Proposals - how did you handle it?!

kindofagilr

It was totally lovely and lush when OH proposed to me.

We went to a quiet spot in the lakes where we had officially stated we were BF and GF

And OH got down on one knee and proposed, and it was the most wonderful question I said Yes of course and it was all just happy lol

jillie1974

cathy2702 wrote: »

So how did you handle the proposal, especially the quiet moment when waiting on or giving an answer? I'm even getting palpatations just typing this

i went 'ok then'
not what he was expecting at all!! but i was hungover at the time and was not expecting it. although we had chatted prev about getting married.
anyway after that damp squid response we did get married and had our first child last september

SugarSpun

Husband proposed after dinner - the first dinner I'd ever made him (I've only made two since, he's the cook and I'm the kitchen disaster). It was just us and I thought he was breaking up with me at first :rotfl:
So I just said yes, and we kissed, and then we had another glass of wine and that was that.

pie81

By the time my OH "officially" proposed we already had had so many conversations about getting engaged, being married, what we would do in the future, etc that it was a bit of a formality really. (The "official" proposal was something he wanted to do - he is more traditional than me). In fact we had even had a conversation about the fact that he would probably propose that particular weekend, so it really wasn't a surprise at all!

Even so, I also had a bit of a "shy" reaction when he did do the "official" proposal bit ... and I'm not usually shy. How did I react? I just sort of mumbled at him and went a bit pink and then finally realised I hadn't said "yes" (not that it needed saying). Then we went for a glass of wine to celebrate and told the parents and it all got rather less embarrassing from then on in.

I would say, don't worry too much about it, you both know it's coming and what the answer will be. Just answer the question - there doesn't have to be any quiet moment assuming you know what your answer will be! and look on it as an excuse for a bit of a celebration.

p-pincher

get in there first, i dot mean actually propose to him but tell him you want to get married and would like to set a date.

my oh had previously mentioned getting married quite alot but i was the same and was dreading him actually getting down on one knee in a crowded place so the next time he mentioned something about weddings i basically said i would like to get married and said i like to get married this december, he looked a little taken aback at first as he wasnt expecting it but now were in the full swing or organising a wedding x

wifeforlife

p-pincher wrote: »

get in there first, i dot mean actually propose to him but tell him you want to get married and would like to set a date.

my oh had previously mentioned getting married quite alot but i was the same and was dreading him actually getting down on one knee in a crowded place so the next time he mentioned something about weddings i basically said i would like to get married and said i like to get married this december, he looked a little taken aback at first as he wasnt expecting it but now were in the full swing or organising a wedding x

That's fab, I'm sure your enjoying the organising :T

I've mentioned a few dates, and waited to gauge a reaction but he blows it all off until he's formally asked. The irony is he doesn't want a traditional wedding, doesn't care nor want half his family or mine even to attend.

At the moment, every time a wedding or anything remotely related is mentioned (loads of family and friends got engaged at Christmas), I stress how much I don't want to get married now (but I really do) just to avoid all the fuss. Nothings ever simple

SugarSpun

Why not tell him that you like the idea of being married but not getting married, and the most romantic thing you can think of would be an impromptu elopement without friends or family or fuss?

codwidow

My OH cooked me a lovely meal and hid my ring in the fridge, we didnt have two pennies to rub together so it wasnt a posh ring, it wouldnt have mattered if it was a jelly ring or a toy one out of a cracker though to be honest. He was so embarrassed and got down on one knee, it was a special moment I will never ever forget and that was 9 years ago this year its not about how much it all costs its about what it means to you

Loopy_Girl

cathy2702 wrote: »

That's fab, I'm sure your enjoying the organising :T

I've mentioned a few dates, and waited to gauge a reaction but he blows it all off until he's formally asked. The irony is he doesn't want a traditional wedding, doesn't care nor want half his family or mine even to attend.

At the moment, every time a wedding or anything remotely related is mentioned (loads of family and friends got engaged at Christmas), I stress how much I don't want to get married now (but I really do) just to avoid all the fuss. Nothings ever simple

Jesus...you must be passing out with the stress of it all!!!:eek:

You REALLY need to tell him that you are uncomfy with the whole grand gesture thing.....think if something that wouldn't stress you out so much... I dunno, if he put it in your bowl instead of cornflakes (sorry, crap example and I don't know you to know if that would set your teeth on edge!!)...you know, something that is private between you, that isn't so much of an ocassion but he gets to do the caveman thang...it's the same with BBQ's....they think it's what we expect;) (when all I really want is a chicken kebab that isn't riddled with salmonella!!!!;):rotfl::rotfl:)

MadMac_2

OP, you know what? You're going over this so much in your head that it has blown up in to this huge issue that is scaring you to death! I know this as I was exactly the same - I just knew it was coming and so avoided going anywhere with him where I thought he might pounce.

In the end he caught me by surprise when we were in a public place, went down on one knee and then got all tongue-tied - which was good as it made me laugh and eased the pressure! I didn't say yes, I actually said something like 'you look so daft down there, let me take a photo of you' - which I did! Then said OK then, and that was that. Phew, glad that's over I thought, all that worry for a good laugh. Now it is wedding planning and that is far more frightening... how daft are we?!

If you love him, want to spend the rest of your life with him, then just let him do his bit if he feels the need. Then get back to enjoying sharing your lives. Best of luck!