Fight or Flight? - friend despised daughter but didn't update old will.

Running_Horse

ninky wrote: »

an appropriate figure for what?! am i right in thinking you are planning on asking for a sum of money to stop 'getting in the way' of the sale of the house? hmmmmm

That is how it comes across here...

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=2272633

Emmzi

OP,

for all we know you've been taking advantage of an ill man and paying £2,50 a week rent and bending his mind against his family.

Whether that is true or not, maybe his daughter thinks that way. There are always 2 sides.

Your poverty and lack of savings is not this family's problem.

And if you are brassic how can you afford a solicitor? Get out, find somewhere new to lodge, stand on your own two feet in the world.

Anything else is too Jeremy Kyle to contemplate.

Leave this family alone, they owe you nothing.

ninky_2

you've also got to wonder about the girlfriend in the phillipines who got him to pay for her house to be built.

i just don't buy that a daughter who hated her dad so much would choose to move next door to him. or choose to go and change his bedsheets.

maybe she was worried about a lonely and guillible sickly man being taken advantage of?

maybe quite a few of the rows were over this?

as for the 12 month plates set that was about to be shipped off to the phillipines. well if my dad started doing this sort of thing i might get a bit peeved too.

the fact is he is now no longer here. the other fact is his will stated his estate should go to the daughter.

the OP is trying to undermine these wishes by blackmailing the executor and beneficiary of the will into making a lump sum payout to him.

bestpud

Wow, I thought there must be another side to this from the start but now I'm darn sure there is.

What a lovely person you are OP!!

If I were the daughter I'd hold onto the house for as long as it takes rather than give you a penny.

You've had a cheap existance now it's time to get yourself into the real world.

This man helped you enough when he was alive - no need to rob his estate as well! :mad:

If he hated her that much, you can be sure he'd gave acted. It's more likely he knew you and others were sponging off him but valued your company enough to put up with it.

paddy's_mum

In fairness, the OP is seeking an equitable solution to the problem, and an exchange of cash to expidite things is often suggested on the housebuying/renting thread where a sticky landlord/tenant situation exists. In business, where emotions are not allowed to get in the way of 'the bottom line', compensation is the answer in thousands of transactions every day of the week.

I suspect that it is the element of revenge or punishment in this story that is offending people and putting their backs up.

Having said that, I'm a great believer in karma and I'm absolutely certain that everyone involved in this will get what they deserve.

bestpud

paddy's_mum wrote: »

In fairness, the OP is seeking an equitable solution to the problem, and an exchange of cash to expidite things is often suggested on the housebuying/renting thread where a sticky landlord/tenant situation exists. In business, where emotions are not allowed to get in the way of 'the bottom line', compensation is the answer in thousands of transactions every day of the week.

I suspect that it is the element of revenge or punishment in this story that is offending people and putting their backs up.

Having said that, I'm a great believer in karma and I'm absolutely certain that everyone involved in this will get what they deserve.

We can certainly hope!

This kind of thing makes me so cross tbh - money should never come before the people we care about.

Mojisola

Running_Horse wrote: »

If he had wanted to disinherit his daughter, he would have done so with a copy of the will at the solicitors. Time to move on and get over your loss. Good luck with your life.

Unfortunately this isn't true. People never think that they're going to die and always think there's plenty of time to do these things. Often they will tell relatives and friends for years what they intend to do with their money and just never get round to setting it down on paper.

Running_Horse

Fair or not then, the legal position is clear. The daughter gets the inheritance.

Mojisola

Running_Horse wrote: »

Fair or not then, the legal position is clear. The daughter gets the inheritance.

Absolutely right. It's what's written down that matters.

vaio

absolutelybrassic wrote: »

.......However the solicitor said the tenancy agreement he did for me is an assured shorthold tenancy meaning that provided I keep paying my rent to the estate I cannot be evicted until probate is granted which could take months, and once granted I'd need to be served with a section 21 notice giving me a further two months notice. Unfortunately Mark does not have a similar agreement. .......

I'd have thought whoever is tasked with running the estate until probate could issue you with the required notice to quit.

As far as the other lodger is concerned in the absence of a formal agreement it would be assumed he has an assured shorthold tenancy and so would be in the same position as you