Sallyx's Sink or Swim, Swimerdy Swim Diary ;)

sallyx

she is 4 KM

Keeping_Motivated

OMG a 4 year old can run further than me :eek::eek::o

She's fab

sallyx

yeah but they are all like that at 4....just want her to continue it as lately she has become bit of a lazy bones and a little squishy around the middle

LouiseJ

Any news on OH's job yet Sally? You have been on my mind today.

sallyx

well sort of Lou...obviously only got what OH told me, chap phoned about 3pm I think, wanted to know if Oh had sorted out accomodation and whether he was able to start on Monday....OH said well Im still waiting to see if SIL can put me up. Chap then said he was still waiting to see other people too. Ive told OH that unless he says yes Ive sorted accomodation, can start monday they won't offer him the job as they need that as a guarantee!

raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar
Im so annoyed but then Ive sat here thinking tonight how lonely, sad and unloved I would feel being packed off to work somewhere where I didn't know anyone, have anything and be all on my own. I know its his own doing, he made the choice to cheat, he applied for the job, he's been the one saying he just wants a job, but there is a bit of me that just feels very very sad for him.

Shoe_Gal

I understand how you feel, but don't let it cloud your judgement. Like you said he chose to cheat - and all the consequences that brought. If he takes the job it doesn't have to be forever, he can still look for something back nearer to B. I always think it's easier to get a job when you've already got one - the employability thing I suppose

Take care of you :A

LouiseJ

sallyx wrote: »

well sort of Lou...obviously only got what OH told me, chap phoned about 3pm I think, wanted to know if Oh had sorted out accomodation and whether he was able to start on Monday....OH said well Im still waiting to see if SIL can put me up. Chap then said he was still waiting to see other people too. Ive told OH that unless he says yes Ive sorted accomodation, can start monday they won't offer him the job as they need that as a guarantee!

raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar
Im so annoyed but then Ive sat here thinking tonight how lonely, sad and unloved I would feel being packed off to work somewhere where I didn't know anyone, have anything and be all on my own. I know its his own doing, he made the choice to cheat, he applied for the job, he's been the one saying he just wants a job, but there is a bit of me that just feels very very sad for him.

Sally, its totally understandable for you to feel sad for him, you are a good person.

Big hugs my friend.

sallyx

And on that sad note I shall love you and leave you for today

Snaggles

I agree Sal, if you felt nothing, you wouldn't be the lovely person you are.

When I ended my marriage, Stu really dragged his feet over moving his stuff out, finding somewhere to rent, signing a contract...I had to force him every step of the way and it felt horrible. But I still think it was less painful to just do it, rather then edging him out slowly, dragging it on for weeks and months on end.

I know I really hurt him but I tried to minimise the time I continued to hurt him for, which seemed like the least cruel way to do it.

He will be okay, he will have a job, a place to live, regular visits to his daughter, he will make new friends, he can chat to whoever he wants online...it will be hard for both of you at times no doubt, but you will both adapt.

:grouphug:

Shoe_Gal

Always some sadness when a marriage ends (we loved them once!) but that's not enough reason to stay when it's over