So fed up with it all ...

warehouse

Hey OP, you're absoluetly spot on. People are definately ruder and more aggressive these days, more so recently. Just look at the replies to your original post for proof!

globalds

To the OP
It is not what you will want to hear ..But the simple truth is ...it is time to toughen up.

Do what you have to do ....Stop allowing people to walk right through you ....And then live with the consequences ..If you chose to park ina dodgy place ..Just accept that you might get some flak ...
The trick is in letting it hit you without sticking.
The world is full of aggressive people ..Or people who are tired ,stressed out ,had bad day or just feel like giving a bit out after being paid all day to take it off someone else .
Try and be nice ..but look after yourself ...That is what it is about for most people ,most of the time ..

At iamana1ias ..Your behaviour is pretty antagonising ...I'll assume it is not intended ..Therefore my advice would be to let this one drop ....your not really being helpful ...And in the end ..if your not doing that ..Then there is not really much point taking part.

Shandella

Thank you for all the positive replies I received.

To yoni_one I will have a look at netmums.com, thank you for the tip. As someone else had posted I am on my own and I don't have anyone to come home and share these things with.

Maybe I didn't leave enough room, I genuinly though I had, and as I came out I apologised, fair enough have a moan at me but to call me a fat f**king ugly b***h and a slapper in front of my children I think is uncalled for and a little scary.

But as globalds has said I probably do need to toughen up and I particulary like the bit about letting it hit but not letting it stick - that is certainly a phrase i will keep with me and use when things get me down.

I will also take heart that there are some very kind people around as has been shown on here in some of the replies.

aliadds

Shandella...new day, new week, new approach! Be strong and remember that you're as good, if not better, than those ignorant people. Always do what's best for you and yours, without putting anyone else at a disadvantage.

I believe that you get back what you give out...so smile and be happy!:)

patchwork_cat

Sorry to have to say that I agree. People are getting rude, unpleasant and more and more stupid.

The stupid part - yesterday went to a car park outside Aldi in teh next town and this one Scenic virtually reversed into a car and then this family with 2 kids walked alongside the car into the space she was vacating, she very nearly hit one child and the father didn't even turn around. a) she should have stopped, b) the family should have stopped. Surprised I am not reading a headline in the local paper , nine year old run over in car park - both parties were equally stupid.

As for rudeness it is becoming endemic - I don't know if it just certain towns or getting worse, over 20 years ago my mum came to my town and we went to Sainsburys and she felt that the people were much ruder than where she came from - a similar sized town 60 miles away.

I am sensitive too and know it. Last week I was in our little Somerfield - I was looking at this shelf behind and slightly to one side of this woman and she started to back into me, she had touched me and was about to stand on my foot, so I said," excuse me." She looked around and the look on her face was evil. I couldn't have stepped back as their was someone behind me. Anyway I moved down the aisle and said quietly to my husband, "did you see that and the look on her face." She must have been staring at me as I spoke very quietly and she started on me calling me and saying you should have said something, umm what did she think I did?! It was completely unprovoked and if I ever do that sort of thing I am oh very sorry, didn't see you.

I would like to know if it is the same in other towns.

On forums people can be quite unpleasant - there are a few quite nasty comments on this thread - eg "just what we need more neurotic parents." Are people just generally nasty and always have been, does the fact that there is a growing culture of unpleasantness on forums mean that people then take it out into their lives?

seven-day-weekend

I certainly don't think the abuse was called for and I can understand the OP being upset by it but also think that if people had to manoever to get round her then she had parked inconsiderately.

Park in a parking spot next time and take the children with you. If it takes ten minutes longer, well that's part of being a parent.

creased-leach

Blimey, what a fuss.

Yes, it was inconsiderate. However, the abuse was uncalled for, foulmouthed and disproportionate.

red_devil

alot of people need to learn to get their point across without being abusive. There was no need for the other woman to swear etc she is just letting herself down!

Say your bit if you must in a firm polite way.

karren

OMg, read what youve put people, this woman wrote on here for support, none of us are perfect we all make mistakes we everyday make quick decisions that we look back and think I was a bit silly there but wont do it again,
She thought she was making the right decision in parking the car where we could see it, ok not everyone would have done it, but when your knackered and have had 2 kids all day you dont always think straight.
The learner driver didnt have the skills to reverse the car, and ok it was a pain.
The woman at the pump sounds like she had issues at life anyway to scream such abuse at a stranger!
And some of these posts on here are verging on that too!!!!!!

The woman needs support and advice not selfish rants from people who have nothing better to do, ive 2 children i do my best but im not perfect and admit it, so wise up and look at yourselves before you dig into someone who wanted to rant about her day, shes feeling low as all mums do at times, and needs friendly mates who she can rant to, and cant so came on here to do it, and has more abuse!

tandraig

Proc wrote: »

How can you possibly talk about what is "polite and thoughtful", and what is rude when you are happy to block other people in and force them to wait a minute? Not everyone leads mundane lives where we can afford to wait for indecisive, selfish dawdlers who think the world revolves around them. Being polite and thoughtful would involve not making other people wait after you. Jesus, if every person I encountered found it justifiable to make me wait for "a whole minute" I'd never get anything done.

I didnt say I was happy to block people people in, in fact i THOUGHT i had said i used to tell OH off about it! until i worked out that if he didnt (at this particular garage he tended to get blocked off himself by people using the air thingy) so I shut up about it.
as for you never getting anything done if you have to wait for 'a whole minute' - I feel sorry for you............you obviously are extremely frazzled and trying to cram 36 hours into 24 and its making you irascible and you have absolutely no idea how ironic your post is..........considering you talk about being 'polite and thoughtful'. youve hardly been polite and thoughtful to me have you?