Reformed shopaholic? please can you give me the benefit of your advice

Anglea

Does that mean you're not going to Turkey next year I wonder?

Frogletina

Anglea wrote: »

Does that mean you're not going to Turkey next year I wonder?

Oh, I'll still go to Turkey. I have been going for 5 years now, but I only met Beau this year. I'll be friendly if I see him, but I won't get involved with him again. I don't regret meeting him, but it couldn't continue the way it was going

Anglea

I wonder how long he'll try and keep you interested or has he got the message yet you're not interested?

Frogletina

He hasn't got the message yet

I logged onto msn after everyone left tonight and he had just logged out 2 minutes before. It was mainly emoticons. Three words of Turkish followed by a smiley face, a hot smile face, a crying face, a broken heart, a left hug, a left and right hug, a rose, a clock, a black sheep, a moon, messenger, an eye rolling smile and finally a baring teeth smile! Then he had logged off.

Frogletina

I left a message saying, hello - I just missed you

He will probably interpret that to mean that I miss him!

Anglea

I wonder if the emoticons mean the same in every language eg black sheep?

Frogletina

Anglea wrote: »

I wonder if the emoticons mean the same in every language eg black sheep?

It did seem a strange emoticon to use. Even his Turkish is hard to translate - it didn't make sense this time but I know sometimes his spelling is suspect!

CompletelyLost

Hi all,

I'm ok, thanks ladies. Last week was difficult, but just have to get on with it. It's so weird when someone used to take up so much of your time... and now there's so much spare time left to fill, days feel extra long, and I don't know what to do with myself! Never mind.

I've been following all of your posts about relationships, but don't feel I have much to add! I feel like I'm stuck being 19 (in my head), it's all very odd. I don't know if it's worse to have experienced what some of you ladies have experienced, or worse to be in my situation. Maybe both are as bad as one and other.

I agree with others who have said to do what pleases you, as you're not hurting anyone... some people just don't want to see other people happy because they aren't happy themselves, or they have other ideas for you...

I'm off to have some breakfast, be back later xxx

Frogletina

Hi all

CL - Glad to hear from you. It can take time to come to terms with things that happen to us out of the blue, but take your time and talk as much or as little as you need to.

I find I can talk to everyone on here much easier than I can face to face with most people. I want everyone on this thread to know how important they are to me.

Ziggles, you can come out of the naughty corner now - I was only teasing!

Anglea

Hi all

CL, I'm so glad that you posted, it must be very hard for you at the moment. Been thinking about you xxxxx

Not having relationship v difficulties in relationships.

The only advice I have CL is that there seems to be a ticking clock in a lot of women that you have to get off the shelf and there is a big problem if you don't, especially if you start comparing yourself to others. But the real question is are they marrying for love or out of desperation to get off the shelf?

When I got married I found a purpose in life I didn't have before in making lists of everything I wanted for the wedding, the house, clothes etc. It's as though I completely forgot I was marrying another person and would have to live with them. I knew there were a number of issues between us but convinced myself I could make it work. I never approached the marriage by asking myself if he was a soulmate and not only was he right for me, but was I right for him?

I think you're completely right in your summing about about people trying to stop others from being happy either because they aren't or else they have another agenda.

Mum has always been a very worried lady about everything and sees relationships after you've been married or widowed as another source of potential problems. She doesn't see it as a possibility of happiness.

As to her internet paranoia - she has forgotten that ex was a complete stranger and lived over 200 miles away from me. We used to meet up in whatever town the football team he supported was playing away. He was so secretive about himself that I spoke to a private detective as I thought he must be married or have something else untoward going on