No longer having the expense of dummies

Rachie_B

nickinoo wrote:

I can't bear to try this with my daughter just yet (she is 3 in September) but I probably should. I think I may try once we move house.

yeah i think you should wait til she is settled in the new house / bedroom

moving house is a big change for one so small and you dont want to take away her form of comfort at the same time too

Spendless

Oh dear

She has been fine until 1/2 an hour ago when she said mto her Dad "what begins with d" and then answered herself "dummy" and burst into tears.

We said she'd given them away when she asked for them and showed her the doll the baby gave her and changed the subject and eventually she stopped crying.

Any tips folks

pavlovs_dog

you just got to be firm - think of the benefit to her teeth

lots of cuddles and distraction therapy is the most practical advice. and keep reminding her what a big girl she is :j

Poppy9

Spendless I think the only thing you can do is play it by ear and keep praising her for sleeping through the night without it. You'll know if it's really stressing her out and whether she'll need more time with it.

We had to continue without the dummy because of the way she had knocked her teeth but she found comfort with her thumb. If the teeth hadn't been knocked back she would have still had the dummy as it was a night-time only thing.

We did get her to break sucking her thumb. It wasn't easy but was reinforced with letters from Santa, odd comments from the dentist about how nice her teeth would be etc. We didn't make a big thing though of stopping her sucking it. It just went in when she went to sleep at home in bed. We would take it out throughout the night when we checked on her but she stopped suddenly of her own accord. She told us how proud she was of herself for stopping herself from doing it. The dentist tells us that no damage has been done to her teeth by thumb sucking so I guess 5 wasn't too old to stop. I do think though psychologically we associate Dummies with babies so perhaps when she starts proper school at 4 she will ditch of her own accord.

Anyway I'm sure you will do what's best. If you feel you've broken the worst of it continue, else negotiate:D

jellyhead

spendless i do admire your 6 year old, he always makes me smile

i don't know about dummies, my eldest didn't have one and the 11 month old isn't giving his up yet, but i remember my nephew keeping his until he was 4. usage was cut down when he went to nursery aged 3 because they didn't have them there (nobody had one, i don't think it was a rule though), he was allowed it in the car on the way to nursery though, and then he couldn't take it outside at all but could have it in the car, then it was just for night time. because he was older he understood that he was cutting down gradually, and he was happy with that because cold turkey didn't suit him, they tried it and he got very upset (and his brother was 1 and still had dummies).

good luck with it, whichever way you do it. i'll have to think about it soon, my 11 month old is in 18-24m clothes and when i mention his birthday at the end of the month everyone says 'is he 2 already?'. the dummy has been commented on a lot, because he's a 'big boy' and 'doesn't need that baby's dummy'. :mad: he's a thumb sucker though, so i think i would prefer the dummy, he'll probably have it until he's 4 like his cousin did, aren't i bad mummy :rotfl:

Rachie_B

Spendless wrote:

Oh dear

She has been fine until 1/2 an hour ago when she said mto her Dad "what begins with d" and then answered herself "dummy" and burst into tears.

We said she'd given them away when she asked for them and showed her the doll the baby gave her and changed the subject and eventually she stopped crying.

Any tips folks

awww bless her ,i wouldnt go back and give in though TBH

she will get used to it

plenty of cuddles and reassurance needed

Spendless

After this she was fine until she woke up middle of night asking for her favourite teddy bear. It's news to me she has a favourite teddy so I asked her which one that was and she described one that wasn't in her bedroom:rolleyes: . I refused to wander around the house looking for it at silly o'clock so gave her another teddy and she went back off. I've since found the favourite teddy downstairs.

Though she is still getting occassionally upset, she is getting over it relatively quickly so I don't think now it would be a good idea to give dummies back when she gets upset cos I think it would be a lot harder to get her to give them up again.

pdoff

well done spendless & definitely don't give in! the hard part is over now, if u give in u will have to start all over again & it will all have been a waste of time & energy.

Rachie_B

Spendless wrote:

After this she was fine until she woke up middle of night asking for her favourite teddy bear. It's news to me she has a favourite teddy so I asked her which one that was and she described one that wasn't in her bedroom:rolleyes: . I refused to wander around the house looking for it at silly o'clock so gave her another teddy and she went back off. I've since found the favourite teddy downstairs.

Though she is still getting occassionally upset, she is getting over it relatively quickly so I don't think now it would be a good idea to give dummies back when she gets upset cos I think it would be a lot harder to get her to give them up again.

awww she ( and you !) is doing well

Spendless

She has been sent home from nursery cos she was sick and she has thrown up most of afternoon. Very glad we no longer have the dummies cos they'd be harbouring all sorts of germs on them by now. She hasn't asked for them either.