depression

rose07

Happy for ya blinky too

It a New Year but doesnt feel like it, lol

rose07

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

needed that soz

feelinggood_2

I could do with one of those too!!

rose07

feelinggood wrote:

I could do with one of those too!!

go on then let it out raaaa

Miroslav

I'll reply to individual posts later, when my head is better.

Last night, we talked and agreed we would take it slowly, she said she had feelings of more than just friendship for me, but was scared.

We hugged, kissed on cheeks, slapped bums, she even had her hand on my leg whilst flatmate took a photo of us together.

Then when bedtime came and I was saying goodnight, she said we should just be friends. She said no-one had ever been as nice to her as I am and she thinks she wouldn't be good enough for me because of her mental health problems.

Today, she was so stand-offish, and didn't want to talk and now she's doubting about meeting up with me in the week

I don't know what to do I was so happy for about 5 hours.

geminilady

Miroslav wrote:

I'll reply to individual posts later, when my head is better.

Last night, we talked and agreed we would take it slowly, she said she had feelings of more than just friendship for me, but was scared.

We hugged, kissed on cheeks, slapped bums, she even had her hand on my leg whilst flatmate took a photo of us together.

Then when bedtime came and I was saying goodnight, she said we should just be friends. She said no-one had ever been as nice to her as I am and she thinks she wouldn't be good enough for me because of her mental health problems.

Today, she was so stand-offish, and didn't want to talk and now she's doubting about meeting up with me in the week

I don't know what to do I was so happy for about 5 hours.

I think "S" Is just scared,maybe she thinks if you have a "proper" relationship and it does not work out that she would loose your friendship.All you can do is reasure her that whatever happens she will not loose your friendship and that you have always been aware of her problems but still care for her.I am sure you realise that her being "stand -offish" today is her way of protecting herself.If she does not want to talk today theres not a lot you can do but wait until she does.You did not say why she is doubtful about meeting during the week but friends do meet and go places together you could tell her you would feal rejected and see how she reacts.

blinky

Miroslav wrote:

She said no-one had ever been as nice to her as I am and she thinks she wouldn't be good enough for me because of her mental health problems.

As geminilady has said 'S' is scared. However, I think the bit I've quoted from you're message says it all. She doesn't think she's good enough for you so she's trying not too get in too deep to prevent herself getting hurt.

If you want the relationship to work you need to help her build her confidence and to realise that she is good enough for you. This will take time, be patient - don't go in too strongly. There will still be times when she will feel she isn't good enough for you, when it happens give her the re-assurance she needs.

I can understand where 'S' is coming from - I have had similar worries that 'R' would find someone better, and I still have worries at times but I know that 'R' doesn't want anyone but me. :happyhear

Sorry to keep going on about my relationship but it's the best point of reference I have and it also shows that there is hope.

Sazbo

stenny wrote:

Saz you honey,
Your an asset an we all love you
Regards from all the room.

Hang in babes, you do the room wonders, ohhhh and the rest of you all big huggggzzzz

Everyone is a star in here.

:A :A :A :A :A :A

rose07 wrote:

Well said Stenny hun

Saz you are an asset, your ace hun,

your like a wonderbra without the bra bit.

really huni, your ace, and as stenny says such an asset,

i hope you are ok, as you mean alot to me

xxxx

Aww Stenny and Rosie, thank you for your kind words. You are both a vital part of our family, don't forget that. Well I made it through new year's eve. But bless your hearts for thinking of me - I appreciate it. Hoping 2007 is good to you both, and to everyone on here. Much love, Saz xxx

Sazbo

Inc0gnit0 wrote:

I deliberately didn't watch it blinky cos I knew it would set off the waterworks, lol

HaPPY new year tho hun *huggs*

and to geminilady and tralalal and sazbomb!!! and everone else xx

Thanks coggi hun, you too. Love Sazbombxx

Sazbo

Tiff wrote:

Hi Guys :wave:
To sazzy, elona, rose, inc., gilly, cc, fg, stenny, mac, gemini, blinky, bunnie, miro, ruby, betty, mrs a, flis, dora, and the rest of the family...
Tiff hugs and best wishes :lovethougfor a Happy New Year (hi 2007 - I wonder what you have in store for us this year?;) )! I hope you will all laugh more than you will cry and that 2007 will bring you more than what you hope for.

sazzy - always there with kind, clever words and a warm heart and so slow to ask for any help in return. You're an inspiration to us all. Your compassion, intelligence and your humour have seen me and many others through darker times. Don't ever think you're alone hun and don't ever be lonely. Your soul shines through your words. You have a wonderful talent for making it all seem not so impossible to be happy. There can only be good things due to you hun.xxx

I'm so very proud of you all. When the tough times hit, as they will in anyone's life, know that things will change with time and that your thread family are always here.
Above anything else, remember...you're a survivor! No-one can take that away from you.
Much Love - Always,
Tiff xxx

Bless you heart Tiff. I couldn't start 2007 without thanking you for all your unfailing kindness and support in 2006. I'm in awe of the dedication you've shown to so many of us here. This thread owes you so much. And don't forget you yourself have made such great progress, and I know that will continue. I wish 2007 is everything you wish for. Much love Tiffy sweetheart. Sazzyxxx