depression

Tiff_2

Inc0gnit0 wrote:

flippin eck!!! just gone down to the kitchen and it looks like we've been burgled!!!!!!!
the curtains are torn.. glassses broken on the floor.. dirty dishes everywhere.. !!!!!!!! :mad:

Hi incognito,
Sorry you got up to that. Were you burgled hun? Did anyone in the house maybe have too much dizzy water? I don't know hun. Have you told the police? Hoping your okay.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Inc0gnit0

Tiff wrote:

Hi incognito,
Sorry you got up to that. Were you burgled hun? Did anyone in the house maybe have too much dizzy water? I don't know hun. Have you told the police? Hoping your okay.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

lol.. noooo we weren't burgled and there wasn't any dizzy water to be had.. just lazy inconsiderate careless bastids!!!

just finished cleaning it all up and im sat here with a cuppa to relax for a bit. (_\_) is coming over to talk.. he'll be here around 8ish

Hope everyone's ok today xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Miroslav

Tiff wrote:

Hi miro!


Thanks Miro. And thanks to everyone for their lovely Christmas and birthday wishes. Extra smarties for all!:D
42! :eek: I've probably got the same number of inches around my waist and wrinkles in my skin! Tiff's get nine lives - can I start my second one now please?!


I don't think she's deliberately being ungrateful hun. Sometimes we agree to things not to offend someone but, from personal experience, when that day comes, sometimes it's too hard to face. When my agrophobia was at it's worst, I'd get into a terrible state not wanting to let anyone down and wanting to be 'normal' but not being able to do it. She's probably just trying to negotiate all she can manage health-wise hun. And as we all know here, our mental health can fluctuate rapidly. And I know that's no consolation to you angel. I know how much you were looking forward to having her over.

Hun, this is what it can be like with someone who has mental ill health. We're all at our own unique stages and maybe as I've said, this is part of her right now. Maybe she can't - even though she wants to - live up to what you'd like from her, whatever that may be. And I'm not talking about the sexual side of things either. I hope that you can enjoy the rest of the holiday hun. Thinking of you.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff!

You may start your 2nd life Just another 7 to go!!

She came over today instead, and she had a great time. I did too...after the initial being annoyed with her.......I didn't show her my annoyance though.

When she's like she was today, she is AMAZING! but she just has bad communication, and sometimes bad manners. She laughed and loved her presents, the necklace and Teddy Bear and hugged and kissed me on the cheek lots. I really think alot of her, she just inadvertently upsets me alot!

She said she wants to come over and stay on New Year's Eve too, which would be good, but we don't know if she will

My feelings are still confusing over her, I really don't know. The only thing for certain is I think the world of her and really really adore her in some way

My flatmate says she can see a hesitation between us. She thinks 'S' is wrestling with herself, as she fancies me, but is scared and at the same time really likes me as a friend, so she's just as confused as I am, but not as mentally mature, so she sees guys as guys and girls as friends, so I confuse her totally, although she really really likes me.

I personally think I don't interest her as anything more than a friend, which may be a good thing, her friendship means alot to me, albeit she never shows much interest in my life, but I love being with her I don't know why!

Oh well, I shall now go to bed and think about it and wonder what the heck my feelings mean - again!

I've not had a girl give me these feelings since I was a teenager

I hate being this confused

feelinggood_2

*sticks head around the door*

Horasio

feelinggood wrote:

*sticks head around the door*

Hi

I hope you had a good Christmas or at very least a tolerable one.

I have been away from the net since Christmas Eve, so have a lot to say - **essay warning**:D

Thankfully, the fog went away and flights were OK. Had a good trip down. We got an upgrade to our car and got a people carrier, a monster but had loads of space. It was an automatic and my husband kept putting on the brake to change gear:eek: thankfully, there was no other traffic around.

It was good to get away and seem mum and stepdad. Seem to sleep better there too or is it Bournemouth sea air? Had a nice lunch and sat around watching TV and DVDs when we got back from lunch.

We all seemed to get on well and there were no rows. My mother did limit the booze tho, as she didn't want us to get too drunk, have a hangover the next day or us end up in a row. I had a fair bit of booze but our son wanted to keep drinking. It later transpired my husband was upset at not getting more booze and later slated my mother to me about it.

She was the mother and I guess we were all the children, so more equal and gave me a break. I backed her up re discipline when she told them off, I agreed with what she said, I would have stood up for them if I agreed with them, I judge on individual merits. I constantly feel undermined by my husband re our son's discipline, so it is pot kettle black if he didn't like me not backing him up.

Two days was enough as it was quite cramped and people having to move bedrooms and not sleeping so well, which can cause friction if people are more tired. My mother is rather eccentric and I know what it is like staying with her (I would nuts if I had to live with her again!) but OK for two days.

I took her to the shops and she can be rather snappy to me in public which psses me off. But I think she enjoyed having the girly time and we had a natter.

We all set off back to the airport and had a lovely drive thro Sussex. Checked in fine, then then trouble began.

They wanted to lookin in HMV at the games, I went to Boots and said I would meet them at the Whisky Shop. There was no-one there when I got there and no-one answered their phones, so I felt panicky. Gatwick South shopping area is huge and it was busy. Of course when we met up, they got at me. My husband changed the arrangement without telling me and they were both vile to me. All I wanted was some consideration as to how I felt and an apology, as they changed the meeting arrangements without telling me.

They were adamant and didn't apologise. I didn't let it drop. We didn't make it loud or annoy others but felt very undermined by my husband. He needed to teach our son some manners but refused to. I was upset more by my son and then my husband at not supporting me. I do feel we are going to split in the new year but I am worried our son is picking up my husbands bad attitude. My mother noticed how horrible he was too without any prompting from me.

Horasio

Hi Guys

Miro - I was thinking about you whilst I was away and hoped all was OK. You do sound to have a confusing relationship but if you can iron the problems out, you should get there but it will be a long rocky road.

Tiff - I hope you had a good birthday, I hope you got loads of pressies, I didn't know it was your birthday and would hate to have my birthday at Christmas but there is a party atmosphere in the air, so I guess you can apply to it you too.

Incognito - I am sorry you felt lonely and got landed with all the work. Just visualise how it would have been had he been there, which is worse? Keep strong when you talk to him. Christmas has gone and you have to think what you want for the new year when things get back to normal.

Horasio

I will write more later. Have got a stinking cold and can't stop shivering.

I hope everyone else I didn't reply to had a good, or at least tolerable Christmas.

feelinggood_2

Hope you've gone back to bed to get some rest CCStar - feel better soon Hun xxx

There were some positives in your message, you seem to be on the ball, you know whats making you down and you know what needs to be done. I don't think there is anything that can change your husbands behaviour now, but hopefully, when your son see's that damage it can cause - when he see's that its ended your marriage, he will realise that that is not a good way to be. He is a grown up remember, I know he doesn't seem like it, but he is perfectly capable of being a grown-up. Let him make his own mess. Show him that if he makes his bed, he can lie in it.
Things sounded like they went well with your mother, was it better than expected? Do you think it was you who was different, or was she different? Your husband was totally in the wrong to slate your mother - it is her house, and while he is a guest there, he does as she says - thats just the way it is! He does seem to be very rude, and it must be so hard for you to cope with on a daily basis.
How is the atmosphere now you are home?

Feel better soon, hope we catch up later. *Hugs*

elona

CC star

Both husband and son sound very inconsiderate and selfish - sounds as if a break from them both would do you good.

Could you treat yourself to a short break at a spa or hotel and just pamper yourself for a few days?

We had a really good time this year. I had done a lot of shopping for gifts in advance and on the internet so there was not the last minute panic.
Dd helped me with some of the christmas dinner and it was nice to have company in the kitchen.

On Boxing Day we went to visit elderly relatives - usually wrap box and make hampers - no boxes and no goodies - went to only shop open - bought stuff that they would like and used Santa sacks that i bought at a Poundland years ago instead of hampers and it looked fine. We ended up going to redcar on the way home and eating fish and chips in the car overlooking the sea!!!

Inc0gnit0

CCStar wrote:

I will write more later. Have got a stinking cold and can't stop shivering.

I hope everyone else I didn't reply to had a good, or at least tolerable Christmas.

Get some rest CC... wish u better soon.. glad you had a tolerable christmas