How much should I be spending on my daughter?

*Louise*

I never got any pocket money as a teenager

I worked 2 evenings a week and a Sunday for £60 a month which I used to pay for everything: Lunches, clothes, make up, going out, toiletries etc etc.

Mind you, it played havoc with my studies I would have done much better in my senior years if my parents had helped me out and I hadn't had to work through my exams etc.

I will offer our kids pocket money - in return for doing a fair share of chores in the house. Assuming they are still at school.

elfen

I used to do the odd evening babysitting - that paid for some of my treats. I didn't have the money so I went without. Parents got the essentials butnothing named or branded.

Then I started at MaccyD's whilst at sixth form, and what I earnt was mine. Til I left, then I paid rent. I paid rent whilst out of work, but not as much, so I still had a little for me (enough for credit and ciggies)

faded_flowers

I got £20 a week until I was 17 and was 'persuaded' to get a saturday job After that I had to fund myself, but parents still bought clothes sometimes and basic stuff. Had no problem working around 6th form and my music groups. Same for my sister.

The thing that did hack us off was that when it came to younger brother he never had to get a job and just kept getting hand-outs :think:

Owain_Moneysaver

I never had a Saturday job or paper-round, but then I didn't have the long list of "needs" that today's kids have either. I think I got the child benefit as pocket money, anything I needed for school/college, and clothes/toiletries etc (being a bloke, I used what I was given). I did have an understanding with my parents that clothes did not count as birthday presents, though.

When I left home to go to uni I had a very healthy deposit account :-)

pigpen

My daughter (16 in july) has her phone contract.. £20 a month.. plus maybe £20 a month to fritter.. but she asks and gets it for occasions.. so it isn't much.

If you still get child benefit for her could she possibly have that but it is all she gets and buys her own toiletries/makeup etc and if she wants anything else tough or get a little job?

stormbreaker

I have not read fully through this thread but for those who have problems with mobile top ups check out what deals are available. For instance my son is on an O2 PAYG, for £10 a month he gets unlimited texts free. He is constantly texting but the credit remains providing he is not calling people. He just has to remember to top up every month. The rest of the money mounts up!

stormbreaker

diddyangel wrote: »

My first job was in high street shop and at 16 I was paid £2.88ph!!! Absolutely shocking considering the 16 year olds where I work get around £6.50/£7ph and think they are hard done by :eek:

My first Saturday job, I got.........£3........for the FULL day!

When I started working at 16, my first months salary was £102 in my hand and that was considered a good wage!

(I think I am showing my age!)

beckseven

My dad was made redundant when I was 17 in the last recession and I did not want to ask my parents for money so I got myself a job in Mcdonalds and graduated to Sainsbury's (this never affected my studies in anyway and I got great A levels despite this-you get holidays so you can take them when you need to study) I love my beauty stuff and clothes and working gave me the money to fund my habit! I went out when I could afford it. I always worked in my uni hols too at good old Sainsburys. When my mum and dad could afford it they did buy me clothes etc but I never expected anything. however my younger brother by 8 years is a different story! I love him very much but he always saw my mum and dad as an easy touch for money and never bothered working when at college/uni. Again when he got his first house it was eight yrs later than me so he asked the bank of mum and dad for his deposit of £40,000 of their life savings so he could live in an affluent area-unlike me who bought what she could afford. This has caused me to feel quite resentful so just because your son doesn't ask you for anything and your daughter does don't give into her because I think that my parents have just realised how upset I am by this. I can just see my brother ask for more and more money off my parents so I hope they wise up-I can't tell them anything because then my mum says to me not to be jealous of my brother!

MrsE_2

StrawberryYogurt wrote: »

My daughter is 16, I feel your pain! ..

Mine is 22...........
It doesn't get any easier:eek:

Kay_Peel

I'd give your daughter a ten pound note every Monday morning and say 'that's it, until next week.'

She'd learn how to budget and what her priorities were. (If she needs to top up her phone, then she won't be able to buy a CD that week and so on). She'd have to manage her money in the same way that you and I do. It would be a very valuable learning curve for her and will give you a bit more money at the end of the month.

Don't advance her any of 'next week's' money. Give her money instead of a birthday present. Give her an extra £5 if she does the ironing or cleans the windows/oven. Suggest that she gets a babysitting job at weekends.

All the best.