", which he didn't understand, so then I had to settle for "nobody really knows".

gingin_2

onlyroz wrote: »

What about the one my son came out with the other day: "what happens when you die?" :eek: Not being religeous, I tried the "different people think different things", which he didn't understand, so then I had to settle for "nobody really knows".

At least it's a truth though - we don't know.

I am more talking about factual stuff, I guess. It's like when a child says "whay do we get rain" and a parent will say "it's the clouds crying", or "what is cloud?" "it's cotton wool balls in the sky". I've always tried to give them a straight answer even if I haven't known it myself. I had to look up sleet and snow yesterday because I really didn't know the difference. The only one I struggle with is Father Christmas, I don't like lying to the kids but realise that it's nice to keep the magic alive. I tend to divert onto the traditional story of Saint Nicholas and then tell them it is up to them if they want to believe in the magic - so I guess I failed there. I find ghosts a difficult one to answer too.

The religious one is interesting - my children go to a church school and whilst dd's beliefs tend to be influenced by the school, ds tends to have formed the same opinion as me re. evolution. I let them talk about it and don't really force my own opinions as they will form their own strong ones in the end.

mumOf2wonderfulkids

i have posted a [STRIKE]little bit[/STRIKE] alot on the other thread
and yes it is light hearted fun, i dont think any posters on there would deliberately harm their child or put them in serious danger (think back to when you were a kid and im sure you got up to far worse)
and we are not all bad
DD has just turned 6 and had a birthday party, however her best friend (a boy, gonna have to watch that as they get older!) couldn't make it as his mum didnt drive, so after setting up her party, i drove all the way to pick him up, take him to the party and drop him back after.
i always give in and clean DD's bedroom (i cant bear the mess and she just does not do it)
when ds was a baby, we felt she wasnt getting much attention from us, so we arranged for parents-in-law to look after ds whilst we took her away for a few days to spend quality time with her.
i spoil my children (probably way too much) if the want a certain item for birthdays etc and it is expensive, i would rather get them that as i know they want it, than getting them lots of little things they dont want.
i have always brought the kids up to eat fruit as snacks, they love fruits and veg and would eat that rather than crisps / chocolate.
im not a great cook, but we have a roast EVERY sunday, and we always sit at the table to eat meals and talk about our days.
i love my kids but for some reason its easier to list the bad mummy things that what it is the good mummy things, so im going to go skulk of to that thread again

honeypop

Morgan_Ree wrote: »

Does it really matter?

I'm sure this thread, as well as the bad mummies thread is just a bit of lighthearted fun

Yes, I got that. Apologies for my question not coming across in the lighthearted manner it was meant (probably because I don't use smilies, they give me the creeps!).

Morgan_Ree wrote: »

If you do feel the need to be picky tho, I've just posted on the bad mummies thread how I sent my son to nursery with no breakfast

Mine goes to nursery without breakfast every time (although they provide it for him so I don't feel so bad).