should a child have to respond to dads wedding invite

red_devil

All this talk of weddings has reminded me of another issue that once arose.

If dad remarries and sends young son who lives with the mother an invite through the post does son have to rsvp or should just saying I will be there be enough!

Seems abit formal to expect son to rsvp but look forward to hearing what you think?

Oldernotwiser

How old is the son?

red_devil

12 12 12 had to put it three times for it to accept.

shellsuit

Expecting A 12yo to RSVP?? I've never even heard of children being 'invited' to their parents weddings anyway.

Surely the son can't RSVP anyway because he would need his Mum's permission, so it's the son AND the Mum they should be asking (not inviting the mum, just asking her).

red_devil

it was obvious he was going to go but the dad said he didnt receive a formal reply.

SugarSpun

A son is immediate family therefore shouldn't have received a formal invitation in the first place. If the father's complaining about the son's manners, the son has done better than the father in this situation.

We sent my grandmother an invitation so she'd have one to keep and she was really upset to have been sent one even though we'd explained why.

chesky369

It would have been nice if the son had graciously replied - good training for the future. Just because it's a member of your family, doesn't mean you have to treat the matter carelessly. Mum should have just said 'doesn't matter who it is, this is what you do'.

seven-day-weekend

Agree with Chesky

dizziblonde

I sent formal invites to everyone in my family for our wedding, with RSVP cards in, directions to the venue, the lot - not because I thought they needed them (although with my mother's sense of direction... ) but because I thought they might want to keep them as a memento of the day more than anything else - my mum tends to put cards and things in photo albums along with photos, and I think she's framing the wedding pic along with the invite/rsvp card/the lot.

Maybe they sent the formal invite to make him feel grown up and not left out?

teeni

Traditionally invites were sent out by brides parents to every body including grooms family, presumb the son comes into this category.

Good manners then to accept formally as that is the manner of the invitation.

Surfbabe

Definitely should have replied formally, the same as all guests invited whether family or not should have a formal invitation.

As my Dad used to said. "Manners maketh a man" and politeness costs nothing