been invited to wedding evening only and...

littleredhen

just a pet hate of mine .... we went to a wedding - whole day thing and bought a gift as per the gift list - got a thank you about 5 weeks afterand it just said "thank you for the gift - (no mention of what it was) - we are glad you could join us"sorry just being a bit old fashioned but it really annoyed me

rene2b

stenweb wrote: »

Would it be more acceptable to ask for a contribution to the Honeymoon? This is what we are planning to do, because like most people we have most things we need (apart from a new house!), but the wedding budget doesn't quite cover the honeymoon

im also asking for money because people are already asking what we want and we have said we'd love a holiday to which a few have said'sorry but im not paying for you to go on your hols':rotfl:
so we have just put cash or chq will do :T

i was abit worried about asking for money but most well all have said there just glad we have asked FOR SOMTHING unlike some not asking for anything

mr_and_mrs_ts

much appreciated all your comments - wow it's almost political giving presents / not giving presents and giving money / vouchers etc.i was amazed at how many responses i got but thanks anyway....Wishing all the best to you all, esp those due to tie the knot soon hope all goes to plan.:T

rene2b

littleredhen wrote: »

just a pet hate of mine .... we went to a wedding - whole day thing and bought a gift as per the gift list - got a thank you about 5 weeks afterand it just said "thank you for the gift - (no mention of what it was) - we are glad you could join us"sorry just being a bit old fashioned but it really annoyed me

thats what everyone is saying they dont want presents just your present(:rotfl:dont think ive done that right)

frannyann

Its a toughie to get right, and everyone thinks differently. I have simply put, at the bottom of the info sheet (hotels, parking etc),

'We do not have a gift list, we would just like your company, However if you wish to mark the day we have a just giving page www.justgiving etc or we are saving up for a honeymoon at a later date.'

Hopefully that is enough to ward off any 'toaster bearers' LOL!

karen_newcastle

This is a dilemma for the the Bride and Groom. When I got married many of my evening guests asked what we wanted and maybe this couple are just giving the guests a helping hand in what to get them. Your first post kind of made it seem like they were demanding money but I doubt that's the case.

I would have been happy for a cash present....I would also have been happy with no present and just their company.....or any type of pressie for that matter! So just give the couple what you've bought them, I am sure they will be delighted!

hunnycat

were not asking for anything as i think its rude to ask for hard cash but also know that the majority will just give us cash;)

give them the present and dont worry about it

sal-ad_daze

littleredhen wrote: »

just a pet hate of mine .... we went to a wedding - whole day thing and bought a gift as per the gift list - got a thank you about 5 weeks afterand it just said "thank you for the gift - (no mention of what it was) - we are glad you could join us"sorry just being a bit old fashioned but it really annoyed me

Going back to my wedding - all of 26 years ago- it was before the times when it was acceptable to ask for cash so we had lots of gifts. We went on honeymoon straight away and came back two weeks later to find my gran had 'helpfully' opened all the gifts for us! Hence the generic 'thank you' notes because with the gift tags gone we had no idea who'd given what!

My dd has another reason for not having a gift list, they will hopefully be moving abroad to work shortly after the wedding but won't ask for cash so guests are being referred to me if they ask, although most know the situation so hopefully wont ask!

sarah_elton

littleredhen wrote: »

just a pet hate of mine .... we went to a wedding - whole day thing and bought a gift as per the gift list - got a thank you about 5 weeks afterand it just said "thank you for the gift - (no mention of what it was) - we are glad you could join us"sorry just being a bit old fashioned but it really annoyed me

We're only having around 80 guests, which consists of 45 people/families. I'm planning to hand-write the thank you cards personalised to each person/group and thank them specifically for what they give us (if anything obviously!) and for coming. I've made thank you cards that match our invites.

However, if someone had 200 guests that would be a bit of a nightmare to do!

Re the 5 weeks - a lot of people are away for two weeks and then their gift list presents aren't actually delivered until another two or three weeks after that so the timescale isn't really surprising. I don't think people will spend time on their honeymoon writing the thank you cards.

Horace

I dont mind being asked for vouchers as in my cousin's case but I do object to being asked for hard cash. If you want a contribution to your honeymoon, why not ask for some Thomas Cook vouchers?