Reformed shopaholic? please can you give me the benefit of your advice

hattiefats

joolzred wrote: »

To reply to the OP - I had some serious, painful periods of illness and 3 rounds of surgery on my spine.

While I'm definitely no saint, never will be, I did begin to think about the relative "value" of things as compared to their "worth" to me. Much of the crap in the shops is geared to play on our insecurities about our outward image, even down to the branding on groceries.

Now I buy what I really need, or a few things I really really REALLY want for aesthetic or personal reasons.

I can't find the thread where I answered a while ago but a student was asking about whether she should shop in Lidl/Adli & would people laugh at her? I replied that many of the people filling up their trolleys in Waitrose or Sainsbury's with the "finest" stuff would probably be up to their eyes in debt as it's all about image and flash...

I know loads of people who shop in lidl/aldi and buy the odd one or two bits from finest ranges and m and s. Thats the way to go! Have a couple of little bits but shop sensibly on the main stuff.

lynzpower

NGlady- surveys are totally eay peasy- go on the up your income board - its all there. I do a few. There is also dooyoo which I have joined but not started I know some MSErs make 50pcm off this sometimes more.

morocha

Today is the day... i am going out with my little DD.... should i really go to town or should i just go for a walk with her ??... Honestly there is nothing i really need... and if i go all the way there, and i find nothing , i get this urge that i need to get something, i cant just waste 4.50 bus fare for nothing.
Although i bought presents for my niece and sent them over, i feel is my obligation now that she is born, to give them some more presents... it is either that or the fact that i love buying things for babies...
I made up my mind... i will stay in today, i will do all my washing, i will clean the house, then my DD and I will go for a longgggggg walk( she loves walking)
If i save enough by not shopping ( need to stop this habit of shopping when i am bored) i might get her a little bike !.

NGlady

Oh the "buying pressies for a baby" mindset. Its scary that is :S
Im going on a date this afternoon, which is in a city centre, and if it doesnt go well "bang" on my debit card :S but i cant not take it cos i dont have time to go fetch cash and I have 1.20 to my name in change :S lol

CompletelyLost

NGlady wrote: »

Ladies...
I dont think theres a day go by when I can avoid buying something
Between like 9pm last night and now I have brought the fondu and this rather beautiful necklace.
My excuse... It said 60.00 on the website, i thought it was 30.00, then came up as 5.00 - and i fell in love with it at 30.00 - ill probs wear it once at the cost of 8.95
http://www.warehouseoutlet.co.uk/fcp/product/fashion/All/bead-encrusted-v-style-nl/299699
It maddens me, as I always waste money spend the odd 3.00 there 5.00 there - if i learnt to keep the money in my account waiting for such a nice purchase it would be differemt - but does anybody ever feel like they are constantly spending lifes one big blurrghhh of money spending

Can you not cancel the order or return it? Is there no way you can have your card blocked for online shopping? It won't stop you from popping out to the shops, but at least when you're at home you won't be able to be tempted.

NGlady wrote: »

Do you really actually need it or "I just really need it as its just so perfect" and will it be a wearable or a wardrobe orniment? Yes I call my shoes wardrobe orniments. Ah go for it, your making 32.00 profit :S lol.

I just had a strong urge for a shop so have ordered my sisters birthday pressie (not until march lol) from Debenhams I still need a little more for her, so when I need a shop again ill do the same

It's something to use, rather than wear. I will use it. Though I'm not going out today (too cold) so will have to return them on Monday and buy said £8 item only when I've returned the other two items!

Salesaddict - how are you doing? I see you thanking but you don't seem to have posted in a while xx

edit - ignore me, I just saw your post from yesterday

lynzpower

NGlady wrote: »

Oh the "buying pressies for a baby" mindset. Its scary that is :S
Im going on a date this afternoon, which is in a city centre, and if it doesnt go well "bang" on my debit card :S but i cant not take it cos i dont have time to go fetch cash and I have 1.20 to my name in change :S lol

NG lady-

I know im going to sound like someones mum but why are you using a credit card? I hope to heavens you are not drawing cash off it....

A credit card is an umbilical cord to a mother who feeds nothing but debt.

chivers1977

lynzpower wrote: »

A credit card is an umbilical cord to a mother who feeds nothing but debt.

Pure poetry Lynz!

lynzpower

lynzpower wrote: »

NG lady-

I know im going to sound like someones mum but why are you using a credit card? I hope to heavens you are not drawing cash off it....

A credit card is an umbilical cord to a mother who feeds nothing but debt.

Ah you mean you are using a debit card, not a credit card!

Sorry

velocity.girl_2

hi all, well today i've spent the grand sum of £7 on 3 books...Not Buying it: My Year without Shopping"
Judi Levine,
In the Red: The Diary of a Recovering Shopaholic"
Alexis Hall
and a thrifty frugal living book by india knight....

i'm going out tonight with the girls...i NEVER have nights out this is the first one in about a year...my bloke is paying for me so i WILL NOT be taking my debit card out or any extra cash...i will have a budget and stick to it.

I have got to get some new clothes for my daughter due to her having the growth spurt to end all growth spurts, BUT i've sold quite a bit on ebay so i am only going allow myself to use what is in my paypal account.

I will beat this, we all can...we just need to stick together and keep pulling each other through all the weak and rough times...i'm here for the long haul, i know i cannot carry on like this and i will NOT carry on like this...i'm a 29 mother of 3 and need to start prioritising my life...

Good luck all of you today...if you don't hear from me tomorrow i'm recovering from a poorly head lol! xxxx

lynzpower

i'm going out tonight with the girls...i NEVER have nights out this is the first one in about a year...my bloke is paying for me so i WILL NOT be taking my debit card out or any extra cash...i will have a budget and stick to it.

I have got to get some new clothes for my daughter due to her having the growth spurt to end all growth spurts, BUT i've sold quite a bit on ebay so i am only going allow myself to use what is in my paypal account.

I will beat this, we all can...we just need to stick together and keep pulling each other through all the weak and rough times...i'm here for the long haul, i know i cannot carry on like this and i will NOT carry on like this...i'm a 29 mother of 3 and need to start prioritising my life..

DEFINATELY!! Go you!

We will all stick together, if we want to beat it, we all have to try together, honestly having the support on here is amazing, it has pulled me through before!