been invited to wedding evening only and...

mr_and_mrs_ts

Hi all

Just thought I would open a discussion to see what you thought. Just got the invite to someone's wedding, evening reception only and been asked for money. I have already bought a present though. Should I ditch the pressie and give some money?

Thanks for your comments Mr and mrs ts

Minxy_Bella

I'd give them the present still - it's a bit rude of them to ask specifically for money. When we got married, we said anything would be lovely but if people were stuck for ideas, then funds towards our double glazing bill would be very much appreciated.

HTH

mr_and_mrs_ts

it made me feel a bit uncomfortable reading this in the invite as we too never asked for money - however I appreciate they have their own home already set up like most people do these days and me and my hubby did - i was chuffed with the gift I had bought too ( very money saving, lol) but still it's the thought that counts i think. thanks minxy for your view

Birdie85

I'd give them the present, especially as you're a evening guest, not an 'all-dayer'! I prefer giving presents and don't like the idea of giving people money so I'm the annoying person who'll turn up with a gift when everyone else brings a cheque!

jackieb

I agree with the other posters. I think it's a wee bit cheeky on their part, especially as you're not going to the whole do. Give your gift. I thought of any gift I got, as a bonus when I got married.

jackieb

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

I'd give them the present still - it's a bit rude of them to ask specifically for money. When we got married, we said anything would be lovely but if people were stuck for ideas, then funds towards our double glazing bill would be very much appreciated.

HTH

I'd be happy if I got an invitation that was worded like that.

Ivrytwr3

I think it's a sign of the times. When i got married i wouldn't dare of asked for cash, it just wasn't done. But, i think perhaps these days it's accepted.

But........it is just a request, they can't force you to give money. It's your gift and i would get them what i wanted.

So give them your gift and you have nothing to feel bad about it. They should feel lucky that somebody cares enough about them to actually get them anything!

Dizzie77

I agree - give them the present....if everyone else is giving them money, they will appreciate having something to open!!!

mr_and_mrs_ts

wow thanks you all for all your comments didn't expect so many replies so quickly.:T

Stephb1986_2

I got invited to a wedding a few months ago evening do only and was asked for money we didn't go as we were already going on holiday but I do find it a bit cheeky asking for a gift if your only going to the evening part of the wedding.

Steph xx

mrsW2b

I wouldn't find it strange being given a gift list for an evening invite, i would find it helpful! I would naturally bring a gift or contribution anyway regardless if I were going to the day or evening.
I guess it depends in the manner that its asked for, we're planning to do it tactfully and have no expectations. For a lot of guests, its a relief to know that you're giving them something that they would like.
I do think asking for money is a tad blunt, honeymoon/garden/DIY vouchers are more subtle but heah, we're all on this site for a reason! lol