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So fed up with it all ...
Shandella
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What was a good day has ended badly ... to cut a long story short. On my way home I popped into the garage to get some bread. I had my 3yo and 5 yo with me, i left them in the car and I parked in front of the garage so i could see them through the window. I had left enough room for people to pass. Whilst I was in the garage someone bibbed me. I came out straight away and a learner was behind me, I motioned to him that he could pass, if he reversed slightly. A man got out the car and shouted at me to move and that I shouldn't have been there, I explained that I had 2 children in the car and if a had parked in the bays I wouldn't have been able to see them. Another woman then joined in, she was still filling her car up. She shouted at me to move, called my a fat ugly !!!!! and a selfish slapper in front of my children. As I was getting in my car she carried on shouting and swearing at me. I drove away in pieces.
On monday i had an arguement with the dry cleaner which I had posted on here as well.
Everywhere I seem to go I see and hear people being so cruel and unkind and rude to each other. If I walk into a shop I'll stand back to let someone else come through first, they will walk straight past me without even acknowleging me - I feel invisible. I volunteered to help at my son's school christmas disco, no-one said hello to me or thank you, i tried to make conversation but without much success.
I am a single mother of two and have a small circle of friends, I have been seperated for two years and haven't been on a date in those two years.
I find myself becoming more and more reclusive .... and incidents like tonight and monday just make me reluctant to engage with people at all.
Does anyone else feel like this?
On monday i had an arguement with the dry cleaner which I had posted on here as well.
Everywhere I seem to go I see and hear people being so cruel and unkind and rude to each other. If I walk into a shop I'll stand back to let someone else come through first, they will walk straight past me without even acknowleging me - I feel invisible. I volunteered to help at my son's school christmas disco, no-one said hello to me or thank you, i tried to make conversation but without much success.
I am a single mother of two and have a small circle of friends, I have been seperated for two years and haven't been on a date in those two years.
I find myself becoming more and more reclusive .... and incidents like tonight and monday just make me reluctant to engage with people at all.
Does anyone else feel like this?
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Ignore the ignorant people you encounter they arnt worth arguing with rise above them and keep positive0 -
Sorry to hear you are having such a poo time right now, I really do hope you carry on making the effort and remember that even though some people may be rude, not everyone is.
Unfortunately many lack empathy of the struggles faced when out and about with younger children and so we need to go the extra mile to avoid confrontation in front of the children, it shouldn't be so but it is. Maybe next time it would be better to pay at the pump if you can or take them in with you?
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What was a good day has ended badly ... to cut a long story short. On my way home I popped into the garage to get some bread. I had my 3yo and 5 yo with me, i left them in the car and I parked in front of the garage so i could see them through the window. I had left enough room for people to pass. Whilst I was in the garage someone bibbed me. I came out straight away and a learner was behind me, I motioned to him that he could pass, if he reversed slightly. A man got out the car and shouted at me to move and that I shouldn't have been there, I explained that I had 2 children in the car and if i had parked in the bays I wouldn't have been able to see them. Another woman then joined in, she was still filling her car up. She shouted at me to move, called my a fat ugly !!!!! and a selfish slapper in front of my children. As I was getting in my car she carried on shouting and swearing at me. I drove away in pieces.
Actually, I think that is rather selfish. Just because you have children doesn't mean you can park/abandon your car where you like! If you're that bothered about seeing your children, take them into the shop with you rather than disadvantaging every other user of the garage!I was born too late, into a world that doesn't care
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iamana1ias wrote: »Actually, I think that is rather selfish. Just because you have children doesn't mean you can park/abandon your car where you like! If you're that bothered about seeing your children, take them into the shop with you rather than disadvantaging every other user of the garage!
I think it's hardly disadvantaging every other user of the garage if all they needed to do was manouver their car slightly around the OP.
It is extremely difficult getting two children of that age out of car - into shop - back in car without any fuss. Doing this would have probably added an extra 10 mins onto the OPs shop visit.
Regardless of that I believe it to be absolutely disgusting that someone would shout such things as the OP described over such a petty thing, especially in front of children. Personally I would have told her exactly what I thought of the interfering so and so :mad::happylove DD July 2011:happyloveAug 13 [STRIKE]£4235.19[/STRIKE]:eek: £2550.00 :cool:0 -
princessleah_ wrote: »I think it's hardly disadvantaging every other user of the garage if all they needed to do was manouver their car slightly around the OP.
Why the hell should they have to? :mad:
Presumably these kids were strapped into child seats and the garage covered by CCTV (not to mention being busy). What could possibly have happened to the kids in the 5 minutes the OP was in the shop?
The garage provides parking in a place that presumably doesn't disadvantage other people. Why should the OP expect to ignore those arrangements and park in a way that affects others? That's the very definition of selfishness!princessleah_ wrote: »It is extremely difficult getting two children of that age out of car - into shop - back in car without any fuss. Doing this would have probably added an extra 10 mins onto the OPs shop visit.
How is that anyone else's problem?I was born too late, into a world that doesn't care
Oh I wish I was a punk rocker with flowers in my hair0 -
Yep. I am in the same boat. Confidence is v.low for this reason and i feel like i have forgotten how to talk to people so try and avoid it now. I have no family, and only a couple of friends, so it's a lonely place to be. It's so easy to isolate yourself, but will drive you bonkers - i'm almost there lol.I am a single mother of two and have a small circle of friends, I have been seperated for two years and haven't been on a date in those two years.
I find myself becoming more and more reclusive .... and incidents like tonight and monday just make me reluctant to engage with people at all.
Does anyone else feel like this?0 -
Sorry to hear you are having a rough time. There are a lot of ignorant unhelpful people about. Do you have an NCT group near you? I took M to the under 5's group when he was really little but since then have got involved with the committee and met some lovely friends. They are usually crying out for volunteers. Alternatively, could you get involved with anything at your little ones school? Another way to meet people.
I don't think you did anything wrong at the garage. A little bit of manouvreing never hurt anyone. We do it all the time at garages just to get out of the place! Paying at a pump in future is a thought if you have anywhere near you. I always take M into pay with me, he is 3. I never usually leave him in the car CCTV or not. The only time I have left him is when at my very local garage when it is really quiet and I am paying cash - literally in and out the door, 10 paces. Must be doubley difficult with two.
You can't win, you are trying to save other people time by getting on with it and freeing up the pump instead of taking the kids in and taking much longer and yet you get grief. Grrrr!'Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain'0 -
princessleah_ wrote: »I think it's hardly disadvantaging every other user of the garage if all they needed to do was manouver their car slightly around the OP.
It is extremely difficult getting two children of that age out of car - into shop - back in car without any fuss. Doing this would have probably added an extra 10 mins onto the OPs shop visit.
Regardless of that I believe it to be absolutely disgusting that someone would shout such things as the OP described over such a petty thing, especially in front of children. Personally I would have told her exactly what I thought of the interfering so and so :mad:
1. It isnt difficult, Its lazy - so it takes 10 more minutes. so what.
2 So everyone with children should be able to park on double yellow
lines so that they can see their children from the shop.
3. Its not only lazy, its stupid, how long do you think it takes a thief to hot wire a car, seconds, the mothe couldnt get to the car fast enough to stop a determined theif driving away, they wouldnt notice the kids in the back till they were driving away. Case like this are often in the papers.
Children should NEVER be left alone in a car.make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
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I don't think you did anything wrong at the garage. A little bit of manouvreing never hurt anyone. We do it all the time at garages just to get out of the place! Paying at a pump in future is a thought if you have anywhere near you.
Can you pay for bread at the pump?I always take M into pay with me, he is 3. I never usually leave him in the car CCTV or not. The only time I have left him is when at my very local garage when it is really quiet and I am paying cash - literally in and out the door, 10 paces. Must be doubley difficult with two.
Just what we need, more neurotic parents.You can't win, you are trying to save other people time by getting on with it and freeing up the pump instead of taking the kids in and taking much longer and yet you get grief. Grrrr!
She didn't use the pump! She went there to get bread!
I think the next time I need to pop to the shop (for bread, milk or a full trolley load - who cares?!) I'll just abandon my car in the middle of the road. So what if all the traffic has to manouver around me? It'll save me at least 2 minutes looking for a parking space. Great plan! :TI was born too late, into a world that doesn't care
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3. Its not only lazy, its stupid, how long do you think it takes a thief to hot wire a car, seconds, the mothe couldnt get to the car fast enough to stop a determined theif driving away, they wouldnt notice the kids in the back till they were driving away. Case like this are often in the papers.
Children should NEVER be left alone in a car.
Oh, please! Today's cars aren't so easy to hotwire. They're more likely to steal the keys.
I've never seen a newspaper article that's even similar to this, and I've lived in some pretty rough areas!I was born too late, into a world that doesn't care
Oh I wish I was a punk rocker with flowers in my hair0
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