No longer having the expense of dummies

Spendless

Tomorrow me and DD (aged 3) are visiting a friend, her toddler son and his 2 month old baby sister. My DD is going to give the baby all her dummies as she hasn't got any;) . and DD is a big girl. Tomorrow night though will be the first time without one and in my wisdom I've chosen a day when DH is away o/n

Any tips? 6 yo never had a dummy so never gone thru this before. I really could do with stopping her using them now, she is at school nursery in Autumn, and fed up of having to fork out to replace them when she loses them:rolleyes:

skylight

No fuss, no comment, just be very matter of fact about it all.

Giving them away seems great. Has "baby" got a present to give back???

hardpressed

Great idea to give them away as a present to the baby, I take it you have warned your friend that this 'present' is coming, wouldn't do you plan much good if she didn't go along with it.

Spendless

Yes I've warned friend, but not thought about baby giving her a pressie back. I need to pop out 1st thing cos I haven't got a 'proper pressie for baby or older brother yet:o , so should I get daughter something then and ask friend to play along.

Anniek1969

I went through this about 3 months ago with my 3yr old daughter and I was really not looking forward to it. Like you I told her that she had to give her dummies away because there were other little babies that needed them. I picked a night that she was really tired so she wouldn't put up too much of a fight and she was no bother at all. Within about 10 mins of putting her to bed she was sound asleep and has never really asked for it since. We made a big fuss of her in the morning and gave her a new book as a reward. Any time she asks for it now I just tell her that she's a big girl and doesn't need it anymore and that the babies now have all her dummies.

I think if you're visiting friends then she should be pretty exhausted by the time you get home and hopefully will go to bed without much of a fuss. A present to replace her dummy is a good idea, maybe a new teddy for her to cuddle instead and tell her that's what big girls get instead of a dummy.

It's great when you get rid of them, if yours is anything like mine she would have them all day and as soon as it came to bedtime we could never find any and would spend a frantic half hour looking for them so we could get her to bed without any fuss.

Just stay positive and think of the money you'll be saving by not having to replace them. It might be easier than you think.

Good luck, hope she doesn't give you a hard time.

purplepurple

We posted all my DS's dummies to his Nanny to give to the babies she "knows"..... he couldn't live without them when we actually had them in the house, but as soon as he posted them, he didn't mention them once!

Juicy_Tube

What a fantastic idea! I will be passing this tip on to friends.

Best of luck and tell us how you get along.

JT x

Rachie_B

we went through this back in november with our youngest who was 3yrs 7 months at the time !!! he was showing no signs of giving them up so we went cold turkey lol

i chose a night when the "dummy fairy" would come and take them away leaving a " present" for the big boy who doesnt need dummies anymore

he was ok that first night,2nd and 3rd nights were tough! but so long as you are firm & stick to it,they soon know you mean business and in actual fact i was surprised how quickly he seemed to "forget" about the dummy!

was funny a few weeks after hed given them up he found one under his brothers bed, and came down shouting and showing me,he rolled his eyes and said "mum the silly dummy fairy forgot this one " ! lmao

good luck with it

Poppy9

Good luck but watch out for the thumb!!

My DD had to give her dummy up at age 3 as she fell and pushed her front teeth back so couldn't suck it anymore. From being a child who slept 13-14 hours a night she couldn't stay asleep alnight without it. She had her front teeth removed and I thought we had broken the chain of dummy so didn't buy another one (I was a mean mummy and we only ever had 1 at a time. It was strictly for bed only, not for comfort). Anyway after about a month of her being without a dummy she started to thumb suck. It was 2 years before we broke this habit.

pdoff

ds1 swapped his on his 3rd bday for a tpy guitar (his choice). we were in for the lomng haul, videos etc to watch while he screamed & we did the controlled crying thing but 10 minutes in he was asleep! he helped cut the teats off them all so he knew there was no going back. only once he asked for one but changed his mind as soon as he knew he would have to give the guitar back. he still had bedtime bunny (since lost but didnt seem too bothered as long as has something to cuddle!)
his friend, however, began sucking his "dummy finger" instead & it's now all hard & calloused. guess he wasn't ready.
good luck & i hope it all goes well.

Spendless

Need help folks

Took DD to friends, called at shops on way bought baby an outfit, her brother a little something, and little doll for DD.

So far, fine. Got home to discover I hadn't gathered all dummies up I'd left one (that she said she didn't like-was a different shape to the others), but now she has seen this one and says she wants it.

Don't know what to do. Do the dummy fairies steal this one tomorrow when she is at nursery, do I say the baby will have to have the doll back. I could kick myself for not spotting the extra dummy:mad: