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Good morning EE, :hello:
Glad to see you're still here..
Struck me, is there any activity or excursion DH's Mum used to enjoy which you could do in memory of her? Thinking maybe visiting a NT property, walking / picnicking in her favourite park, going to the cinema - or even bingo if that was her 'thing'?
My Mum used to like celebrating her birthday by going to a live performance; a play or music recital, so we've done that quite a few times over the years on her anniversaries. Does help with remembering the positive facets of her character rather than just our loss now that she's gone.
Thanks Robin for posting.
Unfortunately DH's mother was an alcoholic so he does not have many fond memories of her (part of the cause of his depression) but she was his mother and he loved her.
She did not do much in life except drink and smoke.
We went to the Cemetery on Sunday with some lovely flowers and DH seemed happier when we came away (although some one has borrowed/stolen her planter things so we had to squeeze all the flowers into one pot rather than 3 - DH was slightly annoyed but I told him to buy some new ones which he has done)Re DS helping to support himself at uni; my DS4 has just finished his course, and by chance last weekend the youngsters were talking about jobs which fit well around studying.. The best paying, least effort one DS4 found was being a model for life-drawing classes. It paid him a quid a minute! Sessions never went over 45 minutes, he was doing it three or four times a week in term time working for two art tutors. Often he could take a pose reading a book, so he'd be able to study at the same time! Does mean getting over being naked in front of strangers, which is probably why there isn't the same competition for life-modelling jobs as for doing things like bar work..
Anyway, just thought I'd mention it, having been on the edge of the young people's conversation about this topic a few days ago.Hope the weekend isn't too upsetting for your DH; will be thinking of you both, trying to send positive vibes..
I think the vibes worked - DH says he is feeling a lot happier today:T0 -
crazy_cat_lady wrote: »Hi EE - another mirror of our lives. It was 6 years Wednesday since DH's mam died. We don't usually do anything in particular but I always make sure that I get a bunch of flowers in on the day. I think it's just a time that we have to work through, but the change in him between Wednesday and yesterday is quite marked. At least with him selling on eBay then the finances are going the opposite way...
I've been horrific with budgeting this month - quite ashamed of myself so I'm using you as inspiration for the rest of the month.
This mirroring is starting to scare me - it's like fate has drawn us together!!!
Glad to read that your DH is feeling better since Wednesday - it's amazing how the mind works, DH is not openly upset by the dates but I think subconsciously he is.
I think as a teacher August will always be spendy for you as it's the only time you get to really let your hair down. As long as nothing goes on the credit card it's all fine (except vet bills - they are allowed on credit cards!!)0 -
As I mentioned above DH is feeling a bit happier today.
Last Thurs he mentioned his hip was aching (usually this happens when he doesn't take his milk thistle but he has been taking it so we just thought he had overdone it).
By Friday night it was full blown sciatica!!
He had this 2 years ago when he hurt his back during the event we organise and he got sciatica in his left leg - he saw an osteopath for a while and it sorted it out. This time it is in his right leg and by Tuesday he admitted he was not coping and was not sleeping so he saw the osteopath last night who has worked wonders - his back muscles were in spasm so they have sorted that out and the sciatic pain has nearly gone away. He has to go back next week for them to work on the spine to try and free the sciatic nerve.
But while he has low pain we are happy!!
DH's head is also feeling much better, it had been quite painful but since we restarted the B12 (prev prescribed by a consultant 4 years ago but earlier this year we had loads and each time DH went to get his prescription he did not order it as thought he had loads still but we didn't. I went to H&B to get some) his pain has reduced a lot and it is nearly at 0 again.
This will also help his depression as chronic pain is a huge problem for mental health.
Also started DH on Vitamin D 2 weeks ago to see if this would help - who knows? For know as long as DH is not on the verge of a breakdown I don't care too much!!
Still doing well on the budgeting, need to think about school clothes next week as have a weeks holiday.
Lots going on - pigs going to slaughter, chicks to grow on for meat to be collected, educational tour around the new local incinerator and DD wants to go to a Theme Park!!
Think I will need another week to rest!!
Hope all my readers are ok and not getting too hot and burnt!!0 -
So sorry EE to hear how tough things are for you and OH. Sending hugs and lots of love
Great to hear DS is off to uni... V pleased for him
My budget has also gone to pot over last 2-3 months but now starting afresh. It's the only way.
Enjoy the sun!
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Hugs to you XxDebts @ LBM £23,729.31. Debts @ 08/04/2016 £0 :j
Best win so far - holiday to Florida0 -
Oh EE!
Staying for DD until she is 18, is a lot of self sacrifice.
No matter when you seperate ( if you do), it will upset her. If she is 13, 18, or 26! I stayed with my children's father because of religious beliefs at first, my parents wouldn't hear of me being a single Mum. 10 years later instead of being a single mum of 1, we split up and I had 4 to deal with. By then my religion meant nothing but resentment to me, my parents had even changed their attitude and wondered why I'd put up with him so long! The eldest was mad at first, but then once he was out of the house, she realised the whole world improved for us.
She now sees him and his new family, even spends the odd weekend on caravaning with them.
I think that staying for the children is not always the best, but I admire you for doing it.
I couldn't again.
Mind you my relationship with BF over the years has been rocky to say the least, and I wonder why I carry on with no future to speak of.
Good luck with the improvements for DHs pain, and keep up the good work with the budget.
I'm watching mine like a hawk at the moment!
But all my debt is now on 0% interest since Monday. I have two years to clear it.When I die I will know that I have lived, loved, mattered and made a difference, even if in a small way.0 -
Thanks everyone for your comments - I am fine with my marriage situation.
I have a man to do DIY and who does housework plus I can use him for my own gain sometimes!!!
It's not that hard to live like this - he does try bless him and he knows he was a twit years ago and actually he is quite a nice person now.
DS has his Uni results, I think I posted before that DS flunked his first year of A-levels and was not allowed to retake as the college he goes to is oversubscribed. He then signed up for a B-tec which he has come out with a D*D*D* so top marks for a B-tec.
His Uni course is Physics but he has to do a Foundation year first so he will have 4 years at Uni.
I have been very disappointed in the past but have tried to let him make his own choices and do what he feels is best.
I acknowledge I am a control freak so it has been hard but soon he will fly the nest. Hopefully he will cope ok with Uni.
DH's head is still doing good and his headache has nearly gone - this will be the second period since last year when we paid to see a private migraine consultant and he was actually given a proper diagnosis that he has been pain free - it makes such a difference to his life (and ours).0 -
Congratulations to DS (and to you for allowing him to make his own choices).
My DH has also been rather a twit in the past. I know how you feel XxDebts @ LBM £23,729.31. Debts @ 08/04/2016 £0 :j
Best win so far - holiday to Florida0 -
Hi, sorry but had to join in ladies, also this might make you feel a little better....... my OH has also been a twit in the past and constantly carry's on being a bigger twit on an almost weekly basis :rotfl: Xx0
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It's been a busy week.................
Mon - pigs went to slaughter, would like to say it went without incident but that is not true!! DH nearly ended up with broken ribs:eek:. 6mth old male pigs will do what they like and if they don't want to get in the trailer they won't :rotfl:. With a bit of enticing and food both boys (weighing about 12stone+ - will know exact weight when we collect from butchers) walked into the trailer of their own accord so we quickly closed the gates and lifted the ramp, only problem is our biggest boy did not like this so he tried to jump through the gap between ramp and roof and sent DH flying onto the gate of their pen, he did a brilliant backflip and laid on the floor winded while I have to hold with all my strength the ramp up as we had not yet put the pins in to secure it:eek::rotfl: Luckily the pig decided to settle down and eventually DH got up very winded and with very bruised ribs, we also have one broken gate:rotfl:and we secured the ramp and put the bar across the gap.
Took them for slaughter and he refused to get out of the trailer- after much shouting and pushing he got up and wandered off to the holding pen.
Should get them back next week sometime with the bacon to follow a few weeks later.
Also collected the meat chickens on Mon - they are doing fab and are so strong, you can tell they have been bred to be fast growers. They should be ready in 15 weeks so just before Xmas - they can go in the freezer once they are ready.
DD had her friends round for a sleep over - they all arrived at 2pm and left at 10am. They got to sleep at 5.40am:eek: - luckily not too noisy although the neighbours said they could hear them but they are not too bothered by them.
Tues was a home day - we had an incident in the village, someone made a hoax call about a chemical spill cue 10 fire engines, incident lorry, 3 commanders etc all gathered outside my house trying to find said spill. The commander told us a passing lorry driver had reported a huge spill with police on site hence they mobilised all units due to safety concerns - I have to say they were all fab about it and stayed in the village for over an hour while they decided what to do before they agreed to stand down.
We emptied DH's shed all over the back garden ready for a grand tidy up - it's looks amazing now and we have loads to get rid of. Back garden still got bits in but will finish this at the weekend.
Wednesday - we did the local incinerator tour - it was very hot but interesting!! Then in the afternoon we did school shopping - cost a fortune but nearly have everything now.
Thursday - a home day, did bits and pieces inc my last ever banking for my committee which I am on but leave in a few weeks.
Friday - we went to the Theme Park. You can use Club card vouchers there but I don't shop in T3sco enough so don't have enough to convert. Booked online that morning and saved quite a bit of money against usual price. Also have used DH's disability to our advantage, they do disabled/senior/carer tickets cheaper than normal so took along DH's PIP letter and showed them this so DH got in a lot cheaper (which is good because he can only go on 4 things with his head issues) - have never done it before so felt guilty but then realised that actually it's not like he could go on much.
Just the weekend to go before we are back at work - not sure what we have planned but need to finish shed and tidying back garden and get the washing sorted.
Hope you all have a great Bank Holiday weekend:beer:0
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