Weekly Flylady Thread 1st February 2010

jinky67

carlsberggal wrote: »

KH x boyfriend turned up (DD2's words!), I said at least he turned up this time and she does agree with this, she's just very cross with him all the same.

I was going to ask how they were getting on, but I guess I dont need to now:cool::rotfl:

lemanie

Wednesday and Thursday done too - extra stars please

TBH - HHI not done because DD and DS1 do their own and DD does mine DH and DS2s for pocket money and is only very small pile she is going to do tonight plus I did HH of lots of other things instead

Hospital appointment at 5.15, must go and get ready.

hypno06

Wednesday ~ Master bedroom
Level One
Level Two
Level Three
Extras

That's it, I am up to date! Please can I have a star for Wednesday, Toots?

The valuer is coming round in the morning to value the house for my application to transfer the mortgage into my own name. And at least after my mammoth flylady session today he can enter the house without risk to life or limb

maralum

Ok girls, I have a problem that I need advice with.

Recently some new neighbours have arrived. A nine year old boy who lives with his nan, I don't know where his parents are. To be honest, the boy's pretty rough around the edges. Very big, very loud, very confident and very, very argumentative.

Keep in mind that DS is only six, so there's a three year age gap. This boy has started turning up at our house all of the time. He now walks to and from school with us as his nan doesn't make the journey with him (about a twenty minute walk).
He argues every decision I make ("DS doesn't want to go to bed now, DS wants me to stay, DS doesn't want that for dinner"), expects things that I wouldn't allow for DS ("Can I use your laptop? Will you lend me some money to buy a water pistol?) and generally just seems too grown up.

I found out that he took DS into town the other day when they said they were playing in his house. I would NEVER permit this!!! I spoke to DS and explained that this is not an option ever, ever again. I was bloody furious!

The problem is, I think that this boy has had a bit of a rough start and I'd really like to give him the benefit of the doubt, but not at the expense of my own son's behaviour.

I wish I could explain it better, but it's more of an intuition thing.

Any advice would be appreciated. I would love for this lad to be able to spend time here as DS seems very fond of him already, but I need to get him to abide by my rules when in my home and with my family. He seems used to bullying his way into things, he just argues all of the time!

Anyway, like I say, ANY advice appreciated, even if it sounds quirky!

hex2

Maralum - I am pretty ruthless/protective/controlling and I would cut him off before there is a real problem and your son starts to copy his behaviours.
Ragz - congratulations
Vanilla -Hugs, stress around Facebook is not what you need or want

I have to do a whole house clean tomorrow as we may have a visitor on Saturday. *roll eyes*

Today I have filled the DW, jumped up and down in the bin to squeeze some more stuff in, and emptied all the house bins.

RuthG

Done next to nothing today

Walked into town for some milk, flora and veggies. Found a second hand bookshelf for DS who has been needing one for ages (solid pine, 4' high and only £49, so not a bad buy). By the time I got home, my pedometer said i had walked 89 steps (its 3 miles :mad:) so I guess it isnt working - only bought the thing last week. Now have to go back to swap it and I cant find the receipt :mad::mad:!

Then cleared the kitchen work surfaces and wiped them, made some bread in BM, got my personal accounts up to date (not been here since the weekend so well behind with all the travel tickets I have had to buy!

Right now Im finally wiped out and have zero energy, but still have to do my tax returns (department only just sent me my log on codes) and the invoices from the last two weeks and a whole list of cleaning to do :mad:

I just want to go to bed and let it be tomorrow, but tomorrow Im out most of the day with a client!

Ruth

Valli

pigpen wrote: »

hand between legs... it's a boy.. he was having a fiddle... do they EVER outgrow that?

great minds!

hex2 wrote: »

Maralum - I am pretty ruthless/protective/controlling and I would cut him off before there is a real problem and your son starts to copy his behaviours.

sorry but ditto...this boy is going to be big trouble before long and I would stop this NOW. I wouldn't have him in my house and I certainly wouldn't let a 6 yo go round to a 9 yo's house...it is WAY too big a gap for 'friendship'.

pigpen

hex2 wrote: »

Maralum - I am pretty ruthless/protective/controlling and I would cut him off before there is a real problem and your son starts to copy his behaviours.

SNAP!!! And before he stops asking and starts taking without permission!

poohbear59

maralum I had to be tough on an older local boy and he wasn't allowed in our house and my boys weren't allowed to go there. I don't think they really appreciated my actions at the time but now they are all young adults they totally agree with what I did. The boy is now in prison for the second time! Go with your instincts.

carlsberggal, glad the scan went well.

DH and I did a s and s of the whole of downstairs and he changed our bedding this morning. Bathrooms just needed a quick wipe down too so Thursday is finished too.

Hospital tomorrow but I will try to get some flying in before I go out. It is the eye appointment so I am hoping I will be allowed to drive again. It has been a long two months.

maralum

Ok girls, thanks for the help. DH is home for a week off work from tomorrow at 2.00pm onwards, so he'll be here as big bad back up! He takes no carp, so we'll make plans, keep DS busy and be as far away from here as we can.

Any ideas on how to avoid him at the school run?