MSE Parents Club Part 10

Glamazon

Mazcabs wrote: »

Thanks Elle... was thinking of popping there on Friday so thats ok....

When does anyone change teats on their bottles to next size?

I changed J when he started fussing with his bottles - first time around 8-9 weeks & 3rd time around 18 weeks. They are supposed to be changed after 8 weeks anyway or if baby starts falling asleep during feeds as they can be struggling to get the milk out.

J has had 1st bottle of Hipp milk today - didn't seem sure at first but drank most of it! It's almost £2 cheaper than the Aptmail so hoping no nappy explosions - will get him used to it before I move him onto the Follow On Milk!

SusanC_2

Weezl, Sami and anyone else who has had (or who planned) an NHS homebirth - I (or rather OH) have a few questions:

Am I right in thinking you would have two midwives there and when would the second one arrive (based on the assumption that you don't have two all the time)?

What do the midwives do during labour? (In hospital the midwives occasionally popped in briefly when I sent OH for them so I need someone who's experienced it to explain for OH.)

Do you know beforehand which midwives you are getting?

Are they amenable to non-standard things such as no amniotomy, delayed or no cord clamping etc.?

How much notice do they take of the birth plan? (OH is worried that even with a home birth if I put lots of unusual things in my birth plan they will just take no notice like last time.)

elle_gee

No particular reason why I can't/shouldn't freeze C&G Mango Rice Pudding, is there? *confused* Rhys won't eat it now cos it's far too thin (I've had smoothies thicker than that!), but we still had one pot lurking in the cupboard so I opened it this morning and stirred a bit into his Weetabix. Have portioned the rest out into six small icecubes worth for another six brekkies

My_Fathers_Daughter

3onitsway wrote: »

I'm looking at the Nando's menu http://www.nandos.co.uk/fammenu/FEM/Menu.html and wondering what V can have, or should I bring her something?

I think we shared some spicy rice and chips last time. MFD (and any one else with bigger little ones), - what will Benjamin have? I think we're past the sweet potato mash stage now.

V is being very strange today - she keeps laughing at nothing/noone! And she's picking up the handset of her fisher price pull along phone and shouting 'hiya'. How does she know it's a phone, she's never seen a phone in that old fashioned phone shape.

I will just let him eat whatever I am having...and whatever fruit I can salvage out of the fruit bowl in the morning

We like sweet potato mash! Don't adults and kids eat mash at 3 towers?

jillie1974 wrote: »

my family wer just about huggers...
i have friends who do the kissing ----some on the lips:eek::eek::eek:

i just usualy stand and go 'hiya'

but hugs are ok. will do the 1 cheek kiss niw i know its expected...;)

OMG what have I started - can somebody do a list of who I can and can't kiss please :rotfl:

3onitsway wrote: »

Searchie Mine like spicy, but last time at Nando's Liv got medium spiced and it was a little bit too spicy for her. (I'm glad I didn't agree with her and let her order hot!)

Indian takeaway is the big twos favorite treat, and V loves tikka masala with pilau rice.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

When we went poor Liv was convinced that she had the spiciest chicken in the world!!! It was obviously much hotter than yours!!

workinmummy

searching_me wrote: »

not being funny but when i worked full time i still managed to do most of the stuff round the house .. the only thing philip did was taken zoe to and from school and cook dinner x

Exactly what Searching said. And i'm sure other Working mums will agree.
Not having a go Beccles, it just seems that men think that they can go to work and thats it. My OH just gets up 10 mins before he goes out and i've been up for at least an hour. It Pees me right off. Considering he is supposed to get up and take Alex to where ever he is going that day to be looked after. Its the slowness at which he does everything, the aaaaages to get up , the moaning and groaning, that winds me up so much that i just do it myself.:mad:

Glamazon wrote: »

My OH doesnt do much, he didnt when he wasnt working! I don't mind so much while I'm on ML but have said that when I go back to work there is no way I am doing everything! I plan to dole out jobs to be done during the week - I think BIL can have emptying the dishwasher cos thats an easy one! I refuse to spend my evenings running round like a headless chicken while they sit on the a$$es all night!

Glam I spend evenings running around, up an down 2 flights of stairs, getting clothes, nappies etc to pack bags for the next day and sterelising bottles etc. May i politely suggest that you start now, slowly introducing things that you want your OH to do during the week. So it doesn't come as quite a shock to him that he actually has to do something.

I complained to some of OH family on Saturday, that i feel like a single parent. Doing everything. His usual reply is that i just take over. (which i do because its easier and quicker). But he is off on holiday today, and instead of letting Alex go to his mums to be looked after, he is doing it himself. But this means that the ironing he was supposed to do for me today, won't get done. Because he "will have had Alex" all day. And we all know that you can't possibly do anything else other than look after a baby (insert "rolls-eyes thingy).

Oh sorry for the rants. And there was i thinking i was awake, alive and in a good mood today. Alex went to bed at 9.30pm, woke at 5am cryin. I gave him a dream feed because his eyes were still closed. And i was back in bed within 10 mins. Then got to sleep until alarm went off at 7am :T
First time in weeks, have felt human going to work.

Also big apologise if i am projecting my :mad: at my OH onto others OH's. I know they all can't be that bad. And i know i need to step back, because my just doing eveythings is just enabling him to be a lazy git.

SusanC_2

jillie1974 wrote: »

my family wer just about huggers...
i have friends who do the kissing ----some on the lips:eek::eek::eek:

i just usualy stand and go 'hiya'

but hugs are ok. will do the 1 cheek kiss niw i know its expected...;)

It's not just knowing that there's going to be a hug or a kiss, it's knowing what I'm supposed to do and when and how I'm supposed to react - OH says I look "wooden" when his parents hug and kiss me.

cazscoob

SusanC wrote: »

Weezl, Sami and anyone else who has had (or who planned) an NHS homebirth - I (or rather OH) have a few questions:

Am I right in thinking you would have two midwives there and when would the second one arrive (based on the assumption that you don't have two all the time)?
second midwife is called when the first thinks that your in established labour and things are moving on, my first arrived at 6pm second at 6.50pm and baby here at 7pm lol!
What do the midwives do during labour? (In hospital the midwives occasionally popped in briefly when I sent OH for them so I need someone who's experienced it to explain for OH.)
they sat with me and talked to me, wrote out notes but they did offer to sit in another room if thats what i wished for. they also talked to OH and laughed at me screaming at him to get my knickers off!

Do you know beforehand which midwives you are getting?
no unless you have their rota, the first midwife that arrived was the one i didnt get on with and was so relieved that my favoourite MW was the second to arrive

Are they amenable to non-standard things such as no amniotomy, delayed or no cord clamping etc.?
im unsure as every trust is different and have different procedures, you can ask at the meeting before the HB is agreed.


How much notice do they take of the birth plan? (OH is worried that even with a home birth if I put lots of unusual things in my birth plan they will just take no notice like last time.)
they didnt really notice my birth plan as it all went so quick but they did ask me my opinion at every stage and double checked with OH that it is what i wanted

hope that helps x

SusanC_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

We like sweet potato mash! Don't adults and kids eat mash at 3 towers?

I do sweet potato mash with ginger - it's delicious.

elle_gee

Hmm.. OH obviously detected my tone in my txt - he's booked the whole day off (only needed two hours max to get away from work, to the hospital and back really!) He's got another day that week booked off for our next trip to Notts so he's going to look at his holiday chart and see if he's got enough left to take the whole week off

pinkpig08

Good elle, glad he'll be with you next time