Daugter was assaulted what next

rose28454

Just looking for a bot if advice. My 24 year old daughter went out to celebrate her birthday last night and went to the local club. Her boyfriend came bakcto ours about midnight and said she was with her friends and would be back later. I woke up at 2.00 and was worried because of the weather and so I called her. I rang on and off for 30 minutes and almost went ot look for her. So I called one last time and a policeman answered her phone and said she had been assaulted but she was ok and they were bringing her home. So I woke her boyfriend and the police brought her home. She was hysterical and it appeared she was beaten up by 3 girls outside the club. There had been an altercation earlier about her friend and my Daughter pushed a girl who hit her friend. My daughter was then thrown out of the club. Her friends came out soon after and then the group of girls from earlier came out and started hitting my daughter and pused her to the ground and kicked her. One of the boys in the same group also hit her around the face. Her friend called the police who came and brought her home.
They were unable to question her as she had been drinking but said they would visit the club and check cctv. The police called this morning and said she has 3 options. Either charge them with assault, have a mediation session with them or just leave it. She has bruising to her face but is ok otherwise. I am going to the police tommorow and wondered how we should proceed.
Any ideas anyone?

ManOnTheMoon

I'm sorry for your daughters predicament. If it was one of mine, albeit they are still 'children', I would get them charged with assault. It will stick with them and affect their futures and hopefully make them think again about assaulting someone, thus eventually saving some other poor girl being assaulted.

honeyD

Get them charged! People who behave like this need to know this is not acceptable behaviour! Who knows, it might not even be the first time these people have done something like this and who is to say if you let them off and they do it again but only worse to someone else? No I would definitely have them charged with assault.

hartcjhart

as above, what the hell is mediation going to solve apart from letting the yobs get away with it again and again

rose28454

I think all your answers are right. I have lost count of the number of times I have advised her not to go to that club as there is always trouble there. She told me the bouncers saw what was going on and did nothing. She also just told me that she has heard from a friend of a friend that these girls are saying they will do it to her again. I do volunteer work for the CCTV camera partnership in our time soI will go round and see if there is any footage later in the week. I think you are all right hat she should pursue it

halight

Dont let them get away with this, Thay will just just carry on doing it again and again,
I hope that your DD gets well/heals soon
All the very best. Let us all know how you get on with this

Errata

You might want to read the riot act to the boyfriend, his behaviour in leaving her in a club which seems to be well known for trouble does him no credit.

Janepig

Personally I would leave it. If she's okay other than bruising then the most they'll charge the others with is common assault, which, assuming they've got little or no previous, won't result in anything particularly major happening to them. They could even get a caution if they're willing to accept their guilt and are of previous clean character. Or it could go to trial and admittedly I haven't seen the CCTV, the Police have, but it would appear that the OP's DD was too drunk to be interviewed, therefore, how well is her evidence going to stand up in Court? I've seen plenty of CCTV's of violence outside clubs and they're all much of a muchness, pretty unsavoury and as part of the evidence will be that the OP's DD pushed someone inside the club first and was ejected then that's going to go against her.

If she was just walking past the club minding her own business and was pounced on unprovoked then I'd say go for it, take them to the cleaners, but my feeling about this is that the Court will see it as six of one, half a dozen of the other.

Jxx

PS: Just reading the OP again and seeing that the OP's DD is 24, therefore imo old enough to know better than to get into altercations about friends - that's something teenagers who can't hold their drink do.

tandraig

actually janepig you are wrong. my son was attacked by a group of girls in town and knocked unconscious. they were charged and prosecuted even though they hadnt been in trouble before. at court they were fined, had to pay him compensation and have now got a criminal record for assualt. what made it worse was that they knew him from school and in court admitted that he hadnt done anything to provoke the attack - they were just drunk and thought he looked at them the wrong way!

so if your daughter can identify her attackers and the bruises show that an assault took place (take photos if you can - the ones i took helped the prosecution) then there is no reason they cannot be prosecuted.

What was your daughters bf thinking of to leave his gf? even if she was with friends - what if it had been men attacking her - doubt if she would have escaped with a few bruises! shame on him.

System

Good luck if you decided to go ahead with getting them charged, I (and several friends) had to testify against a yob in court who (along with about 15 mates) beat the living daylights one of my best mates.

He was known in the area and despite me being over 18 i begged for special circumstances to be behind the screen as this yob had threatened us all.

The attack and the court date were 2 very traumatic experiences, and yet he got off with community service. And that was with everybody involved being sober and in broad daylight.

Lavendyr

It sounds from the OP as though the daughter was the first one to act, by pushing someone. Clearly the daughter did something bad enough within the club to get thrown out. It sounds like there might be a bit more to this story, and that although the gang's behaviour was absolutely inexcusable, your daughter may have acted badly as well to precipitate things.