depression

Sazbo

Well, m'dears, Sazzy's gotta crash. Sweet dreams everyone. C'yas tomorrow, xxx

EthelBloggs

evenin peeps....... gawd it's hard to get online!!!!

b/f is eithr watching me like a hawk or making excuses to use my laptop :mad:

seems like I missed everyone

sleep well and I'll hopefully catch you tomorrow xxx

Horasio

I think you have all gone now but need to write this down

I feel physically sick

I tried to talk to my husband about how I felt in a calm way

He saw it as me being nasty. He started ranting and, told me I went on and on, told me to shut up and told me to 'eff off'. He is fixed in his head that I am being nasty. He blames me for everything. He is not seeing anything he is doing that is wrong.

His ranting has churned my stomach and I have a headache. The adranaline is pumping and I am wide awake. He said he had a stomach ache and headache too but didn't give a toss about how I felt, only him sitting there feeling sorry for himself and accusing me of something imaginary.

I asked what he wanted - he said he wanted me to be nice but couldn't specify. I said I wanted to him listen to what I said and see what I say isn't being nasty.

I feel worn out and wound up inside. I didn't get angry or emotional. I feel good that I didn't but this isn't a marriage, being ranted at and being verbally abused for something I didn't do.

I have felt this for years but thought it was my hormones. I did have problems with them - on top! I had to give up work and my life, as the contrast to being with him at home was clashing with my life outside.

I want to reclaim my life now. I am 42 and hate this house, the bullying neighbours and bullying family. I am existing, posting on forums all day and watching TV to avoid spending time with my family, to escape their venom and abuse.

We are putting the place up for sale in the new year but they are doing nothing about packing. It will be January the 15th and they won't be ready, no doubt I will be blamed for it and they will stall and I will have to wait till April or never. I will end up having to leave with just my stuff, they want that, so they can squat here and make me out to be the nasty ogre.

Horasio

blinky wrote:

It's not good when your OH undermines you for discipline. Not good for your son either. I understand that will be times when you disagree on how to impose discipline but if you can compromise and keep a united front it's better for all.



NOOOO HUN - he's not worth it.
You have so much to offer. Just look at all the friends you've have here. I'm certainly glad of the help you've given me. You are a valued friend. Hang in there.

Thinking of u,

Paul
xxx

That really helps me - keeps me sane. I don't feel I am being a nasty person. I am honest.

I have to take their honesty, and I am oversensitive if I don't like it, yet I am nasty if I am. I am the bad guy whatever way round in his eyes.

He is showing himself to be a real mixed up idiot and is showing no signs of sorting himself out. He won't listen or take any advice. He has become extremely overweight, he has given up on dieting, he won't go to the doctors when something he was given didn't work. He gives up, yet accuses me of being negative. He brings me down to the point of not wanting to care. I have given him 25 years of my life and most of it has been hell.

I really appreciate your support.

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

:wave:

Well, I'm strong enough to take on her 'issues', just not strong enough to be messed around.

It is hell being messed around - not many people are strong enough to be messed around

Horasio

Sazbo wrote:

Hang in there CC, you've toughed it out for this long hun and you're within touching distance of achieving the life you've worked so hard to achieve. Stick with it x

I really feel blue. He has succeeded in bringing me right down, even if I didn't show it to him. I feel like I want to give up on it all and die. I'm not sure what to do about it.

I have enough to cope with trying to get and keep our son on the straight and narrow. What is the best course of action to cope with someone so draining? I'm trying to keep it civilised but he is an out of control idiot.

I feel so tense and nervous.

He causes trouble and blames others. I can't take his paranoia anymore

blinky

CCStar wrote:

I really feel blue. He has succeeded in bringing me right down, even if I didn't show it to him. I feel like I want to give up on it all and die. I'm not sure what to do about it.

I have enough to cope with trying to get and keep our son on the straight and narrow. What is the best course of action to cope with someone so draining? I'm trying to keep it civilised but he is an out of control idiot.

I feel so tense and nervous.

He causes trouble and blames others. I can't take his paranoia anymore

Big hugs CCStar



Not sure what to say to help. Is there anyone you could stay with for a few days?

Thinking of you

EthelBloggs

Mornin everyone Hope you all have a good day

CC.. hang in there... it's not much longer til you can go.. 6-8 weeks? *huggs* Thinkng of you

Tiff_2

Hi oakdale
Hope you're well hun.

oakdale_minx wrote:

Hi - I'm onlto week three of my prozac. I was scared when I started taking it - I thought it might affect my driving so I took it after i'd finished driving for the day! I also made a special trip to the chemist when I got a cold because I was a bit scared of taking it with paracetamol products - too much reading on the internet!
I honestly believe that sometimes a little bit of knowledge is a dangerous thing.
And, I haven't dared touch a drop of alcohol since I took the first one - there seem to be lots of tales of people having a couple of drinks and then going a bit strange!!
That's great oakey. They say NEVER take alcohol and meds. It's printed on boxes and slips etc. and yet some folks don't take the hint.

Anyway, I wanted to ask.....when my GP gave them to me he said to come back in about 4 weeks and book an end of surgery appointment for a longer chat. I've been putting off making the appointment but called the surgery today and was told he wouldn't be back until 11 December. I can't make an appointment with him until he returns.
This can happen a lot hun. Tiff Tip:rolleyes: - when you see your GP, always make your next appointment while you are in the surgery. Saves you paying for a phone call and waiting on hold for 3 months. :money: The receptionist would have been able to see he wouldn't be there and would have booked you in maybe a bit earlier. Having said that, it depends on how long he was going to be away for and there wouldn't have been much point in this situation because it was a new medication and takes a few weeks to kick in.
I only have 7 more tablets left, so I will have a gap between taking the last one and when I get an appointment, which may not be for a few days after the 11th. If I ask for a repeat prescription, will I be prescribed more? Or do you think I'll have to return to the doctor's to see someone again?
What is everyone elses situation - can you get a repeat prescription?
My advice angel would be to make an appointment with another GP there and ask them for a prescription for 2 weeks to bridge the gap until your usual GP returns. Also, go ahead and make another appointment eith usual GP. If you're not having any problems with the medication, this is probably when the dr will also put it on a repeat prescription. I doubt it will be on repeat prescription yet as it's a new drug to you and they'll want to check how it's affecting you.
Tiff Tip 2 - :money: If the gp thinks anyone will be taking a medicine for life or long term or it's very necessary to your daily health (as ads are), you may be able to get them free. Phone your chemist or gp and ask them. My meds are on repeat prescription angel - no problems. You get however many repeats & then you get to a point where you need to make another appoinment to see gp so he can check on how you are and then if they agree, they'll update your repeat prescription. Hope this hlps hun.
Much Love
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Sazbo wrote:

Nah, they all went on strike some time ago; mass walkout, can't say I blame 'em really How's you tonight blinky hun? x

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:Oh Sazzy lol
My brain cells are in a time share in Germany and they're away again as it's their two red weeks! You can never get holiday cover for them can you?:rolleyes:
Come to think of it, they seem to spend an awful lot of time over there... They're on a quest to find the Berlin Wall! Have a great day hun.
Much Love
Tiff xxx