Reformed shopaholic? please can you give me the benefit of your advice

Ex-Spendaholic

I know its necessary but I didn't have to buy it in M&S. Saying that though it wasn't just chicken it was M&S oakham chicken. :rotfl:

NGlady

Oh justify it in the sence of if you had to walk to the other supermarket, its shoe leather, if you had to drive petrol? lol.

CompletelyLost

Ex-Spendaholic wrote: »

I know its necessary but I didn't have to buy it in M&S. Saying that though it wasn't just chicken it was M&S oakham chicken. :rotfl:

M&S is a weakness for me too... actually I don't like most of their clothes, it's the food department that's the problem. I often have to go for my nan, but almost every time I end up spending at least £5 on fancy deserts.

Today I spent £5.25... 10p of that was for something necessary, the rest was on a sandwich, a pack of Red Bull and a lottery ticket. BUT I did take back £116's worth of stuff.

I still have £86's worth of stuff in my posession that I could still take back - all still in their carrier bags, how crazy is that. Oh, and a £100 order still to arrive :o:o

Babafette

CompletelyLost wrote: »

BUT I did take back £116's worth of stuff.

Wow, well done!! Go you!!

NGlady

Oh when I return things, I convince myself its "free money" so even if i buy something out of it, and still manage to bring a few quid home, ive not spent anything else so its fine :S noooo lol.

CompletelyLost

Babafette wrote: »

Wow, well done!! Go you!!

Unfortunately there's a ton more where they came from. I have to admit, I was never like this a year ago - it's only recently I've noticed myself spending a lot more than usual. I'm now toying with the idea of returning another two items tomorrow (2x £20). I want to go into town to get the Dove deodorants anyway, and it'll get me out of the house. Hmmm...

NGlady wrote: »

Oh when I return things, I convince myself its "free money" so even if i buy something out of it, and still manage to bring a few quid home, ive not spent anything else so its fine :S noooo lol.

Great (or not-so great!!) minds think alike, eh. I was just thinking to myself that if I return the two items tomorrow, would it be ok to buy something I really need (which costs £8)? Or does that defeat the point altogether?

NGlady

Do you really actually need it or "I just really need it as its just so perfect" and will it be a wearable or a wardrobe orniment? Yes I call my shoes wardrobe orniments. Ah go for it, your making 32.00 profit :S lol.

I just had a strong urge for a shop so have ordered my sisters birthday pressie (not until march lol) from Debenhams I still need a little more for her, so when I need a shop again ill do the same

[Deleted User]

To reply to the OP - I had some serious, painful periods of illness and 3 rounds of surgery on my spine.

While I'm definitely no saint, never will be, I did begin to think about the relative "value" of things as compared to their "worth" to me. Much of the crap in the shops is geared to play on our insecurities about our outward image, even down to the branding on groceries.

Now I buy what I really need, or a few things I really really REALLY want for aesthetic or personal reasons.

I can't find the thread where I answered a while ago but a student was asking about whether she should shop in Lidl/Adli & would people laugh at her? I replied that many of the people filling up their trolleys in Waitrose or Sainsbury's with the "finest" stuff would probably be up to their eyes in debt as it's all about image and flash...

NGlady

Ladies...
I dont think theres a day go by when I can avoid buying something
Between like 9pm last night and now I have brought the fondu and this rather beautiful necklace.
My excuse... It said 60.00 on the website, i thought it was 30.00, then came up as 5.00 - and i fell in love with it at 30.00 - ill probs wear it once at the cost of 8.95
http://www.warehouseoutlet.co.uk/fcp/product/fashion/All/bead-encrusted-v-style-nl/299699
It maddens me, as I always waste money spend the odd 3.00 there 5.00 there - if i learnt to keep the money in my account waiting for such a nice purchase it would be differemt - but does anybody ever feel like they are constantly spending lifes one big blurrghhh of money spending

[Deleted User]

What is the trigger - the "reduced" price(s) or the aesthetic appeal?

If it's the price then even if it's £9.99 reduced from £100 then it's still a tenner more than 0 and you save nothing just spend a tenner.

If it's the look of something then you could try what I do which is to sleep on it, think it over for a day or two then *if* I still really like it, I'll get it whatever the "offer". 8 times out of 10 though I think on reflection it's just a bit of consumer crap and decide not to.