Wonderful Weekend Daily Chat - all welcome

scaredy_cat

morning peeps! had a dustong of snow overnight!

as katsu said, Lou, you need to arrange a power of attourney so you and/or your oh can deal with her finances and stuff.

katsu

Sorting office promise my parcel will get to my post office today - well, they say the postman has it with him... Fingers crossed.

Bunnyinthelights

*joins Pepe on the hangover couch*

LouiseJ

Pooky wrote: »

Lou - Must be worrying for you - is she living alone? I don't know how these things work but I'd imagine that if you had a chat with her Dr they'd get social services to help out. Good luck at the bank.

Yes she lives alone, she is under a mental health nurse who comes out and assesses her regualrly but he just says its "old age congitive impairment" and unless she developes something like dementia or alzheimers then there is nothing much available.

Its so frustrating too as whenever he comes out to assess her she turns into bloomin marvo the memory mans assistant and does really well in the tests, then cant remember that he has been.

She just thinks that we are all lying to her we have already been accused of taking money from her:(

LouiseJ

katsu wrote: »

You need to talk to her about giving you power of attorney. It is a legal document that allows you to act on her behalf. You need to get this arranged whilst she can still agree to it. We had it for my grandmother and it was essential. I've just had a quick google - try this http://www.publicguardian.gov.uk/

Thanks for that kat, I will have a good read of that with OH once we get back. Best get ready.

scaredy_cat

Lou, i wonder if you need to insist on testing for early onset alzheimers, i think there is medication which can slow it down.

bookseller1980

Good morning.
Didn't want to get up this morning and now need to rush about.
Need to write to bank/solicitor and post quick so they think I did it on Thursday. (was waiting for legal advice).
Going to be trained on how to train commissioners this afternoon.
babysiting this evening.
DD lives near Sainsbury's and I have a gift card and a £4 off if you spend £20 so I will go stock up on a few essentials on the way (gift card is for £20 so if I do my sums right

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Must dry hair,

katsu

LouiseJ wrote: »

Yes she lives alone, she is under a mental health nurse who comes out and assesses her regualrly but he just says its "old age congitive impairment" and unless she developes something like dementia or alzheimers then there is nothing much available.

Its so frustrating too as whenever he comes out to assess her she turns into bloomin marvo the memory mans assistant and does really well in the tests, then cant remember that he has been.

She just thinks that we are all lying to her we have already been accused of taking money from her:(

My grandmother was exactly the same. If you believed the "stealing" that we as her family apparently did... :eek: What was helpful was when she told people we stole things as well as money - like the can of deodorant my dad apparently stole. At that point I think it was clearer to many people that this was sadly her perception not a reality.

Does she go to church or have a trust relationship with the vicar or someone who you can talk to, who will be more aware of her everyday confusion and therefore could help with the LPA (Lasting Power of Attorney) discussion?

Help the Aged or Age Concern may have good advice.

Burlesque_Babe

morning all!

just caught up with last night

Spud - I ordered that top from Simply Be and it is really lovely. I sent it back though as I'd ordered tonnes for my last holiday and couldn't justify yet another tunic top!

Scaredy........I am this close <> to buying that top on ebay you had a link to......lots of money though........stop me buying it!!!!!!!!!!

Edit: she has loads of :drool: stuff for sale............must not buy, must not buy........

Buffythedebtslayer

Oh Lou that is so sad. The power of attourney is the way forward I think. Its difficult to know how to play it, unless you can get some sort of diary? to show social Services. Can you write things down for her at all? get one of those really big diaries and keep it in the hall? Ring every day to tell her what day it is?

Hugs love xxxx